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archangelzeriel

34 M Upper Darby, PA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 17
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Anything
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Russian (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Greetings! I'm a happily married polyamorous Zen Buddhist from Philadelphia.

I'm here looking for basically two things:
New people to hang out with, in the categories of "people interested in RPGs/board gaming who're in my local area" and "people who need a canoeing buddy".
Polyamorous dating--my wife and I are in an open marriage, and in particular I'm of a mindset that says that love only grows when its shared more widely.

For the latter, I'm open to a lot of different types of people, but I do ask two things:
I'm serious when I want someone who's a friend as well as a lover-- I need to be able to talk to you about something other than the moment. And there should be something about you that's different or unique enough to catch my attention--being a computer guy, I deal with enough bland homogenized stuff all day, I like my friends and/or lovers to have something eclectic about them.

Why OKCupid? This is one of the few dating sites that is supportive of the open/poly lifestyle--it's the only middle ground I've found between the sleazy mostly-scam "adult" dating sites and the typical makes-assumptions-about-your-single-status sites.

I stalk people repeatedly all the time on here. I have trouble attaching screen names to personalities until I've seen 'em a few times, and I also tend to start looking at Quiver results on my Droid and then never get around to messaging them until a few days later.

Related to that, I have a habit of taking a quickmatch or quiver result and randomly clicking on people in the "similar people" sidebar. This is why I appear to be stalking a lot of truly random people.

I am large, bearded, and melodious.

One of these days I need to put some pictures back up, but discretion was a little more important to me there for a bit. My haircut up there is currently a lie--I'm growing it out a bit.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now, I'm a system administrator for one of the fastest growing small businesses in the nation--or at least the state. Hard to tell anymore. In the off hours, I play with my cats, play wargames, video games, and RPGs, read anything I can get my hands on, mow the lawn, and put together Lego sets and puzzles. I play a fair but not excessive amount of Rock Band/Guitar Hero, World of Warcraft (mainly with my wife), and EVE Online. I also sing along with my MP3 player--a lot. When I can, which is rarely, I play airsoft and paintball. Terminally geeky? Yeah. I'm loving every minute of it, though. What I need more of? People to do outdoorsy things with--I love all things camping, hiking, and especially love canoe camping, and I'm pretty much the only person who feels that way in my group of friends.
I’m really good at
Singing. I used to do it semi-professionally to raise money for my fraternity back in the day, and still rejoin the guys every few years for a reunion or because I happen to come across them singing a gig. I'm a decent trumpet player, a pretty good computer tech, and a decent shot when skeet shooting. My cats also think I'm a pretty good cat dad.
The first things people usually notice about me
The beard. Definitely the beard. I'm pretty noticeable anyway, being that I'm a pretty big guy. If you hear me before you see me, though, you'll notice that I'm a bass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is hard.

Music, I like anything. This is almost literally true--I can name something from almost any genre that I like. I'm especially partial these days to Counting Crows, Rammstein, Weezer, Sister Hazel, and my collection of musicals and classical. That said, my in-car rotation is heavy on Ani DiFranco, Dar Williams, Gorillaz, and VNV Nation.

Movies, I'm a little more partial to action and comedy than anything else, but I like intelligent action. 2 Fast 2 Furious is right out--I'm more a fan of Indiana Jones, The Lord of the Rings, that sort of thing. I think we're living in a Golden Age of superhero movies. I can't stand films with no discernible climax or plot arc, but I love a good drama.

Books? I can't even begin here. The last things I read were by Lois McMaster Bujold, Terry Pratchett, Maeve Binchy, and George R.R. Martin (yes, I'm the last geek in the world to start A Game of Thrones, apparently), and that guy who I can't spell without a reference who wrote Night Watch. Sergei Lushenenko? Can't remember the last name. I literally read anything I can get my hands on--I devour books.
The six things I could never do without
Cats, love, the internet, a comfy chair, my music collection, and convenient library access.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. New stories I want to tell in games, philosophy of life, why my cat smells like anything it happens to smell like that day, etc. One of the things about Zen is that you're encouraged to live in the moment a lot of the time, and this way I can say I'm following the tenets of my religion as opposed to "easily distracted".
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, either gaming, sitting and shooting the bull, or catching a movie. I've been known to whoop it up pretty good at the bars, too, but not many of my friends are into that, so those nights are few and far between.

I find myself being "in with friends" a lot lately, too. Even once everyone's scattered to the four winds, you can maintain a surprising amount of camaraderie with a voice chat conference call and some online games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to be secretly terrified about my physical attributes--that I was unattractive, overweight, whatever. These days, I'm doing much better at getting over it and just accepting myself the way I am.

I secretly feel a little twinge of guilt when I check out the profile of someone who visited mine and find "Christianity and very serious" or "I'm not interested if you're not single", as though I were somehow deliberately wasting their time.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're interested in a relationship with an already-happily married polyamorous man, and are not looking for a one-nighter, and don't mind a beard-sporting dork with a bit of a pudge on him (working on it, though!)

You're interested in finding a new board gaming or RPG gaming group in my area, especially if you're interested in something more adventure-y than drama-y. As much as I love narrativist games, some days you just need a pack of mooks and an absurdly high attack bonus.

You're interested in some hiking, canoeing, or camping. The idea of becoming friends and eventually doing something like a 3-day canoe camping trip down the Delaware is pretty cool.

Any combination of the above, for that matter.

Oh, also: if your "Most private thing" section contains a variant on "No" or "Why would I put something private here?!", then dock yourself a few points. Then get over yourself and put a funny anecdote in there. =P