Polyamorous and sex positive. Expressor by nature.
A friend once said, "Dating is like a box of cereal; you've got to sort through the flakes if you want to find a prize." I thought that was fairly apt.
Optional: Below is something I wrote as a goof once, and liked enough to include here. If reading it amuses you as much as writing it amused me, we may get along.
Dear Potential Online Match,
Okay...here's where we decide what would be the most interesting, thought provoking, and alluring thing to say to express our own initial interest, and possibly entice the other person's. And we hope that what we say comes across in a personable, intelligent, confident, humorous, and, by the grace of god, attractive way, without sounding typical, unimaginative, or self-centered, when describing the things that we think are fascinating and important enough about ourselves that someone else would want to know them.
So, what do you need to know about me? Well, I have no ambition and no talents to speak of. I never go to the gym, so I'm fa-fa-fat! I breathe heavily, like a pug-dog in heat, whenever I have to lift myself off the couch in effort to retrieve another tub of mint choco-peanut butter ice cream.
But, thankfully, I have terrific fashion sense; stained undershirts and torn boxer shorts grace my gnarly form, as well as my apartment floor, which is what I use for a closet, since my actual closet is filled to the brim with X-Files paraphernalia (Mulder is GOD), old Michael Jackson mix tapes, and even older Nintendo and ColecoVision parts.
Let’s see...what else, what else, what else...oh, YEAH! I'm a LOUSY LAY. Terrible lay. I never give a single thought to "her pleasure". I'm really a selfish lover. It's all about ME, ME, ME. But, on the bright side, I can go for a full minute and a half, wheezing like St. Bernard with a collapsed lung all the while, before falling asleep.
Oh, and I'm hung like a kitten on a cold day.
So. If you are enticed by what I've typed here, then I hope you'll respond and tell me something SEXY about yourself. Meanwhile, I'm off to not shower, not brush my teeth, and waste as much time as humanly possible.
Stay out of prison!
Your Potential Match,
- D. "please call in 'Mulder' in bed" P.
p.s. In your response, please say something encouraging. My mother really wants this to work.
Though I've had monogamous relationships in the past, I'm very at home with polyamory, and most of the women I've dated over the past few years have been either poly-single or in open relationships. So if you'd potentially like to date me, that's something you need to be comfortable with. And if ethical non-monogamy is a turn-off for you, or you're on OKC searching for a husband for a conventional marriage, I may not be the fella for ya.
That said, I seek to make meaningful connections with intelligent, empathetic, facetious, self-aware women, and exploring those connections wherever they may take us.
I'm a filmmaker, musician, and vocal instructor. I'm just wrapping up final post for a feature-length drama that I wrote, produced, and directed. It's my baby, so I'm pretty excited about it.
In addition, I recently opened a voice training studio in Brooklyn, which has been keeping me busy, and shot an online video series on voice training and performance, which I'm currently editing and am planning to release sometime this coming year.
I'm lucky; I love what I do, and I get to feel like what I contribute makes a worthwhile difference in people's lives. On the side, I'm working on an album of original music, which I plan to start recording this coming spring.
I also produce and narrate audiobooks for the blind with a non-profit in my spare time. It's an awesome organization...they've been doing great work in the same location since 1931. Over 80 years! I think that's pretty bad-ass.
Great food and real beer
Film, music, books, other art in its many forms
Conversations that start when it's light and end after it's grown dark (or vice versa)
"To borrow from the cliché, there are many "us"-es...fragments that make up who we are as a whole; bits and pieces that resemble a complete person when looked at only from a certain angle. We sometimes tend to pass different fragments off to different people as the whole "us" -- and most of those people cooperate beautifully by only looking at us from that precise angle that makes the two dimensional representation look like a whole self. It's a wonderful symbiotic cooperative of half truths, an unspoken and unacknowledged rule of conduct between those who pretend to see, and we who pretend to be seen."
If you'd like to hear something more private that that, you'll have to work for it. Or, just ask. ;)
are welcomed and encouraged.
...you possess a sense of adventure. Whether that means traveling, learning a new language, trying a new cuisine, jumping out of an airplane, or just wandering around new parts of the City, and getting lost on purpose...preferably punctuated with stolen kisses on street corners.
...you possess a love for great conversation and debate; you're someone who can sit around for ages, discussing all topics, from the significant to the mundane. I'm a big fan of smart people who can disagree with me.