Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think I'm pretty great! I am naturally curious and tend to
connect with others with little effort. I am always looking to
expand and grow. I am at times accused of being a bit
hippie-dippie/kumbaya/naive, but I think what people mean when they
say that is I am grounded spiritually, I respect nature, and I love
really hard. I don't eat granola, that stuff is not actually good
for you :) I am an out of the box thinker and I find humor in as
much as possible. Despite the light heartedness though, I am
politically educated and aware, and take global social justice
issues quite seriously. Humility and empathy are two of my most
important values. And paleo eating. Yes.
More than "looking for love" (shouldn't really have to look too
hard something that is everywhere, right?), I am looking to spend
time with great, energetic, open-minded, free spirited,
truth-seeking people who make me laugh. I'm a little tiny bit
introverted, but I've realized I need human connection -
intellectual, physical, emotional - to really be alive. Thus, I'm
open to going on dates or just hanging out as friends, and also
open to exploring something deeper if it develops.
Though I am open, it will take you time to know me. I am always
pleasant and conversational but it takes a special person truly
interested in me and a master at listening to uncover the hidden,
most beautiful parts. I do reserve those parts for the privileged
few. Perhaps you?
*Note: I chose to put "bisexual" on my profile because I guess it
suggests I am also interested in women, but to be honest I don't go
around calling myself bi. I also don't like the term, because it
still refers to a gender binary which I don't agree with. I tend to
be attracted to people that attract me, and I have had the luxury
of not having to worry too much about how to identify.
It should be further noted that I practice happy, ethical
non-monogamy. If it is important to you to monogamize, I may still
really like you as a person but we won't work out dating. It's
another pretty important value to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Isn't that a funny question? I am just living it, trying to do so
as well as possible. I take all my relationships very seriously and
I love fiercely. I consider that at the root of life's purpose
(fierce love), and I hope my life's work reflects it. I currently
work in public health and conduct research. I dream of a society
that allows all people access to good healthcare, but is healthier
to start with in our infrastructure, food supply, and general way
of being. I work hard and put all my positive energy into it as
possible. I am thinking of maybe going back to school medical
anthropology (the study of cultural concepts of wellness), so I'm
using these years to position myself properly to achieve that
I have a lot going on usually, but I try to be busy with the
important stuff (volunteering, creative projects, friends and
family) versus the mundane (you know some people can spend entire
days just complaining!?).
I moved home to MN a few years ago after many years away and I'm
loving it. I try to spend a lot of time outdoors camping or hiking,
and we are lucky to live in a beautiful place in that regard! BWCA
= best. I try to get out of town as much as I can though, there is
a lot of world to learn from.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to other people's stories with total fascination, singing
in private, making pies, and being a beginner at a lot of different
things (like playing the guitar, yoga, and making movies). I don't
make pies anymore because I have not eaten wheat in almost a year
:( Sometimes I'm the loudest laugher in the room, which is fun. Oh!
I'm also super good at getting places without GPS. And making
friends out of strangers. I really shine in places I've never been
to before. I'm getting to be pretty good at push-ups, after much
struggle. I'm also not too bad at bragging about my many talents.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically, usually my eyes I guess. Or maybe my fab hair. At least
that's what gets commented on. But if we are talking about "me,"
it's nearly always my "empathic spirit," as a friend once defined
it. Or that I'm hilarious (that's actually true).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Lately I have been reading and learning a lot about the American
healthcare system (and how it came to be that we have such problems
providing equitable care to our people) as well as nutrition
science (and how it came to be that the majority of our population
is living/dying on toxic manufactured food). I probably need some
fiction in my life, so recommendations welcome! I dig weird
dystopian future stuff. I am really into film, and I am making my
first one this year! Wish me luck. Bonus if you love wacky foreign
or avant-garde film (eg Maya Deren), but I still love a mindless
action thriller. Musically lately I'm into folk/bluegrass or other
singer/songwriter artists. I have broad musical taste though and I
bond with people a lot by sharing music. I am a sustaining member
of The Current. I recently got into electronic/techno/house music,
and I have an ongoing love affair with Latin music. Both mostly
because I love to DANCE (such a bonus if you dance!) Cooking is one
of my greatest loves. I try to make as much of my own food as
possible, which is an ongoing creative outlet. I don't eat most
grains anymore, but I tend to forget that in the presence of
delicious sushi or, even more likely, really good beer. If I could
live anywhere just for the food, it might be Japan. Or Thailand, or
India.. somewhere in Asia anyway!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee, wine, intellectual intercourse, baths, belly-laughter, and
making out. Well, those are six things I wouldn't want to do
Ok: SO MANY PEOPLE have written me messages like "hey, i wanna have
brain sex with you." So, that is not cool, and not funny... mostly
just weird. I try not to complain a lot (see above), but that one
is getting to me. Please refrain.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social justice issues, food, my latest creative project, and how
much I admire my friends. How to talk social justice issues in a
passive-aggressive culture (MN is weird). How grateful I am to have
such a good life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Decompressing. Usually at home, usually with vino. I love my Friday
nights. Seriously, do not be offended if I blow you off on a
Friday. I'm probably bathing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A lot of the time, I have no idea what I'm talking about.
"My heart is a flower that blooms every hour."
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're self-assured and content with yourself, you have important,
interesting, or funny things to say, you don't approach dating as a
numbers game and/or employ a checklist of 'deal breakers' when
getting to know someone, orrrr you have a favorite part of
Minnesota you want to tell me about that I might not be aware of
(please do share!).
Or if you'd like to dance late into the night with me to Stevie
Although I am against the concept of 'dealbreakers', in practice
I'd like to set a few standards. Please spare me my time if you:
are bitter, have unresolved anger management issues, have sweeping
generalizations about women and/or Minnesotan women you'd like to
apply to me, or would be prone to using the word 'bitch' the first
time you write to me.
I do not have a lot of expectations for what kind of relationship I
will form with the next person I meet but I would like it to be a
positive, sharing, happy, loving experience.
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