I am an outgoing and friendly person, I can be quiet (but not shy), I'm optimistic and light, easy company. But don't be fooled by my light and relaxed exterior. Inside that is a complex mess of deep thought and a seeker after truth.

I love cinema, the theatre, literature, art, photography; not so keen on music, despite the fact that I used to be a musician, what can I say, I'm a mass of contradictions.

I also love learning, just for its own sake. I'm always teaching myself something new. Right now I'm learning Arabic and salsa dancing. But I have a very short attention span. I get really excited about a subject for a few months or a year, and then I get bored and never look at it again. This means that I'm a jack of all trades and master of none. I know the rudiments of a hundred subjects, but I'm not really very good at anything.

Socialising - I'm a pub person, not fond of clubs, because I think the point of socialising is conversation, and nightclubs are the natural enemy of conversation (I've always thought it odd that clubs are where you go to meet new people, while at the same time being the worst possible place to meet people). I also like pubs because they sell beer, which I've always been very fond of. Also up for any kind of party, particularly if it involves dressing up, or acting in a theatrical way.

I'm basically an aesthete (man, that sounds pretentious now that I've written it down!) I always search for and recognise beauty in all things, art, music, literature, but mostly just in the world around me. I'm surprised that most other people don't appear to do this. Maybe they do, but they certainly appear not to.

What else? Well I guess I'm a bit of a loner. I don't like to rely on anyone except myself. It's probably this fierce independence that has kept me single to this ripe old age. Again though I'm contrary, because at the same time I'm highly sociable and I love people, particularly clever funny people who don't take themselves or life in general too seriously.

I have a proper grown up job.

Drawing naked people - I spent a long time trying to make my way as an artist, but eventually I had to get a day job. I can still dream though (both of being an artist and of naked people).

I'm also really good at helping people to get drunk.

my thick Welsh accent.

a) I mostly like mid 20th century literature, both American and British, but I just love to read from all genres and periods.

b) My 57 favourite films, in no particular order are - Heavenly Creatures, The Deer Hunter, Life is Beautiful, Annie Hall, Crash, Jacob's Ladder, Reservoir Dogs, 2001, Gaslight, Red Dust, Bob Roberts, Falling Down, Festen, Goodfellas, Kes, Secrets and Lies, Sunrise, Monsters Ball, Schindler's List, Alien, Paths of Glory, Koyaanisqatsi, Dancer in the Dark, Logan's Run, Brief Encounter, Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?, Brazil, Evil Dead II, Aliens, The Omen, Silence of the Lambs, All Quiet on the Western Front, Sitcom, Faust, Withnail and I, Harold and Maud, The Sunshine Boys, Fight Club, Play it Again Sam, Cabaret, Spirited Away, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The Wall, Secretary, Flash Gordon, The Hill, Ice Cold in Alex, Rashomon, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, M*A*S*H, Deep Impact, Bugsy Malone, What's Up Doc?, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Ed Wood, Rosemary's Baby, Whose Afarid of Virginia Woolfe?

c) I'm having a bit of a music crisis. My collection is full of punk rock and heavy metal, but I've kind of out-grown it. I've been experimenting with classical, but it's not for me. These days I mostly listen to solo female artists in a jazzy style. And there's always been Bob Dylan and Neil Young, who have never let me down.

d) food? not fussy.

1) having female friends, I don't necessarily mean girlfriends, I've just always preferred women to men as company. 2) beer, I love beer, it's great. 3) some sort of drawing implement, I'd go nuts if my compulsive urge to doodle was denied me. 4) daydreaming, my main hobby. 5) BBC Radio Four, an oasis of intelligence in a desert of ignorance. 6) since I've got one left, I guess I'll have another beer.

art, sex, myself, fun, women, my job, poetry, money, fantasies, friendship, beauty, ecology, psychology, music, history, physics, mythology, aesthetics, food, movies, health, the future, relationships, politics, science, technology, life ...you know ......stuff.

In my local.

I talk to myself in the mirror like Travis Bickle.

you feel like messaging me - please go ahead, I don't bite (but I'm a fast learner).