former addict (I hope) to OKC questions, so see my personality awards first. they describe me very accurately. wish there would be an option to print them on a t-shirt with the "text code" on the back. now that I've mentioned it, maybe they will start selling those. :)

well, no fooling around, I am a self absorbed perfectionist. of course I am self absorbed, I am single! noone else to take care for. :)

I am also social, energetic, tolerant, babbling, exceeding, sophisticated, demanding and tyring. I am good at leaving things behind and have no regrets. Either life has been very sweet to me or I have this strange brain condition that turns everything into a glass half full.

other stuff you'll have to bare with me: I talk too much and I am a bad listener (trying to improve now). I am arrogant and critical. In fact, why read this any further? Ah, right, you've seen the photos and want to keep on ignoring the fact we are 20 % match, 3 % friends and 63 % enemies. I get a lot of emails from this group of people, always puzzled by their motives. But maybe they've seen my photos and maybe I am acceptable, having all 4 limbs, no excess body weight and some hair on my head. Just to warn you: I do have hair elsewhere as well, but make efforts to make it culturally acceptable according to some gender standards.

For those trully interested, there is more of me than the above, so let's move on.

I can devote my time to friendship or relationship, know how to be supportive, understanding and I am never judgmental. In case we disagree, I tend to be curious, but not aggressively persuasive. I want to learn about "the other perspective". I am empathic and trustworthy, but also strong and independent. I am not submissive. I think empathy is very important as the means of understanding others. I am tolerant, committed and optimistic when things turn bad (I will make you laugh, promise). I am supportive and care about your problems.

I am currently deciding where on the world I should move and what I should do. there are several options and my profession enables me certain flexibility. actually, A LOT of flexibility. the world is my oyster.

I am a researcher and enjoy my work. lately, not much time has been left for private life (mostly shortened weekends), which has threatened to make me a dull girl. I have to be a bit focused at work, which has also affected my late night social life attendance.

I would like to settle down with the right person: someone I can have open discussion with, is not unable to express themselves, their wishes or emotions, is ready for commitment, happy with themselves and their work, does not feel insecure, is tolerant to other people regardless of their differences, is ready to make some compromises and can offer some support, compassion and respect to their significant other. This person is not fooled by the routines of every day life and can always take a moment to appreciate the laziness of staying late Sunday morning in bed, snatching pieces of food from the fridge as needed or on some other weekends conquering the top of the hill or joining me in exploring other cities. Ideally, we can share some outdoor activities (nothing too extreme, but I can push my limits as well). Initiatives for activities should be exchanged on regular basis. TV is not something I would like to own.

If you are looking for the perfect love and a perfect match you've waited for your entire life, go look for it elsewhere. I cannot fulfill unrealistic expectations, nor tend to have some of my own. I am happy with modest things in life and myself.

I am fully willing to be on my own as well. It is not too bad. Yet, I believe this is just not the way we get mature. Having others around (speaking of intruders of your intimate space) provides an interesting reflection, mirroring and pushes you towards change. That's a nice challenge.

salsa, hiking, orienteering (no, really), squeezing a driver of a motorcycle with my thighs in the curves. I am no good at sailing yet, but I like it. I am good at public appearances, giving lectures and job interviews. I am convincing and charsimatic, but rarely eager enough to use it on others. I am good at exchanging the two extremes: energetic with passive, hard working with hedonistic.

are my new glasses. they have split sides. wowa wiwa!

Books: Maus I & II, Faithless, Five hours with Mario (Delibes), Blindness (Saramago), Neuromant, Herztier (Muller), Brief History of Time, Natalie Nothomb, Vernon God Lilttle (DBC Pierre), all Adams, Defying Hitler, Canetti, Houellebecq, Bukowski, The Mule's Foal, Dreaming of Palestine (Ghazy), Bernhard, Calvin and Hobbes and some other stuff (like I collect Balzac)

Movies: Zellig. Citizen Kane. The Man With A Camera. Atanarjuat, The Fast Runner. Brazil. Blade Runner. Kieslowski's trilogy. Mike Leigh (ok, not all the time, it might be depressing). Dogma (with some exceptions). An absolute favorite: Hable con ella (and add most of the Almodovar's stuff). The Pervert's Guide To Cinema, Pulp Fiction. Taxi Driver. Once Upon a Time in the West. Godfather. Goodfellas (i am just very into gangsta). The Collateral. Kandahar. Takeshi Kitano movies. Matrix. Istvan Szabo. Bus 174. Ratatouille. Ten Canoes. can take A LOT of arty-farty, but not indefinitely.

Some people added series as well. Well I am a devoted fan of Dexter.

Music: jazz, reggaeton, lounge, hip hop

Food: if we share sushi in the evening, I serve non-sushi breakfast in bed in the morning. I am a lousy cook, but willing to learn or willing to do the dishes.

I could do without things. Things are just things. You can always get new.

Perhaps it would be difficult to give up on the art (in its many forms), some form of sports, writing and reading. Actually, sports is a must. Or some nice challenges at work. Or capability of sharing some laughs. Gender equality is also of great importance to me. Please don't contact me if you don't agree. I have to say I cannot do without monogamy either (if I am in a relationship, that is).

Cat food. You can tell I am shallow, right?

sometimes too lazy to go out, cuddling myself with some movies at home; on some other Fridays I'd throw a party (the more people, the better); on some other Fridays I'd go dancing. I don't go to bars on Fridays sitting there waiting to be noticed or discovered. Most of the Fridays I am probably freaking out because I haven't made any active plans for the weekend yet and I wish I had.

I miss shopping in men's departments. What size are you? It is hell not to be able to give occasional surprise gifts or book weekend escapes for two.

1. you think we can take some time online for emails exchange (but not months or years without meeting) or if you want an activity partner. the activities include hiking, dancing, wine tasting, jogging, cycling, talking, chatting and emailing on the web etc. I am willing to travel to share activities as well. also message me if you are a better researcher than I am, I am interested in how you manage.

2. by all means message me if you conquered "more compassionate" (the almighty nurse) award. this one is number one favorite of mine. if you have it, I am already melting. other awards I like: less aggressive, more giving, more literary.

3. if you invested significant amount of time and energy trying to match me.

http://www.okcupid.com/matchme?u=anaiiis

PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT ME if you have a fractious temper. There are things I cannot tolerate as well and I am talking from experience. I have both intellectual and emotional reasons for not being tolerant to this.
NOTE: I tend to connect fractious temper with the doggie award ("more aggressive") - that's probably just my prejudices, but I am not likely to be very happy if you have one. Please, be honest in judging yourself, otherwise we'll be loosing our time writing to each other until your next outburst. This is not a small issue for me and I am not willing to negotiate on it.

UPDATE on doggie (more aggressive) behaviour: Please, DO NOT (I can't stress this enough, it is very important to me) contact me if you sometimes lash on people and feel entitled to do so for whatever reason. I strongly believe expressing anger should be done differently and that it is our personal choice what we do when we are angry. Choosing to express anger in a controlled way is always expected of you if you want to be intimate with me. If you're now puzzled, a nice little overview of healthy expressing anger is given in a Richo's book How to be an adult, page 38.