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BookandBarbell

34 Columbia, MO Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Status
Seeing Someone
Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Be gentle, and keep the soft parts of you soft and yielding. Care about it all, and when you are tired of caring about it all, care some more. Think meticulously, but know that your thoughts are just bubbles bouncing across the ocean waves. Admit ignorance and then work tirelessly to resolve it. Be fierce in your love and in your integrity, and forgive yourself when you are not. Be bold. Bite off big chunks of life, hold them between your teeth, and shake your head like a dog with a squirrel.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
It sure would be nice if I knew...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Contemplating biology, then writing about it and teaching it to others. Lifting heavy objects off the floor and putting them down again. Sewing my own vintage clothing and knitting fabulous hats. Stepping into people's lives at the precise moment they need me. Staring into the abyss and not being terrified of the animal that stares back. Drawing portraits of people. Singing in the shower.

For the sake of balance and honesty, things I'm terrible at: dancing, directions, moderation, jumping rope, tolerating complacent ignorance and/or unrepentant cruelty, cleaning my car, sending out Christmas cards, humility.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-fi nerdy escapism of all varietals-- The Dark Tower, The First Law Trilogy, Game of Thrones, His Dark Materials, The Diamond Age, Ready Player One, East of Eden, One Hundred Years of Solitude, The Way of Kings, and science, always science

Movies: Heathers, True Romance, Her, The Princess Bride, The Dark Crystal, Hedwig and the Angry Inch

Music: Deer Tick, The National, Middle Brother, Ray Lamontagne, White Stripes, Tool, the Black Keys

TV: Don't actually own one, but I will fess to watching some things... Firefly, Sherlock, True Detectives, G of T, Dollhouse, Rome

Food: All of it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) A brain stem
2) A circulatory system
3) Lungs
4) Red lipstick and black coffee
5) Lists
6) Irony
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The OkCupid matching algorithm. It’s horribly nerdy, but I’m fascinated by it. Does it work? Does it actually predict compatibility? To be honest, I originally got on this site to answer questions and play with the matching algorithm. I've found some good friends and ex-lovers on here and it looks like I have above a 90% match with all of them, so there must be something to it.
You should message me if
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You've actually looked at my profile and some of my questions and think we might be able to fill an empty void with words for forty-five minutes over a drink.

You're local. I'm getting a lot of great messages from people who are miles and miles away. I'm actually more interested in people I can grab a beverage with around town than long-distance pen pals.

You aren't totally turned off by the lack of a face picture. There is a good reason for that, and it’s not that I am hideously deformed. I just have students. I can’t imagine a more horrifying scenario than a bunch of my students, all gathered around a laptop, giggling about the questions I answered. So that shot of my back is all about plausible deniability.