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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48-66
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:28pm
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English, English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am Funny, Smart, and Handsome
That's what women always say in their break-up e-mails, anyway. I'm also trustworthy, loyal, clean and reverent. I get the funny and handsome thing pretty regularly. (One woman said that I look like a Polish ax murderer in one of my pictures, but most everyone tells me I look better in person. Absurd. I'm not Polish.) Was told a while back that I have a great jaw crease. Imagine that. What IS that?
Fitness used to come from the dojo but now it's from the gym mostly. And work. Also hike, backpack, bike. I smell good and taste good. I don't smoke, do drugs, drink to excess or beat people up. I have all my hair. You should, too. No, seriously. I'm pretty strong, but I’ve studied bonsai and brush painting. I was a Registered Nurse, but have changed careers to landscape design/construction after even more education. I’m a big guy—6', 195 lbs.—and I practice Aikido, the martial art of peace. I spend a lot of time outdoors even when I'm not at work. My music tastes go from classical Indian to classical European to jazz to electronica.
A recent acquaintance called me "all man." I have no idea what that means, exactly, but I've been told that this is in short supply these days and that many were heading down to "Man Jose" to find someone. That's pretty funny. Another said that I was a geeky stud. Their words, not mine.
I like to cook, especially with and/or for someone. Seriously, is there anything more sensual than than cooking and eating together? Well, there's THAT, but I mean with your clothes on.
An old friend said that I was a "sensate". He meant that I take in the world visually and tactilely.
What is this thing about long walks on the beach. Doesn't anybody like a short walk on the beach or a medium walk in the hills? I do like being out in the rain, even if I don't get caught there. But I hate Pina Coladas. Seriously, what red-blooded guy likes Pina Coladas frcryinoutloud
I'm pretty left-leaning, politically. As in: I think Big Pharma should be nationalized and Ann Coulter institutionalized.
I don't know what to do about this age thing. People tell me I think and act like someone 20 years younger. Someone recently said they thought I was in my 40's. Point is, there are a lot of people with these rigid ideas of what this or that age means. I'm Iooking for the woman that isn't that limited in her thinking. Those who aren't, I've found, are the most interesting. I'm not dead, for the record, and continue to take classes and work and all.
I'm looking for a companion and a lover. I've met a lot of women who are too busy for the former and too scared of the latter. I don't push the latter. In fact, I'm monk-like in my patience. But you need to have worked through your stuff: parental, previous relationships, fearful weltanschaung, whatever.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working hard to create sustainable, beautiful outdoor spaces. Following a Buddhist practice. Trying to improve my Italian cooking. Continuing to learn.
Trying to find groups to move me forward. Am a co-leader of a sketching Meetup.
I've been working way too much because I don't have someone to do things with. I need an intervention to get me out of the hamster wheel.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Building beautiful outdoor wood structures. I raised a wonderful son.
I make a mean puttanesca. Wait . . . what does that make ME? (Hint: you have to know what puttanesca means.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
{The hot new glasses.} That sentence was from a couple of years ago. I've had two new pair since. When I picked up my latest pair (which have been called fashionable, thank you) I realized they're the same glasses I wore in my high school graduation picture. Every thing old is new again. Even me:-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read everything from Irving to Rushdie to Robbins and a lot of biography. Read Grapes of Wrath for the first time, recently. Incredible. Paul Simon is a national treasure. Couldn't name a favorite movie, because I really like movies and can find something good in a lot of them. Dwell, The Atlantic, Fine Woodworking and Cooks
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I really enjoy the art that I have--photos, woodwork, block prints, pottery, basketry.
Kind of Blue, The Brandenburgs
Gabby the Wonder Dog (Alas, she turned 18 on 10/23, so I will have to learn soon)
My S3 (it's a business thing)
Crusty bread, olives and cheese(What? No.That's only one thing!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The state of the world. (See Friday night).
Why isn't the Spanish version of People magazine called Gente?
A lot of people on here are talking about some glass and whether it's half full or half empty. I think they have the wrong glass.
Why do so many women think that men, or anyone, is so familiar with the Meyers-Briggs codes that they put them in their profile? Might as well tell me your blood type.
There are a couple of women on OKC who have been 53 for two years now and a couple more that have been 60 for a few years. One was 49 a couple of years ago, then 47, although she says in the profile that she's over 50. That one listed her residence as San Francisco, but says she really lives in the East Bay. It's a pity because she's beautiful and interesting and I don't care what age she is. I think we need Dr. Who to straighten this out.
I find it interesting that there are people on here who will date any race or any gender for any purpose (!)but when it comes to age, they cut it off at their age or 55. Curious.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The same thing we do every Friday night, Pinky! Try to take over the world!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I use all natural cleaning products and I recycle twice as much as I throw away. And I do this thing with my . . . . oh, right, not now.
You should message me if
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You're someone strong, intelligent, curious, creative, fit, adventuresome, sensual, well read, and open minded. You are not suffering from some disorder that makes you have e-mail conversations for several days or weeks and then panic when someone actually asks you out.
I have to make this a New Rule: no separated-but-not-divorced folks. I've gotten involved with three of these, all without knowing at the outset. Things go swimmingly for a while and then poof they cut things off without a warning. There always seems to be a lot of drama in their life, understandably so, but I don't want to be part of it.
I've now dealt with four women who corresponded with me for weeks, showing interest, but not really moving forward, and then getting some serious diagnosis that prevents them from meeting. Really?
And then there was the woman who made a date and then said she had food poisoning. (See "fearful weltanschaung" , above)
I don't want to date your cat or child or horse or that great sunset you saw or that meal you enjoyed last year or your son or daughter or you 40 feet away in sunglasses and a hat or you in [God! does EVERYONE go to Machu Pichu?] some exotic vacation spot. [Have to add: I'm glad you went to Macchu Pucchu. It's just that you 30 feet away in sunglasses and a floppy hat don't tell me much about you.]
In short, I want a women who wants to date, now, and expresses herself clearly on this site about that.
If your smart enough two no that their is not a word alot.
If, like Little Esther, you like your men like you like your whiskey . . .