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32 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Nov 15, 2013
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and very serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Trans (FTM). Queer (why can you only say bisexual?). Anarchist and radical queer/anti-prison activist.

I have a lot of Masters degrees: one in religion and one in library science. I want another Masters in Comparative Media Studies from MIT, but that is too many Masters degrees. So I will one day apply for a PhD in... something? The current goal is religion in video games, but it is probably subject to change.

I'm a writer of plays, fictions, book reviews, and I'm in the second-pass early stages of sketching out a piece of interactive fiction because the first time I just started coding and it fell apart. Also working on a novel about bestiality (in part) and a radical queer tabletop roleplaying game and a play about spiritualism in the 1870s that's really about why I hate gay marriage. (In reality I'm thinking about how I wish I were working on all these things, but mostly I'm busy writing things for money.)

I play an odd variety of instruments adequately, often with my activist marching band.

I'm partially-unconsciously committed to being hilarious at all times because I failed high school math and thought it was better to be the funny kid than the dumb kid. (Incidentally I have a job writing math questions now, so I've learned that all that failure meant nothing.)

Haven't had a kink/bdsm relationship in a while but would like to. mostly a "bottom" these days, it seems. pup but still out about what it means to have a Person; I'm kind of an anarchist that way, I suppose. But these days I'm looking a lot to do more SM and more pup stuff, if that's something you're into. I'm pretty settled in my own general pup self, but wouldn't be against exploring it with other people. (As this is not Recon, perhaps that doesn't make sense?)

I'm not one religion but I'm into spirituality. Post-Buddhist pre-Catholic, I enjoy to say, though maybe I just want to be Dorothy Day. (Should have made that decision before I became a boy, maybe.) I think about G-d a lot, even if I'm not sure I believe in it. You don't have to be religious, but hardcore rampant "what is wrong with religious people?!" atheists bum me out a little. I got this expensive Ivy League Masters in this. Humor me!

Also I have no sense of smell. I think this is quirky and great!
What I’m doing with my life
Editing things most of the damn time. Working my way through all of "In Search of Lost Time" and being consistently awed that everyone isn't required to do the same. Trying to learn card tricks. Having nightmares about editing things.
I’m really good at
writing, betting on horses and dogs (wacky, right?), planning surprises, reading, drinking coffee. smoking cigarettes. cataloging. being nice. being funny. being too radical for other people, but not until it's suddenly awkward to extricate myself from the conversation. Sprawling, even though I'm quite short. Swearing.
The first things people usually notice about me
My tattoos. Or how short I am. Or how young I look. When someone comments on those last two qualities, I often casually reply "Oh, yeah, because I used to be a girl," and then wonder if it was rude when they seem confused about what to say. (Also, please don't say "I never would have known." I have no idea what to do with that one.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books and authors: Eureka Street by Robert McLiam Wilson, Proust, Tim Miller, This is the Salivation Army, Dorothy Day, House of Leaves, Oscar and Lucinda, Sarah Kane, Tony Kushner, Dennis Cooper, Dykes to Watch Out For because it reminds me of my past (Girl me worked at a lesbian separatist feminist restaurant and bookstore), anything published out of the MIT press.

TV: Mad Men, 30 Rock, Dr Who (I have a tattoo of the TARDIS), Farscape, The Simpsons, Daria (I have the DVDs! Yay!), Home Movies (best cartoon of all time!). I am currently obsessed with Derren Brown and spend most of my youtube time watching videos of him and thinking how glad I am to be alive in a world where people know how to do bizarre things like he does.

Music: Jawbreaker, Billy Bragg, The Pogues. And Sondheim.
The six things I could never do without
Reading. Relatedly: my glasses. Several pens. Coffee. Black hoodies. Thai food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Degrees I should get. Things I should learn. Things I want to be writing. BDSM. Every six months I desperately want to join the Jesuits, and I plan the little speech I would bring to the Province office about why they totally want a non-Catholic queer transexual in their ranks. Lately I'm perversely fascinated by NLP. Polar exploration. Spirit medium and seance techniques from the 1800s, which often involves reading old books debunking them and trying to figure out how I could recreate them on stage in a way that will still be interesting to modern audiences.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately I'm doing the work I didn't get to during the week. If not, I'm playing video games, writing, playing music, and/or reading. I've been going to a lot of gay bars lately and enjoying the confused look on cis-men's faces when I am unabashedly unashamed about being trans (I out myself somewhat compulsively. "I used to be a girl" is a surprisingly topical statement in gay bars.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um... I'm scared of Muppets. Seriously. I know they're like cool now, but they will come to life and eat you in your sleep. They will.

Also I'm scared of revolving doors, but I try to play it off.

This isn't private but I suppose fits here: I hate to dance. I am happy to watch you dance, but please don't make me dance. Please.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 27–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to read Proust with me. You want to teach me ASL, how to code, how to play barre chords, how to sing, or how to do card tricks. You want to tell me I'm a good dog. You live in some mythical world where there exists radical queers who are trans-friendly and like video games and BDSM and musical theatre and don't want to make me go dancing.

Primarily into cis-boys. Haven't dated another transguy but would if you could bear with me. Butch-ish/androgynous women turn me into a shy stammering mess and I will probably run across the room and hide from you and then tell all my friends how you and I should get married someday (for the record: anti marriage. Don't worry.) Not so much into super-femme ladies. I feel like a jerk for saying it, but I keep getting nice messages from nice femmes and I just don't know how to answer.