Like everyone else, I am a flawed individual but I feel that my attributes greatly outweigh my shortcomings; I am still striving to improve myself butI have learned to live with my imperfections while at the same time recognising that they exist. Certainly, as I have matured I've become more tolerant, not only of others but also of myself.
I realise that the purpose of putting a profile on a dating site is to sell one's self, but I believe that making myself look more wonderful than I am would only lead to disappointment; deception is always temporary and honesty is a virtue I prize above all else, so I would like to make this profile as honest as possible. Having said all that, I think that I have more to offer than almost all of the single men I meet and I would be honoured to have myself as a friend if I were someone else.
I am a caring and kind person with an empathetic nature; people tend to trust what I have to say when I'm asked for advice and I think I've learned when it's better to refrain from offering advice (something I was perhaps a little too quick to do when I was younger). I've made my fair share of mistakes bur for the most part I have learned from them and become a better person. I have gathered a great deal of life experience and hope that I have managed to use the less pleasant of these in a positive manner.
I'm not a particularly materialistic person but I do seem to have amassed a great deal of "stuff"; I admit that I am something of a hoarder but I do use most of what surrounds me. I'm currently in the process of de-cluttering my life, which involved a recent trip to the local recycling centre with an estate car full of electrical items which had been stored in a cupboard awaiting repair, despite the fact that they had all been replaced! Money to me is a means to an end and I don't consider myself wealthy or even comfortable, but I do manage to live well enough; I would be happy as long as I could pay my bills and put food on the table but I seem able (most of the time) to find enough for the occasional luxury.
Everyone has their own definition and measure of success: I have yet to make my first million, but I have managed to enjoy life and live it more or less to the full (I could always do more, given the opportunity) without causing harm or impediment to others. I've managed to avoid a life of crime or substantial debt while at the same time being able to offer assistance to those who have needed it from time to time and I have made far more friends than I have enemies; to some, this may not make me appear successful but I've lived my life (mostly) the way I would want to do, which I think makes me successful according to my values.
I have a realistic yet optimistic outlook on life; I don't believe that everything is wonderful or spend the day with a grin on my face (I'm often told that I look depressed, usually when I'm thinking about something), but I do look for advantages rather than disadvantages. Whenever things are not going as well as I would like, I strive to make things better; when things are going well, I manage to enjoy it whilst at the same time recognising that things can be better still! I have the occasional period of inactivity, but, more often than not, I don't wait for life to happen to me, I prefer to make things happen. I don't know the origin of the adage "life is what happens to others while you're making plans" but it has a ring of truth to it, so I make my plans while I'm living (is that multi-tasking?).
I have varied interests and would have even more if there were more time: I don't routinely visit art galleries or museums, for example, but on those occasions on which I have done (I admit that I did so more regularly when I lived in London) I have enjoyed it thoroughly. My passion is music and my one regret in life is that I have no artistic talent at all, especially for playing an instrument; I do enjoy watching others with talent though and love gigs, especially festivals when time and money permit. I would love to spend the entire summer touring music festivals (as I have done in the past) but I do make sure that my annual "pilgrimage" to Glastonbury is a fixture on the calendar. It's a while since I have been to the theatre or cinema but these are among the other things I enjoy, as well as watching sport (I used to play quite a lot) although with regard to the latter, I am not one of those who is obsessed by televised sport. I also enjoy life's simpler pleasures, like walking or driving through the scenic countryside, as well as cooking. I am fascinated by many things and if there is something about which I know little, I usually find that I enjoy discovering more.
Socially, I am far too shy for my own good, but I do love socialising and meeting new people, I'm just not very good at initiating contact. Some people would consider me aloof at first, but those who take the time to look beyond the reticence and negative body language usually find that it's worth the effort; I may be a little introverted at first, but once I'm comfortable in somebody's company (I'm far more confident in small groups than large ones and one-to-one I'm rarely shy at all), I am capable of both intelligent and not-so-intelligent conversation. I have a well-developed sense of humour, although I can be too dry for some and have a sarcastic edge at times.
