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32 Madison, WI Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 29
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Irish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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First: I'm in an open, polyamorous (or poly) relationship. I'm on OkC to meet people for what ever may become of it. I'm not expressly seeking romantic relationships but they're certainly lovely if they evolve.

I'm the sort of person that reads everything I can find on a topic I'm interested in until I have exhausted it or run into some sort of funding wall. Right now, it's dye chemistry and natural fibers.

In fact, I started a business (registering with the state and everything) for it - Bunny Rope - and have been vending around town. It's the confluence of so many things I love - shibari, chemistry, and the mindfulness that comes from the focus. Braiding eye loops to make hojojutsu bundles or building the dye bath is soothing.

I like barefoot running, whip cracking, and learning new skills. I'm currently working on my penmanship and learning to sketchnote.

I'm a minimalist at heart. I've pared my closet down to almost nothing but black button ups, jeans, gym clothes and fancy bow ties.

Removing decisions in a day means I have more capacity for useful choices: Like cake or death.

I have a nasty habit of transposing the "u" and "o" in "you" and leaving out the "h" in "this" when I type.

I highly value straight-forwardness and level headed thinking. This doesn't mean I'm 100% logical (if only...) but cooler heads eventually prevail.

Can you tell I'm an INTJ?

I'm easy to find online:
Instagram/Twitter: ABMann
My business:
Fetlife too if that's your cup of tea.

I am Floccinaucin, inihilipilific, and ated
What I’m doing with my life
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I work at a local software company. You know, the one where everyone else works.

I've been there over nine years and it's been a really great time. I'm passionate about what I do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Presenting to large groups.
Dying things vibrant colors.
Street photography.
Smoke rings.
Throwing a 10 foot bullwhip.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
1: I have no left hand.
2: I wear toe shoes.

I'm really easy to find in a crowd.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books-type things:
Neverending story by Michale Ende.
Sex, Drugs and Cocoa Puffs, Chuck Klosterman
Matilda by Roald Dahl.
Diamond Age by Neal Stephenson.
Transmetropolitan by Warren "My Personal Jesus" Ellis
The Watchmen. Mm... Alan Moore.
DMZ by Brian Wood
Almost Transparent Blue by Ryu Murakami.
House of Leaves which is easily the best thing I have ever read.
Born to Run by Christopher McDougall. I probably didn't spell that correctly and that makes me a bad person. I've made up for it by reading the book three FOUR TIMES.
The poetry of Frank O'Hara, Bukowski, Basho, Bei Dao, Ash, TS Eliot.

I absolutely adore TS Eliot. I read The Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock regularly. The wasteland is phenomenal. I also do a great Eliot impression.

James Joyce too. I want to be him when I grow up, even with his passions and vices. Have you read his letters to his wife?

Movies/TV: City of Lost Children, Amelie, The Aristocrats, The Big Lebowski, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Anything Star Trek, Wall-e, Flight of the Navigator, Kill Bill; I own and adore both Legally Blonde movies and am not afraid to use them. Invader Zim, House, Project Runway, Top Chef, Iron Chef (America), Dexter, Good Eats, Supernatural, Buffy TVS, Drunken Master, Dollhouse, How I Met Your Mother

I broke up with cable a few years ago. I only miss HBO TV shoes. THey'll eventually come around to the internet.

Food: I'll try anything but the pig will always be my first love. Eggs, broccoli, avocado, clever cheeseburgers,brussels sprouts, kale and the likker which is the remaining cooking liquid after cooking the kale, collards greens or turnip greens, which I tried for the first time after seeing a Good Eats episode that suggested it (it is delicious), chicken salad... oh, chicken salad. I have an incredible recipe for chicken salad.

Etc. Void where prohibited.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My current hobby
My satchel
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I'm clenching my jaw.

I'm trying to be more mindful in general. I've started getting up at 5am to write - work on my penmanship - and meditate. Hopefully, it'll reduce how much I worry or dwell or generally expend too much energy on What Ifs.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having cigar on my deck.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a Chicago Bears fan.
You should message me if
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You're ok with the polyamory part. You are a curious person both in interest and conversation.

You like coffee or cats or goofy guys with mustaches in their wallets. You can string subjects, predicates and various lingual accoutrement together and like to get to know a guy a touch before you have a date.

I used to keep the mustache in my pocket but washed it. Twice.