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24 Carbondale, IL Genderfluid


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18-30
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 5:02am
Demisexual, Asexual
Relationship Type
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Other and it’s important
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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"Happiness is like a butterfly..." Is basically the core of my beliefs on dating right now, and while that informs my outreach it certainly does not preclude it. I'm a grad student at Southern Illinois working toward a masters in communication studies. I am a consummate contrarian who doesn't become satisfied easily. Living in an absurd world and I am an absurdist girl. I'm skeptical of okcupid encounters as anything indicative of greater relationship significance, but still try to have fun with them.
What I’m doing with my life
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Settling into Carbondale, IL and grad studies
Looking into things like performance studies, biotecture, intersectionality, alternative sexuality identities, among other topics. I guess everything is all tied together in some sort of greater pursuit of truth it's just the digging deeper that's difficult.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
holding long conversations, with numerous tangents. Especially good at remembering where these conversations went into rabbit holes and bringing them back. Also I have the best sense of fashion ever. Think bright-yellow shirt with a sleeping Thomas Kinkade kitten on it and you've got my vibe, if only it had more garish neon.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not sure, it's usually not something that I inquire about when meeting people. Having met a few new people, people tend to notice several verbal tics of mine fairly often, or the fact that I can be very blunt and to-the-point when I talk. I'm not very good at small talk so I tend to not engage in it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Brave New World, Sandman, Song of Solomon, Oryx & Crake, House of Leaves, A Song of Ice and Fire, The Handmaid's Tale, Kafka on the Shore Travels in Hyperreality, Comm Theory textbooks, Heart of Darkness, Naked Lunch,

Movies: The Shining, David Lynch, Jodorowsky, and some other pretentious jazz.

Shows: Community, Revolutionary Girl Utena, Farscape, Twin Peaks, The X-Files, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Star Trek, The Prisoner, The Twilight Zone

Music: little bit of Leonard Cohen, some CocoRosie, Dan Deacon, Joanna Newsom, people tell me that I just like the sound of indie-sounding acoustic ladies and I couldn't tell them they were wrong.

Food: In general I'm fine with most foods, I try to avoid red meat when possible, and foods with a mushy texture bother me (applesauce, mashed potatoes, etc.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the great outdoors
There's a sort of high I get when I get really passionate about something, a conversation, or an activity, or a piece of art, and I love this high, I call it my 'fire' and it's a big part of my personality
games (of pretty much any variety: I think games are some of the best indicators of what a culture values).
transportation (I'm not a car enthusiast by any stretch of the imagination, but my car has gone many places with me, it's gotten me across the country and back and I have a great fondness for it).
New experiences, or at least the pursuit of them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How OKCupid can manage to find questions which are sometimes oversimple and seem to also stretch into some strange amount of depth. For example, "Which is bigger, the Sun or the Earth?"

The best way to integrate art with social movement practices in order to better affect social change in the world.

How pretentious the last thing I entered in here was. (and how inevitably I'll sabotage myself by posting something which I'll later regard as lacking in some fashion and will edit only to repeat the process again and again).

How anyone would dare do anything but abandon their car at a red light at 2 AM.

Where I'll travel to next.

Thesis writing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Thinking of how male posturing is really a vicious cycle. Going out with folks or trying to find something new. Researching permaculture.
You should message me if
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Anything here resonates with you, if you'd like to get to know me or ask any questions about the contents of my profile. If you'd like to meet up and talk in person, if you have an interest in performance art, discussing feminism, or any of that good social justice. If you want to believe. If you don't want to believe. If you want to argue about something, if you're bored, If you want to think up how to change OKCupid. If you want to think up how to change the world (and do it), if you want to jam, pretty much anything except proselytizing.