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32 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 18–33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:52am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Okay), Turkish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Living between NY and Berlin sounds dreamy. But it really depends on the flight.

My room has an Anita Bryant record framed on the wall.

My favorite aunt and uncle grow their own pot for their kids so they don't have to buy the stuff made with pesticides. It's nice.

German beer has nothing on IPA.

I can probably save you if you're injured and/or dying in the wilderness.

I looooooove mistakes. I'm also into the art of listening and the sexiest thing in the world is openness when it's difficult.

I like to run. Metaphorically too.

I am listening to seryn now. If you knew who they are before reading this, we can do it on the first date without question.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finishing an important documentary while finding all kinds of distractions and reasons to stall. Loving and hating and running towards fears. I'm a freelance director/producer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening really well, creating awkward moments, empathy, and a few other things that don't make you a living, such as "dancing like no one is watching" when no one is watching, and sneaking wine bottles into movie theaters...

also, I'm really good at fun first dates... though beyond that, no guarantees...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
almost purposefully awkward. like in a good scene.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I live my life by the rules of Kramer.

A spontaneous unrecipied meal with great wine and Louis Armstrong + some biography mixed with Steve Reich, followed by some Charlie Kaufman or Shane Carruth and a long MB sesh.

Alternately, lead with Bertolucci or Haneke or even Pasolini. Then comes the MB sesh, accompanied by alanis. Catch up on some unabashedly gay memoir. Built up an appetite and feel lazy after all that so go out for something spicy or exotic with a real margarita. Dancing with minimal acoustic electro. And don't forget the night cap- Seinfeld or Kevin Spacey.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
mountains without roads in sight
the quest for balance between self deprecation and vulnerability
leadings up to
[insert some fancy vintage wine here]
a quest
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what's wrong with me
that funny looking lady on the subway
my goals and how to achieve them
my 5th grade crush
how much I love snow
why won't he look at me???
one more drink couldn't hurt
what am I doing with my life?
how would I say that in German?
and my screwy childhood
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking something tasty for social or artistic lubrication. more if I'm expected to dance.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After drunkenly hooking up with someone in a park that was closed for the night, I climbed the tall fence to get out, using a neighboring tree for support.

As I stood atop the metal precipice, my partner in crime shouted up a warm warning at me: be careful man, that's really high!

I leapt down to my demise: an ankle injury putting me on crutches for weeks, not to mention the embarrassment needing his help to limp home. The thing I shouted back at him, just before jumping?

"Don't worry! I'M A MOUNTAINEER!"
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. laughed even a little was a courtesy laugh would be kind enough to courtesy laugh while alone in your room reading a self-loathing personal ad on okcupid don't give courtesy laughs
...your friends are doing it

I recently received a message from someone: What makes you so good at first dates?

I'm probably awful at them actually, but I do tend to have fun. If you've read this far, you're clearly hooked so here's what I said in return...

I'm always skeptical of people whose dating profile default pic is a group shot. Since, well, it's a dating site, and the idea is to find someone who likes you, not you friends. I'm also generally upfront. For the Germans that's normal but for the Americans it can be... surprising :P

I'm not sure what makes me good at first dates, though it's a great question. Probably practice? lol. (there's that self deprecating tendency...) .... I'm great at speaking with strangers, getting to know someone quickly, turning awkwardness into fun, and being blunt and direct. So, it's usually a fun adventure, for the first drink, though beyond that of course, neither of us is ever interested...

I'm quite convinced, that has to do more with me than with the people I've been on first dates with. My therapist would probably call it fear of commitment but he'd never say that to my face.

What about you?

Cheers !