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32 Oakland, CA Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 26-38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:15pm
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and laughing about it
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Hi. I'm Cassidy.

One of my best friends and I shared our first kiss in fifth grade, in a Tulsa Embassy Suites bathroom. We had just come out of the swimming pool and tasted like popsicles. Prior to the kiss, she had consulted with her council of ladyfriends and I individually consulted with a few trusted manfriend advisors. Now, as you and I consult this amorphous Okcupid Beast, I am wondering: where are the Popsicles and Swimming?!

Taurus side of the Taurus/Genimini cusp Sun, Virgo Moon, Cancer Rising; INFP; yin water pig.

For transparency's sake: I've mostly dated AFAB folks and I'm mostly attracted to femme or androgynous female or genderqueer identified folks. I haven't dated anyone monogamously for several years. I am open to meeting folks for non-dating friendships, but I'm mostly on here looking for people to date--this is a dating site after all....

I have Good Crazy dreams of living in a fabulous, mutually supportive system of friends, lovers, partners, allies and collaborators that breathes and grows with its members. Maybe on an urban-ish farm/arts studio. Yum.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as an elder caregiver and study expressive arts therapy. I'm creating a career as a therapist, especially for elders with dementia. I practice witchcraft, guitar, singing and improv theatre.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
washing dishes, karaoke, public transportation, kissing ;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
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perhaps my long hair or occasional Okie vernacular, such as "whipper jawed." This word came out of my mouth recently and it really was the best word for the situation. It was like a weird little ghost had crawled out of my Southern/Midwest roots to say hi. And this little ghost, well she looked like my great grandma Ava.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"If space is love, Professor, then is love space? Or is love something we use to fill space? If time eats the donut, does love eat the hole?" -Tom Robbins

"The idea of art as self expression is historically weird." -Keith Johnstone

"Look, you come here every week / With jigsaw pieces of your past / it's all on little soundbites and voices out of photographs / And that's all yours, that's the guide, that's the map / So tell me, where does the arrow point to? Who invented roses?" -Dar Williams

Since Spring 2015, I've been getting into carnitas burritos after years of being vegetarian. Not sure how long this meat eating will last....
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Time and space for: guitar, biking, tarot, masturbation, theatre in various forms, and sugary treats
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why and how does the passage of time effect us differently depending on how long we've been around? (taking this question in academic, artistic, theological, or philosophical directions).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
breathing in booksmell in between bites of ice cream
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I plan to cover up my culturally appropriative tattoo with something amazing...probably something tarot related, which I find funny because all tarot is saturated in cultural appropriation.
You should message me if
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You want to play Ladies Against Humanity, Telestrations, or Fiasco.

You want to talk about this question.