I’m an Odd Mix to Match
Or so it seems. And amidst all usual types of dating profiles this is going to seem a bit serious. So be it. I want a life mate (or maybe 2, though highly unlikely). I am equally open to a woman or a man as a life mate if we are really a fit for each other. I often date people 10 years younger, but only a couple of years older, usually.
Feedback requested that I put the deal breakers at the top, so here they are: I am not interested in FWB, playing around or "exploring." I did that in my 20's and early 30's. It's fine if that's where you are. Everyone should get to do that, even if it's in your mid-50's after 30 years of marriage. That just would not be compatible with me. I am basically monogamous and wanting a dating relationship that has long-term potential.
I've also been asked to move this to the top to save you some time: Note that dogs and children living with you are deal breakers. So is any obsession with sports. By obsession, well, I am pretty much not interested in anyone who has to have a TV on in the house to watch any sports at any time. If you want to go play outside, that's fine. :) I would if I could, but I am unable to join the physical outside games, thank you.
In addition I will NOT reply to messages that are just "Hi, how are you?" or "Whazzup?" I am seeking someone very verbal, so please demonstrate that in your message.
I tend to date other straight A students. I am a Morning Person (tm).
We may be a fit if you are into:
Connection - this is the most important thing and there are no words to describe it. I'll try anyway. It is a sense of oneness with yourself, and therefore with "others." Some people call it spiritual, but I don't think there is such a thing as a "spirit" to have a "ual." :) It may be felt in meditation, sex, play, nature, music, alone or with others. It is essentially the same as sub-space or a meditative state. You know if you've been there, and you know if you know how to be there anytime you wish.
Conversation/Communication - the way to my body is through my mind and any partner of mine needs to thrive on a significant volume of in-person, phone, text and email communication. Words are my first Love Language. I prefer intelligence, mostly straight A students, though some intelligent people didn't like school, and they count, too.
Openness/Fearlessness - if privacy is a huge issue for you, move along, I am not the one you want. If, however, you are so comfortable with yourself, your life, your choices, that almost anyone can say or repeat or share almost anything you've ever said or done, welcome. I don't mean that you would walk up to someone's vanilla employer and out them. What I do mean is that you would think of yourself as mostly an open book. I'm an ENFP/J on the Meyers-Briggs profile
Truth is a piece of all of the above, as well. I mean truth in a pretty deep sense. Go read the "Universal Beliefs" download at Byron Katie's site, to see what I mean. Not one of those "universal beliefs" is true. There are videos and other stuff there that may give you a sense of what I'm talking about.
Here is a smattering of the types of things I enjoy. If you are into these things, you might be into me:
Science fiction - my favorites include Robert A. Heinlein, Spider Robinson, Jim Butcher, Orson Scott Card, Star Trek, Star Wars, Dune, Lord of the Rings and my top favorite of all time is still Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams, long may he live.
Things Medieval or Renaissance - I don't go to the fairs because I don't much enjoy lots of people doing lots of different things in a large group setting, but I've had people take one look at me and know that I at least knew what SCA was. Although I've never been a member, I have very much enjoyed some of their ... err... members.
School - yes, that's right s - c - h - o - o- l. This is the group setting I love the most. Student or teacher, either way. And here, I don't care how big the group is. They are all focused on the same thing and somehow I am far more comfortable with this than with faires and cons. I am working on a doctorate in education. I count off for poor spelling and poor grammar, though I make allowances for typos and British spellings and acronyms. (I am a group elsewhere called People for the Ethical Treatment of Pronouns. It's a hoot. )
Healthy Food and other generally healthy practices. Paleo diet is not among the choices. I chose "Mostly vegetarian" some time ago and I've left it up because it still pretty much fits, although I find that in an effort to avoid grains and potato-based foods, I am snacking on meats more than I ever have before.
My definition of food is anything that I can pick up and eat where it grew. Yes, I eat fish, sometimes meat, and bacon is a category on its own, but mostly I love salads.
I'm Boulder Granola boys & girls. Love it or leave it. I'm a child of the 60's and 70's and still kind of a hippie at heart. I am less mainstream even than people who are used to thinking they are not very mainstream. I don't watch TV. I don't read or listen to news. I don't believe a lot of the cultural myths that even intelligent people haven't thought to question.
Singing - I enjoy dating geeks who play guitar so I can sing with them. Jethro Tull, Moody Blues, Joni Mitchell, etc.
Movies - Contact, Dangerous Beauty, Secretary, Harry Potter, Princess Bride.
Thank you for reading this far. Maybe there is a fit here somewhere.