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apatchofbleu

49 Brooklyn, NY Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:17pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Croatian (Fluently), Serbian (Fluently), Italian (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The best way to shut me up is to ask me to write an online profile, so forgive me if I start off a little droll. Hopefully I'll warm up soon enough.
I'm a photographer-artist, living in Williamsburg. NY has been my home for about 15 years now, and home indeed it is. I had that "I'm finally home" feeling the minute I got here. Not sure that I can say that so wholeheartedly about the dating scene... I'm here because I'm fully ready to be in a relationship again, so I'm hoping this site doesn't become a 'home' of sorts, especially not for the next 15 years!
I live alone, have a piano, like old lamp shades, and stock a mean fridge and pantry. I love to cook, for others and for myself. I like to think of myself as outgoing, active and adventurous, and am quite social, but I also love quiet evenings or lazy days at home too.
Some thoughts on life and love: I'm big on respect (to others and to self), honesty and courtesy (in no particular order), and am partial to a balanced dose of humility at times too. Those who are close to me and know me best would say that I'm a devoted friend and family member. People are important to me.
My work/art is important to me, but it only defines me in part. I'm not a workaholic, and generally don't do as well with people who are juggling 3 careers - two by day, and a third on nights and weekends. Don't get me wrong, I respect hard work and ambition, but do feel it makes most sense to put them second to the enjoyment of life and love.
Ok, this is getting long and dry, and manifesto-like. Onto some buzzwords...
Empathy, generosity, imperfections, patience, old soul, honesty... all good.
Self-centered, entitled, flaky, pretentious... meh.
Ok, I need to stop now. See categories for more info, or better still, let's talk.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it and trying to grow in the process. Accepting as much as what it has to offer, good and bad.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Art, music, communicating, laughing, crying, laughing about crying.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let me know. I've never asked...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Ok, here goes... in no particular order...
I mostly love 'alternative' as opposed to 'mainstream'. So vague... sorry. I frequent Film Forum, BAM, Sunshine, Anthology, MoMA, Angelika, so hopefully that gives you an idea of the type of movies I like. Some favorites are, Vertigo, The Last Picture Show, The White Ribbon, French old and new, silent films, avant garde films, The Party with Peter Sellers. Really the list is endless. Not a huge fan of pixar or Tom Cruise ;)
I love music with a passion, but again, lean more towards indie or alternative than pop. So much good music coming out all the time though. I've been playing the latest Angel Olsen record to death. I can go from Serge Gainsbourg, to The Clash, to Fred Astaire, Blossom Deary, to Debussy all in one afternoon, and usually do.
Books, another endless list. Currently in a memoir mood. Reading the diary of Etty Hillesum (Anne Frank as he might have been when she became a 28 year old intellectual). I love Graeme Greene, all the classic writers, especially Russian ones. Ok enough, what's next... food.
I love food, making it, eating out, ordering in, cooking for, being cooked for. I eat pretty much everything, and respect people's restrictions. I try as much as possible to use local and organic. Weened off junk food years ago... but if burgers are junk food, I still cheat occasionally with the 5 Leaves burger.
Theatre, yes! All modes of stage performance... including dance, drama, performance art...
Art galleries, museums galore, trips away whenever possible...
Too long again.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Camera, piano, le creuset, coffee, old things, friendship
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I can rid myself of texting, social networks; how not to procrastinate; wondering about why guys in Williamsburg are so cold to their girlfriends, and why they seem to get away with it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a dinner party or out with friends - movies, openings. Vegging after a busy week. On my way out of the city.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
At times I fail in all of the positive traits I've listed in this profile. But then, that's partly how I have become aware of them.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you believe decent people exist in this city and you're not into endlessly dismissive window-shopping.

In fact, message me if you don't actually enjoy 'Dating'. I mean it when I say I'm looking for something long-term, otherwise I would have checked 'casual dating', etc.

(To me this is purely an intro site, not a pastime, so the idea of endless back and forth messaging is not something I'm into. If we sense a connection, let's get a drink. If we like each other, let's get a second or meet for another date...
So, to the person who orders 6 drinks and food, spends 5 hrs telling me how much fun they're having, and flirting endlessly, only to tell you in the light of day there's not romantic connection... go away, and leave me alone. You know who you are.)