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35 Collinsville, IL Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 2:36pm
Straight, Sapiosexual
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm good at writing about a great many things, but I'm simply not used to writing about myself. I may periodically edit this section.

In many ways, I am a very private person, looking for quality over quantity in friends. I am not ashamed of my quirkiness, and ask the same in a partner. I'm a lifelong learner, always wanting to find out more about new things. Music and film are true passions of mine, and I don't mean in the "I like listening to music and watching movies" way. When I find something I like, I want to know as much about it as possible, and discuss it with like-minded people.

The dating scene never has been my favorite, as I am not much of a fan of the bar/club dating landscape. Usually, if I'm in a bar, it's because the band I'm in is playing there, because it’s karaoke night, or because I'm there simply for the company and conversation of friends... or the food!

I'm also not much of a sports nut, though I have enjoyed going to Blues games once in a great while.

Among my favorite things to do are trying new restaurants and types of food (I love to cook), laughing with and making others laugh, traveling to new places when I have the opportunity, supporting the arts, attending concerts (rock, symphony, comedy), talking for hours about whatever the conversation brings up, reading, and of course watching films and playing/listening to music.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I started anew after a divorce a few years ago, changing careers and living on my own again. After ten years, I left the field of teaching (which I still consider one of the noblest of all professions) and for a couple of years, I enjoyed the change of pace that the world of hospitality brought. It was a great experience, and I met a lot of wonderful friends. It was my job to make people's day better, which suits me quite well. However, the unpredictable hours, feelings of stagnation, and the itch to get back into the education world, though not necessarily as a teacher of teenagers, got hold of me, and I started a new job this past year, training teachers how to use educational software. It has been an exciting experience, and I have loved being able to travel on the job (mostly to the Chicago area, sometimes for days at a time), though it does mean I'm paying rent on an apartment I sometimes barely see.

I am bilingual, having majored in and taught Spanish (along with English and Film) for several years. I love that my new professions have provided me ample opportunity to use my Spanish-speaking skills in more practical ways than I ever could in a school setting. My travel time can be demanding, but I’m not without free time, which I find is best spent in the company of those dear to me.

I also play bass and sing backup vocals for a local cover band, but have no aspirations for fame. It's all about having fun with friends and making others happy. Music is my favorite creative outlet, and a great stress reliever.

So... what's with the relationship status? My significant other of two and a half years has been, and continues to be, a wonderful presence in my life, and has shown me love I had sorely missed in the waning days of my marriage. She and I are GGG, compassionate, and ultimately realistic. We've adopted the "monogamish" approach, which we encourage everyone to research. We consider ourselves more monogamous than non-monogamous, have established boundaries for ourselves, and do not wish to open ourselves up to danger and/or disease. Non-monogamy often connotes recklessness in the minds of those unfamiliar with it, and that is the antithesis of what it's about. It's not about betrayal, but rather honoring commitments to one another, while still allowing for personal space, and possible adventure on an individual basis.

That said, I'm primarily here to meet new friends, at least for starters.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...remembering useless information, particularly about music and film. (Example: mention a year between 1927 and today, and I will probably instantly associate it with whatever film won Best Picture that year. Needless to say, I'm not a bad one to include on a trivia team.)
...being a mimic, doing impressions, character voices, and accents reasonably well.
...having marathon conversations that cover topics all over the spectrum.
...identifying musical pitch and figuring out harmonies.
...using proper punctuation (including the Oxford comma), spelling, and grammar.
...making others laugh.
...being a shameless nerd.
...losing track of time.
...making my lists of things I'm good at and interested in way too long.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically: My eyes, pale complexion, freckles, and dimples.
Personality-wise: My politeness, dry sense of humor, and quirkiness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This will become the phone book if I don't watch myself, so I'll attempt to be brief here...
Books: The Dark Tower series by Stephen King (especially The Drawing of the Three); Things the Grandchildren Should Know by Mark Oliver Everett; I Am the Messenger by Markus Zusak; Midnight Cowboy by James Leo Herlihy; Harry Potter series; Brain Droppings by George Carlin; The Invention of Hugo Cabret by Brian Selznik; Continuidad de los parques by Julio Cortázar; Los censores by Luisa Valenzuela; The Monster at the End of This Book by Jon Stone; Animal Farm by George Orwell; offbeat non-fiction.
Films: Unforgiven, Godfather 1&2, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Fargo, Back to the Future, The Sting, Psycho, A Fish Called Wanda, The Shawshank Redemption, Cool Hand Luke, Rocky, Million Dollar Baby, This Is Spinal Tap, Serenity, Pump Up the Volume, That Thing You Do!, It's a Wonderful Life, Groundhog Day (on a very philosophical level), most Pixar, most of the films of Kubrick, Scorsese, P.T. Anderson, Jonze/Kaufman, Pedro Almodóvar, Ingmar Bergman, and the Brothers Coen. It's REALLY hard to keep this list short...
TV: Firefly, The Simpsons, Louie (and before that, Lucky Louie), Dexter, Mythbusters, Futurama, Daily Show, Colbert Report, Arrested Development, Seinfeld, Quantum Leap, Whose Line Is It Anyway?, NewsRadio, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, The IT Crowd, Daria, Mr. Show, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Soap, The United States of Tara, The Dick Van Dyke Show.
Music: The Beatles, Faith No More, The Eels, Radiohead, R.E.M., The Beach Boys, Pink Floyd, The Traveling Wilburys, Tool, Muse, Buddy Holly, The Mamas & The Papas, The Doors, April Smith and the Great Picture Show, Sarah Harmer, Regina Spektor, Badfinger, The Monkees (not kidding), girl groups (The Ronettes, The Crystals, etc.) and "baroque pop" (Left Banke, Love, etc.) of the 60s, good 90s rock (Alice In Chains, STP, early Pearl Jam, some Nirvana, etc.), Mozart, Beethoven, Handel, Chopin, Bernard Hermann, the list goes on...
Food: Pizza, steak, burgers, pasta, barbecue, homemade chili, soup, or stew, and though I never thought I'd like it, sushi. I'm trying to embrace veg-friendly options more and more, and love trying them in new ways.
Podcasts: I never miss The Savage Lovecast, and enjoy 99% Invisible and others that friends have shared with me. Always looking for more, since I love listening to them while I drive.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, music, film, food, sleep, and the pursuit of knowledge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. to be better. Personally, professionally, intellectually, socially, and otherwise.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
happy not to be working. Hopefully doing something fun and/or pointless with friends (bonfires, movies, cookouts, jam sessions, dessert, drinks, games, etc.) It's been awhile, but I also have a strong affinity for karaoke.
...Or I might be reading a book, or doing nothing at all.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have several Sesame Street songs on my iPod.
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