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33 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 23
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Trans (FTM). Queer. Anarchist, which mostly means I want to think people are pretty OK and want to be nice to each other given the chance. Writer, activist, and gamer.

I'm an editor and a writer of plays, fiction, standardized test questions, book reviews, and anything else people will pay me for. I'm currently working on a novel that is basically about trans stuff, video games, and Jesus. I've done some games writing and would like to do more, and am trying, and largely failing, to learn to make games myself. I am always down for talking about stealth games, and queers in games, and how to tell interactive stories and if we should bother with narrative in games at all, and the general future of a medium I love a whole bunch but which is probably ultimately terrible, especially lately.

I play an odd variety of instruments adequately, namely the cello, guitar, and sax. Always looking for folks who want to get drunk and play guitar with me.

I'm into BDSM, and am generally a bottom but have been a bit toppy lately, which is pretty cool. I'm a pup, which mostly means I would be excited to go with you places and be enthusiastic about things and fetch stuff for you if you told me how helpful I was being when it was over. Not a requirement, though.

I'm not one religion but I'm into spirituality. Post-Buddhist pre-Catholic, I enjoy to say, though maybe I just want to be Dorothy Day. I think about G-d a lot, even if I'm not sure I believe in it. You don't have to be religious, but hardcore rampant "what is wrong with religious people?!" atheists bum me out a little. I got this expensive Ivy League Masters in this. Humor me!

Also I have no sense of smell. You will have to smell things for me. Maybe you would find that fun. You could smell bad and I won't know. Maybe you would find that convenient.
What I’m doing with my life
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Editing things most of the damn time, and trying to write my own stuff when I'm not. Working my way through all of "In Search of Lost Time" and being consistently awed that everyone isn't required to do the same. Trying to learn to code.
I’m really good at
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writing, betting on horses and dogs (wacky, right?), planning surprises, reading, drinking coffee. being nice (it's really important to me to be nice. I am kind of over this "being snarky and sarcastic is totally awesome" thing.) being funny. Sprawling, even though I'm really short.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My tattoos. Or how short I am. Or how young I look. Or that I am being pretty excited and enthusiastic about something.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books and authors: Eureka Street by Robert McLiam Wilson, Proust, Tim Miller, This is the Salivation Army, Dorothy Day, House of Leaves, Oscar and Lucinda, Sarah Kane, Tony Kushner, Dennis Cooper, Dykes to Watch Out For because it reminds me of my past (Girl me worked at a lesbian separatist feminist restaurant and bookstore), anything published out of the MIT press.

TV: Mad Men, 30 Rock, Dr Who (I have a tattoo of the TARDIS but am actually thinking of covering it up), Farscape, The Simpsons, Bob's Burgers, Daria (I have the DVDs and you should probably come watch them), Home Movies, Breaking Bad. I am currently obsessed with Derren Brown and spend most of my youtube time watching videos of him and thinking how glad I am to be alive in a world where people know how to do bizarre things like he does.

Music: Jawbreaker, Billy Bragg, The Pogues, The Weakerthans, musical theater.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Reading. Relatedly: my glasses. Several pens. Coffee. Black hoodies. Good whiskey.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Degrees I should get. Things I should learn. Things I want to be writing and making. Game mechanics. User interfaces. Information. The nature of trust and friendship. Whether or not I believe in G-d and whether or not it matters. Meaning-making.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I'm doing the work I didn't get to during the week. If not, I'm gaming, writing, playing music, and/or reading. Possibly watching PBS Idea Channel videos I've seen 100 times before. I want to marry and/or be the dude from that show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Um... I'm scared of Muppets. Seriously. I know they're like cool now, but they will come to life and eat you in your sleep. They will.

Also I'm scared of revolving doors, but I try to play it off.

This isn't private but I suppose fits here: I hate to dance. I am happy to watch you dance, but please don't make me dance. Please.
You should message me if
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You want to talk about games, or fiction, or religion. You don't define yourself as sarcastic or snide or too cool. You want to do leather stuff, or not. You're a feminist.

Primarily into cis-boys but not exclusively. Haven't dated another transguy but would if you could bear with how bizarre that is. Recently dated a trans girl for the first time and am wondering more about who I am in relationships with ladies. Have slept with a few cis girls but haven't dated any. I don't know. Surprise me?