So, I'm skipping all that formal small talk and getting to the heart of the matter, which is more telling about my personality than telling you that I like what every other sane person likes. I like using lists because they make things look clear and easy to read, which is also like me! Here are some good lists that not only tell you what I am looking for, but also tell you about who I am. I am looking for an equal, so everything I want from my partner is something I also bring to the equation. Here are my lists:
Characteristics that I am looking for in a woman:
She can confront others and hold them accountable without resorting to anger or abusive behavior. (Assertive but not aggressive)
She knows what she likes and doesn't have to make that into what I like. (Interdependent, not codependent)
She has her career and earned it on her own. (Self-reliant)
She should also take care of herself. (No smoking, illegal drugs, or obesity issues.)
She has her own car, place, money, job, and life. (Independent)
She doesn't need a partner, but wants one. (Appreciative and possibly self-actualized)
She is authentic, but also hast tact on when it's fun to be crass. (Adaptively multifaceted)
She loves dogs and is a responsible owner who provides consistency. (Committed)
She practices what she preaches, especially when it's not easy. (Has integrity)
She helps others by teaching them to fish, rather than giving fish away. (Carefully caring)
She laughs only at things she sincerely finds funny, even if it might be morbid. (Honest)
These are my quirks that I'd love if you also shared:
Dislikes large crowds of drunk people, but still drinks socially.
Dislikes driving in rush hour traffic, but loves to go on drives on day trips.
Not a sports fanatic, but can enjoy watching a game just hanging out with friends.
Is literate, but also loves to see movies and TV shows based on books without bitching about how much better the book was.
Won't shy away from an argument, but also knows how to argue effectively to resolve things.
Is health conscious but also indulges in guilty pleasures occasionally. (Desserts, mixed drinks, junk food at the movies, deep fried fair food, etc..)
Bonus points for the following interests:
Gadgets and technology
How things work
Here are my deal breakers:
If you run from your issues or are not open to learning if you have any issues, then we will not get along because I will outgrow you.
If you don't like conflict and try to please people just because it's easier, then I would run you over and lose respect for you.
If you have a cat, then I will be allergic to you and your cat. If you have a solution to my cat allergies, then this becomes a non-issue and I will admire you for being a genius.
If you are an extremist of any sort and can't see how another perspective may also be valid, then we will frustrate each other and I will think that you are limited and intolerant.
I would like a woman who has had her metal tested through the challenges of life, but is not cynical or jaded; someone who can still hope for the best but knows how to deal with the worst. I want a woman who has stared down her own demons and is at peace with the imperfections and scars that make her unique, resilient, and stronger for having made it through her darkest hour. That, to me, would be the grace and beauty of a soul with whom I would want to spend my time.