I also have what they call "geeky" interests, and I am more than a casual fan, but I neither go to conventions nor dress-up. A few specifics off the top of my head include Star Wars, Star Trek, Babylon 5, Stargate, Lord of the Rings (and the Silmarillion), Firefly, the Hitchhikers 5-book trilogy ;), Discworld, and the Midkemia books. I also like some classic sf, mostly Issac Asimov, but am not nearly as well-read as I should be. My opinions on several geeky debates are quite outspoken. If you want details, I'll talk your ear off. :) I'm also a redditor, and went to the Rally to Restore Fear and/or Sanity.
I am very emotional and romantic beneath the surface. I want the full spectrum of physical and emotional intimacy. I also consider myself very rational and intellectual, and yet embrace my inner child. I am compassionate and empathetic in general, and have an extremely hard time understanding people that don't care about others. Being actively selfish, catty, judgmental of others, arrogantly superior, and especially being proud or unapologetic of these qualities is a massive deal-breaking turn-off. I'm not saying I think everyone is full of flowers and sunshine, but I have heard people say some vicious things for no reason other than to say them, and to me it is NOT all in good fun.
I am looking for someone to share all this with. Someone I'm not afraid to open up to, to tell whatever comes into my head. I don't know if this will make sense, but I want a relationship in which we both put each other first.
I am quiet, intelligent, and (com)passionate
Less lofty things: procrastination aka finding reasons not to do what I'm supposed to be doing, keeping a messy room (not as easy as it sounds!), saying yes.
Movies: Fight Club, Dogma, Sunshine, Stardust, The Matrix movies, The Departed, The President's Analyst, Dr. Strangelove, Star Wars, most Star Trek (Reboot? What reboot? Surely you jest.), Animal House, The Fifth Element, Die Hard 3 and 4, Pulp Fiction, new Ocean's 11 (13 doesn't make the favorites, 12 should be taken out and shot), stoner movies (Harold and Kumar go to White Castle, Detroit Rock City, Dude, where's my car?), the ones I ran out of room for.
Music: Trance music (not to be confused with techno), lightly gothic music, Adrian von Ziegler, Evanescence, Nightwish, Ayria, Sarah McLachlan, Delerium, Loreena McKinnett, Jewel, classic rock, the Detroit Rock City soundtrack, Sheryl Crow, some New Age, traditional Christmas music (not a fan of Rudolph, Jingle Bell Rock, Rocking Around the Christmas Tree, and the like), other things I have forgotten or that don't really deserve to be in a favorites list. Lyrics are generally not why I like a song; keep that in mind especially about the Christmas music.
It didn't ask, but I should list TV stuff too...Burn Notice, Royal Pains, Leverage, White Collar, a lot of the Adult Swim cartoons (ATHF, Superjail, Squidbillies, Moral Orel, Metalocalypse, Robot Chicken), including some of the Anime (Cowboy Bebop, Ghost in the Shell, Samauri Champloo, Trinity Blood, Full Metal Alchemist, and Neon Genesis Evangelion; lots of philosophy in that last one). I have yet to see an Adult Swim non-animated show that did not fill me with rage :/. Family Guy's ok, Futurama is better. The more absurd shows (more absurd than Squidbillies? Surely I jest....) I like are Big O, Shin Chan, and Fooly Cooly. Guilty pleasures/fillers/junk food for the brain include the different Law&Order series, In Plain Sight, InuYasha, House, and Iron Chef (the original was more fun to watch)
Food: Meat, Cheese, Fruit, Cereal, Junk food (the BK double-stacker was made for me; it was advertised as having NO vegetables!), Italian food (I'm half Italian), pizza (I don't think that really counts as Italian), mall Chinese food, things I have tried and liked but forgotten about.
5. Some project or projects to work on, even if they never get done
6. Thinking like a child sometimes
Being actively selfish, catty, judgmental of others, arrogantly superior, and especially being proud or unapologetic of these qualities is a massive deal-breaking turn-off. I'm not saying I think everyone is full of flowers and sunshine, but I have heard people say some vicious things for no reason other than to say them, and to me it is NOT all in good fun.