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27 Tacoma, WA Agender, Transsexual

Agender, Transsexual

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:14pm
Pansexual, Sapiosexual
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Greets! Here are a few facts about me (because I'm honestly not sure how else to go about this):

- I'm a vagabond at heart but am currently in a dormant, education-gaining stage of my life.
- Borderline ENTP (1% E, 1% T; I apparently borked the test)
- Wannabe polymath
- Writer, palmist, ukulele aficionado
- Minimalist tendencies
- Pronouns are they/them or he/him, for the record
- I am in the beginning stages of hormone therapy; being an AFAB, I take testosterone to appear more androgynous so that my physical self can more closely match my inner self.

Also a super-awkward, easily amused dork, which I suppose is my most defining characteristic. Had to put that out there, just in case we have a conversation at some point in the future and I flub over my words or want to play some silly word game with you on the bus or sing because what you said reminded me of a song. I like to be silly, and tend to gravitate towards silly/dorky/awkward folk. If you're a silly/dorky/awkward folk, I want to hear from you! :D

I appreciate people/things/places far better than your average person, I wager. I suppose an apt way to explain me is the fact that I've always been damn excited about the universe and my life is an ongoing mission to indulge/explore in it as well as make sure that everyone else around me does the same.

By the by, I am committed to three wonderful people: kittytristy, adamthealien, and one other. Unmarried, no kids. I don't believe in "primaries," and like to keep my relationships separate. Mind: I never enter into anything I do not feel like I have time for. These days, particularly since two of my relationships are LDRs at the moment, I do find that I have a bit of time for dating and may be interested an a LTR as well, depending.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Ultimately, I never want to be tied down. In the (hopefully) not-too-distant future, I picture myself owning a home somewhere in the northwest where I may occasionally stay whenever I need to recuperate, but will mostly want to be out there, seeing the world! :D

So obviously this fantasy costs money, and right now, I'm not even close to making it a practical reality. My plan right now involves acquiring a degree in massage therapy this coming spring, finding regular work, and building a nest egg.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting lost
Being stubborn over asking for directions
Being MIA
Being easily impressed
Being objective
Keeping myself busy
Keeping myself company
Being the "reluctant leader." Never jump at the chance, but I do inadvertently plan well and have no problem taking the reins.
Making lists
Memorizing lyrics and melody (folks have dubbed me a musical encyclopedia)
Plotting out impromptu stories
Word games
Singing in general, though my long-time favorites have been jazz & opera.
Playing the ukulele
Giving massages (I actually do this rather compulsively around good friends)
The first things people usually notice about me
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People tell me, particularly because I'm short and love wearing vests, that I look like a hobbit. In many ways, this extends to my overall personality as well.

I suppose people also quasi-immediately understand how generous I am. If I'm meeting someone for the first time and happen to be in a position where I can offer them something (food, advice, etc) I typically jump at the chance. Also very forward where praise is due. You're gorgeous, you're gonna hear it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A Hundred Years of Solitude, Jonathon Livingston Seagull, The Fortunate Pilgrim, 1984, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, The Family, Pride & Prejudice, The Phantom Tollbooth, Passions & Impressions, The Hands of Day, Leaves of Grass, Anne of Green Gables, LOTR series, The Hobbit, Save the Cat

Movies: Pirates of Penzance, Chocolat, Adaptation, Pride and Prejudice (the older version), Knockin' on Heaven's Door, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, pretty much every Miyazaki film I've ever seen, The Terminal, LOTR, Anne of Green Gables, A Little Princess, Ghost in the Shell, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Chicago, Amelie, Big Fish

Shows: The West Wing, Doctor Who, The Newsroom, Community, Space Dandy, Legend of Korra, Adventure Time, Orphan Black, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Orange is the New Black, Parks & Rec, The IT Crowd, Fullmetal Alchemist, Terror in Resonance, Kids on the Slope, Firefly, Whose Line is it Anyway?, Twin Peaks, One Piece, Cowboy Bebop, Sherlock, Durarara!!, Avatar: The Last Airbender

Music: Pink Floyd, Supertramp, Queen, The Seatbelts, The Real Tuesday Weld, The Beatles, Thievery Corporation, Hole, Zero 7, Led Zeppelin, The Distillers, Amanda Palmer, Air, Deftones, Royksopp, Beirut, Yann Tierson, Beats Antique, Sneaker Pimps, Flogging Molly, Audioslave, Yoko Kanno, Rush, Soundgarden, Radiohead, Sigur Ros, Splendora, The Muffs

Food: Sushi, curry, stir-fry, pot roast, pasta salad, potato salad, casseroles, rice, macadamias, curry, raspberries, chow-mein, fried rice, phad thai. I love mixing things together and just throwing it into a bowl. All the different flavors hitting my mouth at once is a guilty pleasure.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
None of these count as "could never do without", but they ARE things that keep me the happiest when they do happen:

- Workouts so intense that they leave me breathless
- ...same goes with sex.
- Writing fiction, particularly when I have a really good idea and am depicting it well
- Long solitary walks
- Getting lost in a damn good book
- Belting out a damn good song
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I can make the most of my time, hands (I have a huge fascination with them), music (I ALWAYS seem to have a song stuck in my head), and figuring people/myself out. Sometimes it's fun to create super elaborate background stories about people, and I'm often surprised to find that a lot of the things I make up about them aren't so far from the truth.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably trying to chase after something new. I like to put myself in places or situations I'm unfamiliar or uncomfortable with, whatever that may be in a given week. If I'm not challenging myself on a regular basis, I feel that I'm not properly being "me."

What I find most enjoyable *these* particular days includes playing the ukulele, exploring Tacoma (relatively new town for me, and freaking gorgeous, at that), hiking, improv with friends (my best friend and I have a long-term "game" running in which she and I act out a wide range of characters sailing together for a quest of gold), contributing to a long-term collaborative story-blog, studying a million palmistry books, figuring out how to set up a mini garden in my apartment, designing decoupage projects, perfecting my bucket list, and learning new recipes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm very dysphoric. I'm not a FtM transgender person, but I *would* feel more comfortable in a male body as a genderqueer. Many misunderstand this want, believing that I, by extension, value masculinity as well. That is not necessarily true; after a year or two of hormone therapy, I would absolutely love to go back to wearing skirts and using makeup/jewelry.

They call it "transition" for a reason.
You should message me if
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you wanna date or friend a dorky, awkward queer. Doesn't matter where you are or what your background is. Speak up, and I'll listen. I want to build connections! Explore your brain!