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24 Canterbury, NH Genderqueer


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:33am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Might want kids
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Interested in cultivating a culture of honestly, respect, and awareness. Even-keeled weirdo, women's college grad, pragmatic radical, stoner, foodie, local agriculture enthusiast, occasional artist, social justice advocate, ex-rower, and child at heart. I like critters of all sorts, often more than people.

I'm also nonmonogamous, and tend to be very affectionate. I have a number of partners spread all over the place, though since moving back to NH in December I've developed a primary partnership with one of my farm coworkers who is new to polyamory.

Looking to find some queer/queer friendly community!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Since graduating from Mount Holyoke back in 2013 with a degree in biology I've thrown myself into the world of sustainable farming. My hands are perpetually tough, dirty, and cut to shit. I've done my share of weeding and harvesting fruits and vegetables, but love working with livestock even more. I've milked goats, tended to sheep, gave many back scratches to hogs, caught far too many loose chickens, and plenty of other things you may or may not wish to hear about. Most of my farming experience was in western Mass, but now I've come back to my home state and am working on a much larger, grass-based, biodynamic, non-conventional farm where I help manage the herd of cows.
I grew up on the NH seacoast with older and not very outdoorsy parents, so I haven't explored the granite state as much as I'd like. There's nothing like running around in the woods.
At some point in my life I'd really love to live on a self-sustaining commune/co-op/intentional community/artist collective of sorts.
I also have dreams of being a voice actor or queer porn star... But I haven't been actively pursuing those things. Though I have had the "model for us" page on crashpad open for many months now. Let's get naked and be queer on camera together? Thinking about making some extra money camgirling (road trip/tattoo fund?). I think about doing a lot of things... Non-creepy encouragement welcome!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Keeping an open mind and giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Kissing, so I'm told.
Making weird faces and sound effects.
Imitating Gollum.
Picking up accents.
Making friends with animals.
Wrestling goats.
Pulling weeds.
Being shy and awkward.
Being sociable when drunk.
Being easily entertained.
Running around in the woods.
Identifying birds.
Cooking and baking (especially apple pies).
Giving massages, though it'd be nice to get some in return every so often.
Forgetting all sorts of shit.
Being a space cadet.
Writing lists.
Using a lot of elipses...
Living in the moment.

Things I'm terrible at:
Introducing myself.
Making small talk.
Recalling memories on command.
Staying in touch with people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How easy it is to make me laugh.
Or maybe it's my swooshy blonde hair. Please play with it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I don't read nearly as much as I used to, but some of my favorites include Clockwork Orange, The Alchemist, The Great Gatsby, Animal Vegetable Miracle, Goat Song, Sabriel, Watership Down, The Handmaid's Tale, The Golden Compass, Foe, and The Ocean at the End of the Lane. I need to read more. Working on chipping away at my collection of unread books now that I'm not drowning in collegiate work (and not doing a very good job).

Movies: Blues Brothers, Dragonheart, Inglorious Basterds, Children of Men, Labyrinth, Hanna, Donnie Darko, Blade Runner, Serenity, Rang De Basanti, Matilda, The Princess Bride, Lion King, Akira, Princess Mononoke, Silence of the Lambs, Rocky Horror. I have a hard time watching horror movies... but I'm always down for nature documentaries!

Shows: I hardly watch TV. If I have access to cable I jump to the cooking channels. Other than that I've been keeping up with Archer (which I hated the first time I tried to watch it). Sometimes I watch Adventure Time or anime. Not really one who follows shows without another person being like "omg you have to watch this with me"...

Music: I listen to just about anything, though it does depend on my mood. Classical, heavy metal, jazz, r&b, hipster indie shit, hip-hop, folk, old stuff, new stuff, whatever. I like to sing along to the country station in the car. I promise I won't make you listen to anything to don't want to...

Food: I'm not very picky, but I AM a food snob. I'm a sucker for good food. I love animals and I also love to eat them (preferably humanely and locally raised), although I respect those who don't. Hoping to raise a few sheep this year!
I am (sadly) allergic to mangos and cashews. They're related to poison ivy. Grr.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-good food (especially good cheese)
-friendly critters (mine or otherwise)
-the stars
-a well-stocked kitchen
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to eat/make for dinner.

How to not be socially awkward around people I think are cute...

All the things I should be doing instead of sitting on my ass.

Nothing. Like really, nothing. I'm not one of those people with a billion things rushing around my head. When I need to think or have something to think about, I do, but usually I'm just observing and appreciating the things I see. Semi-constant state of Zen.

My privilege. Liberation and oppression.

Evolution. As in, why creatures are the way they are, homologies, etc. Not whether or not it's a real thing.

Why things work the way they do.

How beautiful the clouds/mountains/bit of lichen etc. are at the time.

How to be a better person/friend/partner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully cuddling with my cats, drinking a single malt, and watching Netflix.
However, I am open to other invitations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was adopted at birth and finally got in touch with my biological family back in September 2013. I visited a bunch of them in Austin in February 2014 and it was absolutely wonderful. Went back for March 2015. Looks like it's become an annual adventure :)
You should message me if
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I will definitely not respond if all you say is "hey, how are you?"

If you want to get together and chat about queer things, food, science, growing vegetables, animal husbandry, art, polyamory, social justice, etc. —SWEET DO IT. I like meeting new people!
I have a bias for good spelling and grammar which I'm working on deconstructing.

Racists, Sexists, Homophobes, etc need not apply. On the other hand, if you want to talk about oppression, let's. I've been missing those dialogues.

I'm always down for coffee dates. Adventures are fun, too, if you have any ideas.

Also, I can be shy and sometimes hate sending the first message, so don't be like me...

Aaand if I don't respond immediately, I'm sorry! I get a fair number of thoughtful messages (and a lot of shite, as well) and I get a little bogged down/overwhelmed and let them sit around for a while before I buckle down and bust out a bunch of replies. I have been known to respond to a nice message months later... Oops.