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47 Chicago, IL Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Esperanto (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I live in Oberlin, Ohio, but often travel. My location (above) is where I am now, more or less. If we live far away and I check you out, it probably means I'm coming your way soon!


The quickest way to find out about me (well, sexy me) is to visit my FetLife profile -- it's under the same name.


I moved to Oberlin in 2009 after 17 years in San Francisco, and have had a hard time building the same sort of "intimate circle" I had back there.

I'm bi and poly, prefer BBWs and FTM, like to travel, and tend to change careers every few years.

I removed most of my photos from this site because I resent OKC putting their watermark on my material. I can point you at lots more after we start chatting.

I am restless, sensual, and coated in chocolate
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Moving from interesting thing to interesting thing. Finding new challenges. Rolling over in bed and falling asleep again. Mmm, sleep.

Professionally, I'm a videojournalist and writer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Playing instruments -- my degree's in composition, and my strongest instrument is the trombone. Mental arithmetic. Getting to the point. Teaching. Singing. Writing. Finding my way around an unfamiliar city.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Damned if I know! I see me from the inside. Would someone who knows me please call and tell me what to put here?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Work. It's the occupational hazard of the freelancer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cruising. Hey, it's the truth.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I put bacon bits and breadcrumbs on ice cream, and nutritional yeast on everything else.
You should message me if
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I generally won't contact you unless your profile specifically indicates that you're open to men in their 40s (close enough). That's especially true if you're under 30. I might be very, very interested in you, though, so please do contact me if you think we're a match!