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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 42–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:33am
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Has kids and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Tough/fragile woman, accustomed to solitude, but hoping it's not too entrenched! Reckoning with my age and how I want to spend the time that remains. Deeply concerned about the way our climate is going, so not always upbeat. Profoundly influenced by having lived a nomadic lifestyle of many years' duration while married--most of them off the grid and in the woods, in various US states as well as in rural Mexico; all--far away from people. It taught me the value of simplicity, but at great personal cost. I home-schooled my home-born children until I cracked and returned to society in 1997. A women's transition class led to college degrees that I worked part-time around while I finished raising my children.

Though still close to my family, I now have sufficient time to consider finding pleasurable companionship. I'd like a serious relationship, but hope to base such on the baser nature of our species. Menopause has made little impact on me, and I'd like to enjoy my sensuality while I still can! I'm looking for that spark of attraction that makes enjoying the person I'm with possible. If the attraction and fun we generate is mutual, you can bet I'd like to see where it leads! Is passion possible? I'd like to think so.
What I’m doing with my life
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After a year of major losses in 2014, including the tragic death of my four kids' father, I am accepting the way my life has substantially changed--mostly for the better. I now work full-time between 2 jobs, so I have mainly weekend time available. Yes, that's right; I'm of the working class.

Also, since my house-mates are a (younger) poly married couple and because this comes up often on OKC, let me just add that there are very few potential partners who want to be "secondaries," including me! Maybe when I have my own primary to play off of....but I don't even have that yet!

When not obsessing on sex, my pastimes include reading, gardening, singing, walking, cycling, climbing trees, listening to public radio/music, frisbee, FB/Internet, and going to movies/plays/concerts. Dance is also becoming more important to me. I took part in Eugene's annual Thrill the World flash mob dance last October, performing Michael Jackson's Thriller in zombie costume, as I did the year before. I'm hoping to join the group again this year.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
a variety of things:
I'm told I have a wicked sense of humor; I love to sing and sang well enough to occasionally perform solo parts for the choir I was in for several years; I bake and made all my family's bread for many years--also worked as a vegan baker for a few years; I have a green thumb, worked seasonally at a multi-greenhouse operation for another few years, and still do gardening work for others on an occasional basis; I'm geared for nurturing and enjoy cuddling my grandchildren now that my kids are grown.

Finally, I'm pretty keen on figuring out where the real power is in a given situation as I don't tolerate being coerced or manipulated--a hard-won and essential part of my identity. But I do enjoy games between consenting adults! I'd love to have a playmate in my life!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile, my curves, and if singing--my voice.
All right! I have to add my natural scent and my hair, since I do keep receiving compliments for them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The World Without Us, Into the Wild, Autobiography of Malcolm X, King Leopold's Ghost, Fast Food Nation, Sugar Blues--so, nonfiction works, biographies, and Tolkien's Lord of the Rings trilogy--fabulous story and such beautiful speech. I'd live in Middle Earth in a heartbeat!

Favorite movies: All kinds, especially quirky ones like Fight Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Inception, Jacob's Ladder, Harold and Maude, Thank You For Smoking, Fargo. I love the use of music in cinema, too, as in: Donnie Darko, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Kill Bill, and Across the Universe. Family favorites: Princess Bride, In Search of the Holy Grail, & Star Wars Episodes IV-VI

Television: I don't watch it often, but there have been many good shows worthy of my time over the years. My daughters got me hooked on The Walking Dead--a rather sober/frightening allegory of our future--only with global warming doing the damage. Usually go to sleep listening to something from NPR like Radio Lab or Fresh Air and/or viewing a talk show like the Daily Show or Graham Norton Show from my laptop.

Music: Most genres--too many to list, but I make a point of seeing Bruce Cockburn when he comes to town. God, I love that man! And yes, I do like some rap. I'm an avid public radio fan, especially KRVM.

Food: Fresh-baked goods, Mexican, anything marinated and grilled, Thai, popcorn with butter/nutritional yeast, most anything that my daughters and I can come up with
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The tangible:
clean water and food
coffee with sugar and cream
meaningful work
a private, heatable bathroom
dirt and place(s) for gardening in it
the Internet

The intangible:
my connection to my family
my curiosity
the amazing power of music/singing/dancing
the bittersweet relief of humor
my sensuality in all its many permutations
my autonomy; I like being my own boss! I just don't like to play by myself all the time!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the condition of the planet (climate change/habitat loss) and how the lack of justice otherwise enflames the world; and why I'd still like to be enjoying the moment with someone special while there's still time. The raging wildfires here in the NW are greatly worrying me now, too.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I work early weekday evenings....but that still leaves time for going out afterward, like I did on a recent Friday when I met former gospel choir friends for some karaoke singing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ala Cyndi Lauper: "Girls just want to have fun!"
and Frankie Valli (or Fergie): "Big girls don't cry"--until they do!
Also, I do not own a SmartPhone--so, as much as I love the digital world, I'm not always connected (tethered) to the Internet.

Also, here's something I definitely want to try with the right partner!
You should message me if
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You still enjoy your reasonably fit body and think we could be potential playmates! Is fun possible? Let's find out!