A loving, intellectual, responsible, experienced dominant gentleman (sexually & romantically) seeking an intelligent, imaginative, charming, talented, graceful, lovely, submissive gal, for a long-term, monogamous, kinky relationship. (What a mouthful, apologies!)

Feel free to initiate a conversation! If I can't tell from your profile or Kinky score that you'd be interested, I'd hesitate to write you.

I'm 6'1, trim, fit, anglo, and handsome (sea-gray eyes & short brown hair). I'm young for my age, in appearance and energy. You'll have to take my word for it at the moment... I promise you better pics if we hit it off in email!

A relationship in which the partners have agreed to dominant and submissive roles allows a very deep intimacy -- a merging of the two. It's not for everyone, certainly -- most men wouldn't shoulder the responsibility, and most women wouldn't surrender their autonomy (or vice versa). But a surprising number of people fantasize about this style of relationship, and if you can't get that vision out of your mind's eye, it may be that you are naturally suited to this romantic dynamic.

I'm a devoted partner; I seek to know my girl inside and out; to guide her towards her own greatest good, as well as into a deep, intense bond with me. Though I reserve the final say in a romance, I never exercise it for its own sake -- discussion is always crucial.

I'm pretty into kink, and I wish OKC would tag me as such! :-)

I'm also deeply into cracking each other up with funny voices, foreign characters, silly walks & gestures, and other delightful tomfoolery.

I'm an East Coast native, born in Manhattan and most fond of Boston. I'm not really at home out here on the Left Coast; I'm just here for the tech startup scene.

See also fetlife...

I tend to focus narrowly on a few challenging priorities. For example, I'm trying to change the way everyone uses computers, seriously. And I'm taking tap dance classes and practicing daily -- it's so hard but really fun!

Seeing the potential of the world, feeling baffled that we aren't anywhere close to it, and thinking about how to move us forward just a little bit.

Also partner dancing; deep conversation; theatrical goofing around; sexy storytelling; going shopping with my gal; nurturing and guiding and testing same gal; and kinky, transcendent sex (aka BDSM).

And by the way... I love to critique others' work. And imagine the future. And to write, when I have a good story that needs telling.

Perhaps that I'm tall, handsome, intense, and articulate... and then maybe that my smile is boyish and kind of goofy. And I'm not just full of myself; if I love you I'll be full of you, too!

After a while they might notice that I'm a critic of reality.

I read a lot of non-fiction, especially science -- it fascinates me. I voraciously read the NY Times. I can't remember the last fiction I read!

I am enthralled by nature documentaries. I also like dystopian fiction (Brazil, The Matrix), and Golden Age musicals with inspiring dance numbers (The Pirate, American In Paris, etc).

Just what are you going to learn about me by having a list of music and foods? :-)

OK, OK, I like world music -- Latin, South African, Indian, Brazilian, Mid-Eastern, Celtic. And I'm a sucker for a well-crafted, danceable pop tune.

As for foods, I trend vegetarian, but I also like victuals that once swam or flew. I mostly take a pass on mammals. (I have been known to bite mammaries now and again.)

A vision of what the world could really be.
A Plan to make some part of that vision real.
An extremely close bond, even a merge, between my partner and I.
Windows on the world: news, blogs, documentaries, etc.
Chocolate; black tea from India.
Long walks, preferably daily.

OK, I'll come clean: S&M. As well as the above six things.

How about an *ideal* Friday night...

Selecting your sexy on-the-town outfit
Discussing our livelihoods intently
Making you laugh over and over
Dancing with you passionately
Tying you up tightly
Making you scream and cry
Making you come til it hurts or making you hurt til you come
Coming hard inside you
Cuddling up with you sweetly
Appreciating your gifts eloquently
Dozing off contentedly
Waking you up in the middle of the night and "raping" you roughly
Then holding you closely and...
stroking your head on my shoulder as you drift back to sleep

Did I mention S&M? Dominance and submission? How much more private do you expect me to get!

Oh, here's one: I just don't *get* San Fran. It seemed to me like the most overrated place I've ever lived. I keep hoping I'll walk blindly into a wormhole and end up at the corner of Newbury & Clarendon in Boston on a summer day...

You're looking for a brilliant, original, entertaining, sincere friend. (I'm a friends-first type.)