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ambagesia

24 Somerville, MA Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary, Genderfluid, Genderqueer

Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary, Genderfluid, Genderqueer

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:44pm
Orientation
Queer, Pansexual, Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Space camp
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly), Irish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
What drives you? Take a while to think about it, then message me and tell me what it is.

Myers-Briggs typology is unforgivably reductive as far as I'm concerned. I'm an introvert (surprise!) and I tend to look at things analytically before I drip emotion into the brew, but there's such nuance within it that pigeonholing myself in a desperate quest for shared identity would be sacrificing authenticity. I don't accept that.

My canvas is college-ruled. I live for language. Unwarranted prescriptivism grinds my gears. Prescriptive rules lay the groundwork for being able to communicate at all, that's true, but once stigma enters the equation, prescriptivism engenders arbitrary shibboleths of the ruling class and is thus better dispensed with.

If the last three sentences resonated with you, message me right now.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Abiding by the campsite rule.

Sometimes I also QA software for a security company so companies don't half-ass protecting your data.

Trying to get my internal monologue to be in a voice that isn't Daria's.

Examining everyone's societal narratives. Mine, too.

Differentiating between stability and commitment. Relationships are always fluid and love follows no one's rules, but I want the people to be reliably there, whatever that means.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing huge walls of text in short periods of time.
waxing poetic about nothing in particular.
pretending I'm not a hopeless romantic.
losing at snowball fights.
mischief.
twice-weekly existential crises.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have no favourites; I have things that speak to me, that fill crevices in a sometimes-yawning expanse, that open and close doors, that hold my hands when I'm alone at night, and I have things that are just fun to run my ears and hands over. There's no most, there's different.

On the docket today:
Radiolab
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwE5eB3SXUk
Peter, Paul, & Mary
Guards, Guards!
Mallory Ortberg
Culinary experiments related to soup
Dungeons of Dredmor
Clawhammer banjo
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Compassion.

Everything else descends from that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."
-- Friedrich Nietzsche

"'I am not an angel,' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me - for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate.'"
-- Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

"Our lives disconnect and reconnect, we move on, and later we may again touch one another, again bounce away. This is the felt shape of a human life, neither simply linear nor wholly disjunctive nor endlessly bifurcating, but rather this bouncey-castle sequence of bumpings-into and tumblings-apart."
-- Sir Salman Rushdie, The Ground Beneath Her Feet

Ways to cheat the academic system and end up with a Ph.D. without having to sell my soul to Fannie Mae or commit myself to a lifetime of drudgery.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
shedding the confines of the corporeal body I wear during the work week and letting my aethereal protrusions rest and writhe freely in the gloam.

Otherworldly sentiences got to get paid, son.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you quote Tom Robbins at me, I'm easier than Go Fish. (Googling Tom Robbins and throwing a random quote into a message hoping to get laid does not count.)

I don't like red meat.

Nonmonogamy is how I do things. I don't identify as polyamorous because I don't like the connotations it's developed, but I won't attach myself to you exclusively in any sense, nor will I demand that of you.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you can't believe you read the whole thing.

you understand that I probably don't want to fuck you. Casual sex does not mean indiscriminate sex.

you have more empathy than a goldfish, observe what's going on around you, and aren't a fucking narcissist.

If you send me an overtly sexual or blatantly stalkery message, I will screenshot your bullshit and post it on Twitter with a caption about what a worthless clot of shit you are for wasting my time. I won't blur your username, either. Consider yourself warned. Messages trying to be clever about this are subject to the same treatment.