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23 F Great Barrington, MA

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi women
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:51am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
** I've been the absolute worst at responding to messages lately. I'm sorry, y'all! Farming is time consuming and exhausting. It's on my to do list...

I'm a (gender)queer women's college grad, pragmatic radical, stoner, foodie, local agriculture enthusiast, occasional artist, social justice advocate, ex-rower, and child at heart. I like critters of all sorts, often more than people.

I'm also non-monogamous, and I tend to be very affectionate. I can be kinky with the right people. I'd love a mentor or two on that front. Communication and consent are essential. Not a huge fan of one night stands. I really like to get to know people before I get in their pants, unless they're ridiculously attractive, but then I'm super anxious about even making eye contact... Oh, and I'm not exactly single. I have a number of partners of varying commitment levels.

If you're into astrology:
Sun: Aries, Moon: Virgo, Rising: Pisces... I think that describes me pretty accurately.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
This year I have an apprenticeship at a farm in the Berkshires where I'll be milking cows, moving fences, and probably falling in pig shit a lot.
I graduated from college last May with a major in Biology and minor in Studio Art. After that, I spent my summer picking vegetables, pulling weeds, milking goats, selling cheese at a farmers market, and helping middle-aged people improve their rowing technique.
I spent September-December in the UK. For the first two weeks of that I was a tourist with my parents, then I sent them home and started a work exchange adventure of my own with the assistance of (shameless plug for an awesome network).
At some point in my life I'd really love to live on a self-sustaining commune/co-op/intentional community/artist collective of sorts. I'm interested in working with food access and/or supporting small farmers... Of which I may be one, so we'll see how that goes.
I also have dreams of being a voice actor or queer porn star... But I'm not really sure how to get into either of those fields.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Keeping an open mind and giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Kissing, so I'm told.
Making weird faces and sound effects.
Imitating Gollum.
Picking up accents.
Making friends with animals.
Wrestling goats.
Pulling weeds.
Being shy and awkward.
Being sociable when drunk.
Being easily entertained.
Running around in the woods.
Identifying birds.
Cooking and baking (especially apple pies).
Eating. And being a bit of a foodie...
Giving massages, though it'd be nice to get some in return every so often.
Forgetting all sorts of shit.
Being a space cadet.
Writing lists.
Using a lot of elipses...
Living in the moment.

Things I'm terrible at:
Introducing myself.
Making small talk.
Staying in touch with people (I'd like to blame that last thing I'm good at).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How easy it is to make me laugh.
Or maybe it's my swooshy blonde hair. Please play with it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I don't read nearly as much as I used to, but some of my favorites include Clockwork Orange, The Alchemist, The Great Gatsby, Animal Vegetable Miracle, Goat Song, Sabriel, Watership Down, The Handmaid's Tale, The Golden Compass, Foe, and The Ocean at the End of the Lane. I need to read more. Working on chipping away at my collection of unread books now that I'm not drowning in collegiate work.

Movies: Blues Brothers, Dragonheart, Inglorious Basterds, Children of Men, Labyrinth, Hanna, Donnie Darko, Blade Runner, Serenity, Rang De Basanti, Matilda, The Princess Bride, Lion King, Akira, Princess Mononoke, Silence of the Lambs, Rocky Horror. I don't do scary movies, generally, unless they're really awesomely intelligent or hilarious (ex: Shaun of the Dead and Cabin in the Woods). My imagination is far too wild for horror. I just spend hours to days afterwards being hella paranoid. On the other hand, I'm always down for nature documentaries.

Shows: I don't watch much TV, but when I do it's usually Top Chef, Ace of Cakes, Doctor Who, Firefly, Flight of the Conchords, Parks and Rec, or Whose Line. As an ex-japanophile I've been trying to catch up lately on all the good anime I missed since I stopped watching 7 years ago (ex. Ouran, Gurren Lagann, and Attack on Titan (they better make a season 2)). It's nice to know I can still understand some Japanese after 5 years of studying it.

