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37 Ridgewood, NY Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22-48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jun 16
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It's difficult for me to write about myself since I'm such a mass of contradictions: I procrastinate by working hard on other projects. I'm shy but I'm at my best when mingling with crowds. I love to travel but rarely do. Much of my favorite music is music I don't own. I have vehement opinions about the importance of questioning one's opinions. You get the idea.

The attention I pay to any one of my interests tends to ebb and flow, but here are a few of them: Movies, bicycling, dancing, artisanal absinthe (i.e. NOT the neon green stuff they drink in Prague), learning to cook for myself, graphic design, Computers (Macs specifically), electronics, filmmaking, comedy, geography, history, The geography and history of New York City and Brooklyn.

A quick word on orientation:
Bi? Straight? I'm never quite sure which box to check. I don't use either term to describe myself. I can't imagine calling myself bisexual without hearing in my head, "Oh, please! How many guys have you slept with?" And I can't imagine calling myself straight without hearing, "Oh, please! How many guys have you slept with?"
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Attempting my first official open relationship with bomb-shell. Living in a house in Bushwick full of smart, fun, sexy artist-types. Helping them throw crazy and increasingly popular parties. Figuring out how to make a living now that I realize I don't want to do the thing that brought me to NYC (video editing). One of these days I will get my voiceover career off the ground!

Of course, if I thought it were at all feasible, I would run away to join a non-agricultural band of hunter-gatherers. I know, I know: Too much Sex at Dawn.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Diving into things I haven't tried, video editing, troubleshooting, skiing, cracking jokes, rocking "It's the End of the World as We Know It" at karaoke, figuring out on the fly how to hang a projector from a sprinkler pipe in a warehouse space two hours before the party is supposed to start, making conversation with interesting people, and finding my way around. Also, I'm a great bad dancer. And a really good kisser.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I must give off a really friendly, non-threatening vibe since random strangers always ask me for directions, advice, or proofreading help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Sex at Dawn; The Power Broker; Guns, Germs, and Steel; Our Dumb Century; America: The Book; Me Talk Pretty One Day; Running With Scissors; Prisoner of Trebekistan; Pure Drivel; The God Particle; Understanding Comics; Watchmen; A Tree Grows in Brooklyn; White Teeth; The Green Futures of Tycho; 1984; Animal Farm. Honorable mention goes to The Fountainhead, parts of which I liked, the rest of which I loved to hate.

Brick, Robot Stories, The Fifth Element, Sneakers, Harold and Maude, Citizen Ruth, Strange Days, Flirting With Disaster, Being John Malkovich, The Last of Sheila, The Brother From Another Planet, I Heart Huckabee's, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, The Life of Brian, The Conversation, The Godfather, Jules and Jim, Europa Europa, Modern Times, Manhattan Murder Mystery, Sleeper, Chinatown, Bound, Waking Life.

These days I mostly find myself listening to the music that comes up on my Passion Pit / LCD Soundsystem Pandora station. But I love all kinds of music and find it difficult not to sing or dance along to whatever is playing. Most of my favorite artists are people that I'm lucky enough to know. (If you don't know Pearl and the Beard, seek them out!) But I also love the current crop of pop stars including Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, and even Ke$ha. No, I'm not ashamed to admit that. Regina Spektor is still near and dear to my heart, as is They Might be Giants. My favorite album is either "Healing is Difficult" by Sia or "Gone Gone Gone" by The New Deal. This list is woefully incomplete.

Six Feet Under, Mad Men, The Wire, Battlestar Galactica (the 2004 version), Liar Game, The Simpsons (the first ten or so years), Law & Order (the first ten or so years excluding season one), Archer, Ugly Americans, Party Down.

Radiolab, This American Life, Savage Lovecast, The Moth, Overthinking It.

I love foods of all kinds and I will try almost anything, but no matter what mood I'm in I can always eat sushi, a good hamburger, pasta, or any well-crafted sandwich. When it's time for brunch, I'm almost always in the mood for eggs benedict. And then, of course, there are cookies, ice cream, and red velvet cake. This list is also woefully incomplete, but mainly because I'm full as I write it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In all seriousness,
1. Food and water.
2. Some kind of shelter when needed.
3. Some kind of clothing if the climate requires it.
4. Friendship.
5. Sex.
6. Other people to help provide all of the above.
Keep in mind I've never put this to the test, so I may be pathetically wrong, but I'll bet you if I had all that, I wouldn't miss electricity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Running away to find — and with luck be adopted by — one of the world's last remaining hunter-gatherer societies. The many things I SHOULD be doing but just don't FEEL like doing. How I'd like to improve computer interfaces. Ways I think that people could communicate their opinions more successfully. Whose arms I'd like to have wrapped around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out dancing with my friends, out dining with my friends, out making out with my friends, at home drinking with my friends, or at home on the internet, wondering where my friends are.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I feel like I know everything. Sometimes I feel like I know nothing.

I like to go on dates with couples. On a somewhat-related note, I have no idea if it would work, but the idea of being part of a triad has always appealed to me.

Despite my unorthodox romantic proclivities, I'm pretty ordinary.
You should message me if
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You'd like to flatter me, flirt with me, or make me laugh.
You're cute and/or witty and would like to get some drinks.
You're as into bomb-shell as you are into me.