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42 / M / Straight / Single
Edinburgh, United Kingdom
- Last Online
- Nov 17
- 5′ 5″ (1.65m).
- Body Type
- Strictly vegetarian
- Atheism and somewhat serious about it
- Sagittarius but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from Ph.D program
- Computer / Hardware / Software
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), LISP (Okay), Other (Poorly)
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I like it because:
* I work in a small team, on projects over which we have full control.
* Amazon's scale is compelling - I like making things a lot of people will see and use.
* The technicalities and aesthetics of coding do appeal lots to me...
* ...but really the most important parts of software systems are the humans - the ones I work closely with to make the stuff, and the ones who (if we did it right) said stuff makes happy.
I find I don't have as much energy as I used to for big projects and schemes outside of the day job. I am sad and a little guilty about this. One thing that does continue to motivate me is helping with (building up, tearing down, and just donating time to) the projects and schemes of those close to me - so if you have some, that would be great!
My long term aspiration is to take what I learn and earn and to go do something less corporate with it. Something humanitarian or playfully disruptive or ideally both.
I hope: big blue eyes.
Here: he's using his real name... what's that about?
I have behaved anomalously non-anonymously throughout my online life. I grant it is unusual, especially on a dating site, where I see the point of indirection shields.
Maybe if I'd have come up with some great IRC nick on day one it would have been different. As it is I cling to a belief that eventually pseudonyms will be the exception rather than the rule.
My contact details are at http://anthonybailey.net and you are welcome to use them.
* Prose, sliding from fiction to non: Kurt Vonnegut, Jeanette Winterson, Neal Stephenson, Robert Pirsig, Douglas Hofstadster, Daniel Dennett, Kent Beck.
* Comics, from web to paper: Andrew Hussie, Randall Munroe, Scott McCloud, Neil Gaiman.
* TV, alliteratively: Buffy, Babylon 5, and Breaking Bad; Curb and Community; Seinfeld and Spaced; West Wing and the Wire.
* Film, a single feature: Wings Of Desire.
* Music, progressively obscure: Hendrix, Pulp, My Bloody Valentine, Cocteau Twins, Throwing Muses, Ulrich Schnauss, Bark Psychosis.
* Games: Portal, Darwinia, chess.
* Food: potatoes, cumin, pickles, dolma, lime, ginger
(Pick any of the above or anything else that you like if you're stuck for an opening angle. I love to discuss what we consume.)
Themes I notice I return to: people, thinking itself, why I like the art I like, and the likely impact of digital technologies (although I guess these change often enough that we may be back to "whatever fascinated me today.")
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 34–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
Apart from that, all this OkCupid algorithmic magic *ought* to make a summary of who I seek pointless, but let's try anyway.
I have theories and predictions as to what would work well: someone who likes to think and to share ideas, who has a dry maybe even cruel sense of humour but a huge heart and zero hatred; and who can balance me well - I'm laid back to the point of sleepy, so I appreciate someone more go-get active whom I can accompany and support on their life adventures.
But I know that my theories and predictions are very fallible. So I'd love to be surprised by a completely different fit that still turns out to work.
Lastly I think it might be useful for me to say what I want from a message: really just a note of potential interest, there is no requirement to audition or essay - although I'll happily read and write such if that's the way that you work. My belief is that a dating site is a useful first filter but not necessarily the best platform for courtship: if we read each other's profiles and swap "yeah, maybe" messages, then my preferred next step is to meet up and talk for real over coffee, a meal, et cetera.