I love going to events and doing things with my partner, but also need some alone time to recharge. I'm an interesting mix of serious and silly. I aspire to love whole heartedly but am very selective about who I associate with. I am easily amused, but not easily impressed. I like using lists because they make things look clear and easy to read, which is also like me! Here are some good lists that not only tell you what I am looking for, but also tell you about who I am. I am looking for an equal, so everything I want from my partner is something I bring to the equation.
Here are my lists:
Characteristics that I am looking for in a woman. She:
-can put me in check without being domineering. (Assertive but not aggressive)
-knows what she likes and doesn't have to make that into what I like. (Interdependent, not codependent)
-has her career and earned it on her own. (Self-reliant)
-should also take care of herself. (No smoking, illegal drugs, or obesity issues.)
-has her own car, place, money, job, and life. (Independent)
-doesn't need a partner, but wants one. (Appreciative and possibly self-actualized)
-is authentic, but also hast tact on when to be appropriately inappropriate. (Adaptively multifaceted)
-loves dogs and is a responsible owner who provides consistency. (Committed)
-practices what she preaches, especially when it's not easy. (Has integrity)
Here are my deal breakers:
Obesity: It's a symptom of deeper issues.
Drug abuse: Never have been into it, and not curious about trying anything.
Avoidance: If you run from your issues or are not open to learning if you have any issues, then we will not get along because I will outgrow you.
Passivity: If you don't like conflict and try to please people just because it's easier, then I would run you over and lose respect for you.
Cats: I'm a dog owner and appreciate the discipline it takes to have a good relationship with a dog,
Extremism: If you are an extremist of any sort and can't see how another perspective may also be valid, then we will frustrate each other. I like balanced perspectives.
I would like a woman who has had her metal tested through the challenges of life, but is not cynical or jaded; someone who can still hope for the best but knows how to deal with the worst. I want a woman who has stared down her own demons and is at peace with the imperfections and scars that make her unique, resilient, and stronger for having made it through her darkest hour. I need someone who has struggled and overcome, as this usually leaves her with a grounded perspective and compassion for others.
I was born in the Philippines but have lived all but 14 months of my life in the US. 23 years in MD and 19 in AZ. Yes, English is my first language.