I can make fire, use tools, hunt meat.
What I’m doing with my life
Exploring DC and building a new community. I'm up-and-down from CT
a lot these days visiting family and helping out with some stuff up
Figuring out how to make crust in time to bake a strawberry-rhubarb
pie while it's in season is my current mission in life.
I’m really good at
finding great used books and records, making Tres Leches, having
unusual experiences, Trivial Pursuit, finding out what I have in
common with someone, making people laugh, singing in the car,
keeping old friends, dancing to "Roller Coaster of Love," road
trips, getting around on foot, making friends with your dog.
The first things people usually notice about me
My chiseled features and bad-boy attitude
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read A TON. I love short fiction: Peter Taylor, William Maxwell,
Andre Dubus, Elizabeth Spencer, Stuart Dybek, John Updike. "Momento
Mori" by Muriel Spark is my favorite novel that I've read recently.
The NYRB Classics series is amazing, especially: "Herself
Surprised," by Joyce Cary; "A Game of Hide and Seek," by Elizabeth
Taylor; and "The Go-Between," by L.P. Hartley. Tolstoy and Henry
James for classics. P.G. Wodehouse, Ross MacDonald, and John McPhee
Music: funk, soul, R&B, and disco. Donny Hathaway, Chic, The
Mary Jane Girls. Had a monthly DJ gig in the Mission for years,
and--many years ago--was a house music-listening club kid. Have a
special soft spots for mid-60s pop ("Bend Me, Shape Me," "Carrie
Anne," "Windy"), and for 80s freestyle ("Point of No Return," "I
Can't Wait," "I Didn't Mean to Turn You On"). Bill Frisell is the
coolest musician alive in America right now.
Food: I like breakfast for dinner, Korean BBQ, pie (vs. cake),
green curry, baba ganoush, nectarines, and things you would find in
a Jewish deli.
TV: I'm a "Columbo" freak. Is anything on TV these days actually
better than Columbo? I love the way he circles his prey, and the
queasy look the perps get on their faces when they realize he's
I like baseball. Wanted to play 3rd base for the White Sox when I
was a kid.
The six things I could never do without
People to love, gratitude, a way to be useful, hope, reading, music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why men in DC dress like Easter eggs.
Side note: Unless a man is an overweight criminal defense lawyer
from Louisiana with country ways that belie a skewering intellect,
he shouldn't wear a seersucker suit.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at Trio's with a big group of guy friends, having laughs
and talking too loudly about things that are inappropriate. They
are great, but I'd happily throw them over for a special lady. They
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think it's possible to be too goal-oriented. I don't want to
always treat my life like it's in need of fixing, or to continually
miss out on what is actually going on around me right now because
I'm focused on something else I've assumed is better. This is after
being highly goal-oriented my entire life.
You should message me if
You are nice, cute, and fun. You don't take money from your
parents. If anyone has ever told you that you're down-to-earth.
Maybe you can sing? You like to be in a room with someone else
while each of you reads a book. You like coffee, pie, and the taste
sensation when maple syrup collides with ham.