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41 Costa Mesa, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Hi there, I'm Andy. And this is my nightmare...

Yours too? Isn't it pathetic that it's so hard to meet someone that shares a perspective with you? Where do you meet people when you're not into drinking, wading through hipsters at coffee shops, or met with repulsion when you try to watch them through their bedroom window (I'm working on that bedroom window thing).

I think I'm a good catch for someone. I've been in serious relationships before, have my own place, have a good career, am not totally socially inept, have a really good sense of humor, a great imagination, and a caring disposition.

Around the house, I like reading, listening to music, playing the guitar, cooking, watching a few select shows or ridiculous movies (I've got a thing for zombies especially), and playing games. But, I also like getting out and walking places, hiking, bike riding, weekend trips (especially the mountains), going to plays, and visiting a museum. It would be nice to share those things with someone. And, I'd LOVE to meet someone that's into gardening--that's something I'd like to begin doing, but I don't have a clue where to start.

I get along well with all kinds of people, but I gravitate more towards introspective, compassionate, intelligent, and creative girls. Readers are great, offbeat interests, contemplative minds... Someone with an interesting point of view or interest. Maybe introverted? Prefer small groups of really close friends to larger groups. Hopefully you like music as much as I do and can get a kick out of the absurd. I don't really enjoy being around heavy drinkers/party girls and sorry, just not attracted to tattoos or heavy make up. Though I'm very respectful of religion, I tend to view religions very metaphorically. I value the questions, but I distrust the answers. :)

I love animals and have a dog. The plan was to get a cat too, but that's on hold until the dog can be reasoned with.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m a librarian/IT monkey. It's actually a really fun job and I work with a lot of interesting, intelligent, and cool people. We have a lot more fun than you'd think in a library. I've got stories...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring things out. Being helpful... I tend to look out for people. I've also got a great imagination and I think that gives me a unique, creative way of seeing the world. I'm also very caring and tend to put the needs of others before myself (sometimes to my detriment)
The first things people usually notice about me
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People compliment my smile and warmth. I strive to be very authentic and genuine, so I'm glad it shows.

Old ladies love my curly hair... why not the cute younger girls...? :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books… I recently participated in a graphic novel reading club--not my usual thing, but I found a lot I liked (Hellboy, Fables, Watchmen). I sometimes read old horror (Lovecraft, Poe), some fantasy (Tolkien and the like), and also literature and poetry (Yeats and Eliot are favorites). Some other favorites are White Noise by Don Delillo, Green Man by Kingsley Amis, and Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins.

Movies… I enjoy things with a supernatural twist. And, I’ve got more zombie movies than you’d even believe. It’s kind of an obsession. Absurd movies are fun too (think 80s). I also like grown up movies like Bergman’s The Seventh Seal, anything by Kurasawa, and Joseph Campbell documentaries (mythology).

Television... Old stuff mostly. A favorite is The Twilight Zone. Watched/got upset by Lost, Walking Dead (but I get annoyed!), and I have to admit I liked Ghost Whisperer. Otherwise, it's probably old Simpsons, Futurama, Family Guy, or stupid sitcoms from the past. :) Also been through a big British TV show phase: Spaced, Black Books, Big Train, Nighty Night, and the IT Crowd. Also recently found Portlandia and love it.

Music… I love music and have a big collection. I've been listening to a ton of Radiohead lately. I like progressive rock bands from the 70's (Yes, Pink Floyd, King Crimson, Rush), but I love all sorts of stuff and try to get out to buy new music a couple times a month. Lately, I've discovered An Horse, Goldfrapp, Kaki King, Tegan and Sara, She and Him, Muse, MGMT, Air, and some others. Some other favorites are The Beatles, Led Zeppelin, David Bowie, Queen, The Flaming Lips, XTC, Tom Waits, Neil Young, Donovan, Pentangle, Nick Drake, Tim Buckley, Michael Hedges and so many more... I play a little guitar and tend to really get interested in novel or unique guitar players.

Food… I was vegetarian for about 6 years, but I'm eating meat again. I think tacos are my favorite food... I um... once had this contest to see how many days I could eat them and I lasted 32! Also like ramen, Indian, Thai... lots of stuff. New food can be fun, but no seafood please! Love sour candy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love
2. Music
3. Friends
4. Imagination
5. Humor
6. I know I'll have to one day... but for now... Vin Scully
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The zombie apocalypse. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wondering where you are.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A large portion of my brain is reserved for commercial jingles from the 1980's and 90's. It's pretty sad.
You should message me if
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You're your own person and not a clone.
If there's something we seem to have in common that you have a passion or interest in. Even if it doesn't lead to a relationship, I value friendship too!