Poking around my blog is a better way to get a sense of the kind of person I am than is reading any of these boxes: http://imsuchanafroholic.com
But if you'd rather have boxes, that's cool too. Some things about me, let's go: My name's Maya. I'm 25, a person who both loves to talk and loves to listen, a cuddler, a reader, a music-lover, and a person who is known to cry at just about anything. I've been attracted to and out on dates with and in bed with men, women, and people who were assigned one of those terms at birth but now identify with another, but the overwhelming majority of my dating/sexual experience is with cis men. I'm pretty femme (6 of my 9 pictures feature me in a dress, lol), but generally speaking am not here for gender binaries or gender roles in any way, shape, or form. I'm a sociologist, a feminist, and I'm pretty into Blackness both intellectually and aesthetically. I drink wheat beers like they're water; Disaronno sour is my go-to "real drink," and I have recently discovered that I have become old enough to turn down free shots. I love to laugh. I contain multitudes. Intersectionality is my jam.
Open relationship is also somewhat of a misnomer, but I'm proud of OkCupid for trying. I've been in a non-monogamous/polyamorous relationship for almost two years now and about to move in with my partner. He has other significant romantic relationships. I occasionally date/hook up with other people, but haven't had the experience of or desire for anything I'd call deeply romantic with someone else. The current structure of our relationship(s) isn't such that I feel the need to develop another significant partner at the moment, but the future is unknowable so I maintain this profile. *shrug * There's been a lot of growing and learning and changing and figuring out difficult/complicated stuff, but also lots of happiness and love and snuggles and pleasure. I want to make sure I'm really up front about it with new folks. So, there's that. I welcome all sorts of questions about it.
Until the end of July 2015, I will be living in a house that has a cat. She does not actually belong to me, though recently I've begun to feel like she has adopted me. Most days it seems like it's the cat's world and we just live in it... Anyway, if you're allergic, take note.