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Last online
Oct 9
6' 0" (1.83m)
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English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), Swedish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I like to think I think deep thoughts. I also try to better myself and the world around me, one insight, one person at a time. And even though it sometimes scares me, I'm a grown-ass adult, with all the changed priorities as compared to my 20's that goes with that. But with a huge silly side. One cannot be a proper camp counselor (my annual summer volunteer pursuit) without being able to be completely off-the-wall.

I see the universe as a place that gets more beautiful, more amazing the more we learn about it. Knowing the physics of light diffraction by prisms and water droplets doesn't make rainbows any less beautiful, and understanding chocolate's effects on neurochemistry doesn't make it taste any less delicious. I'm on a never-ending quest for knowledge and understanding, with the goal of spreading, as wisely as I can, both what I've learned so far and the infectious curiosity that makes me want to learn more.

A friend has told me that I sound like her inner feminist. I consider this to be one of the greatest compliments I have ever received.
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now I'm transitioning back into a career in IT, but for an organization that accomplishes much more social good than just filling investors' pockets with more money. I have put away my academic hat for the time being ... I will always be a scientist at heart, but the fickle universe has cursed me with a personality particularly unsuited to research.

I am spending increasing amounts of time and energy creating safe places for children, mostly in the form of summer camps.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bending computers to my will. I have worked as an IT professional for the better part of a decade, and I have discovered that I am generally quite good at diagnosing problems and tracking down a solution, even on systems I've never worked on before.

Singing stupid songs in front of large groups of people with no hint of embarrassment. I volunteer as a camp counselor as often as I can, it's part of the job description.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm often the loudest person in the room. I tend to get excited, and my volume is directly proportional to excitement.

Sometimes it's the tiara. It's an honest-to-god beauty pageant tiara bequeathed unto me by a former camper after the kids at camp dubbed me "Princess" one year. I like to think it really brings out my beard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many. Recently I've been delving into audiobooks on scientific approaches to understanding human nature by Steven Pinker and Dan Ariely. I'm stunned by Daft Punk's new album, but also enjoying a ridiculous spotify playlist I put together with a coworker. It includes at least half the Top Gun soundtrack.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My mind. And a bunch of other stuff that I think would be just devastating to lose, but I could probably adjust to not having.

For instance, part of me wouldn't terribly hate losing an arm, because it would just be my first step in becoming a cyborg.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Right now, how to make the world a more rational, reasonable place. Too much superstition and hocus-pocus. The whole world needs a strong dose of seeing the universe as it actually is instead of how we would like it to be. I'm trying to figure out how to help.

Finding the right balance between rationality and empathy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either drinking imported or craft beers at a local establishment or sitting around doing nothing important. Or watching a movie or hanging out with friends.

While in Iowa City, I found a great place about a half-hour's drive from my place for sitting and watching stars rise in the middle of the night. I need to find such a place near Des Moines, now, though with the light pollution it might take a little more driving.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have discarded the outdated and restrictive convention that socks should match.
You should message me if
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You know (or would like to find out) in what sense trees grow out of thin air.

You would like to drive half an hour away from the city to sit on the hood of a car on a country road to watch a meteor shower at 2AM. And then stay to watch Venus rise.

You might like to hear what I like to call the greatest story ever told (Hint: It's a story we have learned, as a species, through science).