Music: I listen to a wiiide range of music... samplings: Alt-J, Arctic Monkeys, Beck, Beirut, The Black Keys, Chris Pureka, The Decemberists, Disturbed, Fleetwood Mac, The Fratellis, Frightened Rabbit, Gogol Bordello, Ingrid Michaelson, Iron & Wine, Janelle Monae, Janis Joplin, Jurassic 5, Kobukuro, Local Natives, Manu Chao, Menomena, Moon Hooch, Neko Case, The New Pornographers, Noah and the Whale, The Offspring, Queens of the Stone Age, RHCP, Seether, Simon & Garfunkel, Slightly Stoopid, Spoon, Sublime, System of a Down, Tallest Man on Earth, Three Days Grace, 2Pac, Zac Brown Band... I'll give just about anything a try.

Food: I'm not very picky, but I AM a food snob. I'm a sucker for good food. I really like Turkish, Indian, Thai, and Japanese food, though I'm extra critical when it comes to Japanese since I spent a summer in Japan eating awesome things. I don't like bitter things (which often includes coffee and beer), licorice, or sun-dried tomatoes. My favorite meat is definitely lamb. Yes, I love animals and I also love to eat them (preferably humanely and locally raised), although I respect those who don't. I love fresh veggies and take pride in growing my own. I am (sadly) allergic to mangos and cashews. They're related, surprisingly enough (to poison ivy).
As for weird UK food... Black pudding ain't half bad. But your bacon is just Canadian bacon. I missed American bacon. Pork belly is the shit.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-good food (especially good cheese)
-friendly critters (mine or otherwise)
-the stars
-a well-stocked kitchen
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to eat/make for dinner.

How to not be socially awkward around people I think are cute...

All the things I should be doing instead of sitting on my ass.

Nothing. Like really, nothing. I'm not one of those people with a billion things rushing around my head. When I need to think or have something to think about, I do, but usually I'm just observing and appreciating the things I see.

My privilege. Liberation and oppression.

Evolution. As in, why creatures are the way they are, homologies, etc. Not whether or not it's a real thing. Yeesh. If you think evolution is a farce, I might have to punch you in the face out of pure frustration.

Why things work the way they do.

How beautiful the clouds/mountains/etc are at the time.

How to be a better person/friend/partner.

How much I need to start working out again (I miss being rower-strong).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably cuddling with my cats, drinking a single malt, and watching Netflix.

I see nothing wrong with that. However, I am open to other invitations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was adopted at birth and finally got in touch with my biological family back in September. I just returned from visiting a bunch of them in Austin and it was absolutely wonderful.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I am not going to meet you just to have sex with you. No, really. That's not what I mean by casual sex.

If you are less than an 80% match and more than 15% enemy, you better have some damn good reasons for thinking we'd get on. The algorithms on here have worked well for me thus far, and I tend to ignore all the people with less than a 60% match. I will definitely not respond if all you say is "hey, how are you?"

If you want to get together and chat about queer things, food, science, growing vegetables, animal husbandry, art, printmaking, painting, polyamory, social justice, etc. —SWEET DO IT. I like meeting new people!
I have a bias for good spelling and grammar which may need to be deconstructed sometime soon...

Racists, Sexists, Homophobes, etc need not apply. On the other hand, if you want to talk about oppression, let's. I've been missing those dialogues.

I'm always down for coffee dates (even though I'll probably opt for a mocha, chai, or tea). Adventures are fun, too, if you have any ideas.

Also, I can be shy and sometimes hate sending the first message, so don't be like me...

Aaand if I don't respond immediately, I'm sorry! I get a fair number of thoughtful messages (and a lot of shite, as well) and I get a little bogged down/overwhelmed and let them sit around for a while before I buckle down and bust out a bunch of replies. I have been known to respond to a nice message up to a month later... Oops.