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40 Bellevue, WA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 32–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:12am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
A little extra
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I've lived in the Seattle area for 16 years. I'm originally from Houston, but I've never had an accent and I've never owned a pair of cowboy boots. I'm not even that fond of BBQ, and I don't like country music!

In a previous life I was a software engineer, but realized it was something I could do, but not something I loved. So I went to grad school, found my calling as an information professional, and earned an MLIS degree. After some fun as a PM at Microsoft Research (doing all sorts of things including research on Richard Feynman, Big History, scientific publication tools, and web stuff), I ended up at ProQuest doing data analysis and software stuff to help academic research librarians better do what they do.

Although my friends may not agree -- I'm definitely an introvert. I can put on a good act when I'm around people, but I always need to recharge on my own. I guess that's why I've never felt the need to always be in a relationship and consequently I haven't spent much time dating or in relationships.

The only interest I have in politics is the comedic fodder it provides for The Daily Show and Colbert Report.

I am risk-averse, thoughtful, and sensitive.
What I’m doing with my life
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I like to make sense out of complicated problems involving information, people, and technology. I consider myself an information architect, guided in part by folks like Richard Saul Wurman. I like interesting conversations and learning new things. Good questions are more satisfying than good answers.

I love arcades, and in recent years I've been trying to visit both old and new. It's nice to see the resurgence of arcades in the form of "barcades", and I intend to get as much playtime in as possible before they recede into obscurity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Problem-solving. Making absurd Photoshop creations. Listening. Providing thoughtful feedback. Amusing my friends with dark and occasionally inappropriate humor. Analyzing, re-analyzing and over-analyzing things. Playing devil's advocate. Being a good friend. Planning for worst case scenarios. Not taking myself too seriously. Spotting the missing semicolon in a long block of code. Spotting grammatical and spelling errors.

Note: This entire section was written for me by a friend. I didn't know what to put here so I did some user research! :-)

I'd like to add: video games (arcade, console, PC, mobile) and pinball
The first things people usually notice about me
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I talk fast and type faster.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a little ashamed to admit it (being a "librarian" and all), but I don't often read for pleasure anymore. I have been corrupted by TV, movies, video games, and the intarwebs.

Here's a combined A-Z list of my favorite TV and movies. It's mostly based on my 5 star ratings in Netflix, with a little creative juggling... It's also 8+ years old, but I don't feel like updating it!

Army of Darkness, Black Adder, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Dexter, Edward Scissorhands, Fantastic Voyage, Godzilla: Final Wars, Happiness of the Katakuris, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Joe's Apartment, Kill Bill, Little Shop of Horrors (both), May, Night of the Living Dead, Office Space, Pushing Daisies, Q - The Winged Serpent, Red Dwarf, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan, Time Bandits, Uzumaki, V: The Original Miniseries, Westworld, X-Men, Young Frankenstein, Zu: Warriors from the Magic Mountain

I almost exclusively listen to mashups, though I'll listen to C89.5 if I'm forced to use the radio. In high school I learned all the lyrics to a number of rap songs, and can still rap out several Young MC songs, C&C Music Factory's Everybody Dance Now, and 3am Eternal by the KLF. I also like the bizarre and funny -- recently a friend introduced me to some songs by David Allan Coe. In general though, I don't like country. I often sing in the safety of my car, and am not afraid to belt out Cascada's Miracle, or other tunes that guys should probably not sing. ;-)

I'm pretty flexible when it comes to food. I'm up for American, Indian, Chinese, Mexican, Italian, etc. But I tend to have an aversion to vegetables, and I avoid fish. Certain types of sushi is ok -- Blue C's seared tuna and eel are pretty awesome. Unless it is well hidden and seasoned to the point of being undetectable, I won't eat salmon or other fish. It's all too "fishy". Nutella is also very important, as is dark chocolate.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order...

Learning (school, internet, books, etc.)
Entertainment (video games, TV/movies, internet, boardgames)
Information (both for learning and entertainment)
Basic Necessities (food, shelter, clothing, etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This is difficult to answer, because I think about lots of things, and my focus changes from time to time! Games are always rattling around in my noggin though, and not just my interest in playing them, but also what we can learn from them. Recent science and technology research is in there too. Finally, there’s an ever present layer of silliness that co-exists with whatever else I might be thinking about. Life is absurd, and I think better understood by having fun with its absurdities. ;-)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

I should qualify that -- if I need to be somewhere at a certain time, like for a movie, I'll be there on time. But if it's a more nebulous meeting up kind of thing I probably won't be the first to arrive...

Going out to dinner with friends is pretty common, with or without TV/movie watching afterward. I used to play boardgames a lot, but in recent years I've lost interest, mostly due to the constant barrage of new games being played with little chance to play old favorites. These days I might be at an arcade.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been told that I am a terrible, yet extremely lucky driver. I think I'm just misunderstood. Plus, I've never been in an accident! :-)
You should message me if
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I've realized over time that I'm attracted to intelligent, somewhat opinionated, intriguing, funny women. I'm something of a strange duck, and I'm kind of hoping you are too. :-)