For someone who doesn't like to talk about himself, I seem to have written quite a lot so far; henceforth, I shall try to be brief! I live my life according to my own values and beliefs, which include respecting and honouring other people until they do something undeserving of such respect. I tend to trust people (not blindly or completely) from the outset rather than waiting for them to earn my trust; I look for the good in others rather than the bad. I don't take myself or life too seriously, except when necessary. I'm loyal, honest and honourable but have a tendency to be something of a loner at times; I enjoy the company of others but am also comfortable in my own company, something which I recognise that coupled with my shyness can lead to my avoiding social situations too often.
Although I have my own beliefs and values, I don't consider myself overly intransigent and I am always open to new ideas and opinions; I enjoy intellectual argument (I don't consider myself particulary intellectual, but I am intelligent enough to have that capacity) as long as the other party / parties are not overly dogmatic and we can all agree to disagree when no definitive answer can be found. I am an atheist but respect all religions and recognise the importance of faith in the lives of some; I recognise the importance of religious texts (whether it be the Christian bible or another work pertaining to a different religion) in establishing a social framework and a sense of order, but I have coveted too many of my neighbours' oxen to pretend that I live by the ten commandments (I'm pretty good at the not killing, not stealing and not committing adultery though). Politically, I am left of centre but have abandoned my aim of turning the UK into a communist state, having realised that the ideal is far more attractive than the practical reality; I'm not entirely sure whether I'm a right-wing socialist or a left-wing capitalist but I do believe that some degree of redistribution of wealth makes for a better world. I'm also something of an environmentalist, although I would rather hug people than trees! If I were born a few years earlier, I would probably have been a hippy-type person, although since most of these are now accountants, it's probably a good thing that I wasn't. I do believe that society is still recovering from the culture of self-interest which was fostered in the 1980s and that a sense of community needs to be re-established; I believe that we all have a responsibility to help each other.
I am a vegetarian, although I'm not fanatical about it; it's a personal choice (for various reasons) and I would not try to convert others. I will even go as far as cooking meat for others on occasion! I'm not a gambler, or a drinker (I enjoy a drink - sometimes to excess - on occasion but don't feel the need to get drunk every Friday night) but I do have a smoking habit. I'm not always the easiest person to live with but I am generally easy-going and relaxed, capable of compromise if I have to be! I will admit to being a complex person (I think most of us are if we look deep enough) but also believe that I am reasonably easy to understand.
Physically, I am in very good shape although I'm not the sort of person to spend time in the gymnasium; I don't take exercise for it's own sake, but I do walk whenever it isn't necessary to use the car and for pleasure. I've been somewhat fortunate in avoiding major illness or injury during my time on the planet and I think that I am in better health and more energetic than most people my age. I wasn't blessed with the most handsome of features but I did manage to avoid most of the branches when I fell out of the ugly tree!
In terms of relationships, I get along with just about anybody; I have no airs or graces, nor an inflated sense of self-importance. I do prefer the company of people who are sufficiently intelligent to hold a conversation but find that many people (especially those who have little academic bent) are more intelligent than they believe; knowledge and intelligence are not the same thing and the latter can be channeled in many directions. I would like to find new friends through this site, whether it be someone with whom to share the occasional drink, or a person with whom to discuss life and the universe until dawn.
In terms of a romantic encounter, I would be looking for someone to share my life as well as my bed; I have - apparently - an unusually high sex drive, so I would be looking for someone who enjoys the physical side of relationships, preferably open-minded and adventurous. I do have a tendency to take the Dominant role sexually but only to an extent which is consensual, of course. In the past, I have been involved in various kinds of relationship, including swinging, D/s, open relationships and polyamory but have always remained faithful as defined by the terms of the relationship; although the sexual side of a relationship is important to me, it is only part of a partnership which mutual respect, companionship, happiness and love (whatever that is!) are also among the aims.
In short, I am a caring, empathetic and free-thinking individual, solvent, independent and in excellent health, who is highly (over?) sexed, doesn't take himself or life too seriously and enjoys stimulating conversation; I'm intelligent, loyal, value friendship and believe in the goodness of humanity. I enjoy life, have a positive outlook and a keen sense of community.
I am impassioned, empathetic, and assertive