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39 San Francisco, CA Man


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  • Ages 18–99
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Last online
Today – 11:29am
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body type
Used up
Mostly vegan
Graduated from university
Mostly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes cats
English, Japanese, German, Other, C++

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My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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So much and yet, so little

so often.

Not having as much sex as I am watching porn; not having as much sex as I am finding drugs. Not having as much sex as I can find rock 'n roll.

Too much of the rock 'n roll, bored of the drugs.

Not bored of the sex, but not finding the ideal permutations with partners often enough.

Really, really want to buy some new gear, budgeting, time management, manners and more have been improved substantially, but I am far from perfect.

Yet my take on daemons may be a bit different.

Writing, way too much for my own good, and more likely, for the good of much of anyone else.

Doing my best to keep quiet under duress and not always succeeding.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am not good enough at sharing more space and time with the lovers I miss the most or others comparable to them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have read, watched, listened to, played, performed, eaten and cooked a variety of things.

At the moment, Oe Kenzaburo's translated writings are coming to mind. Most of Miyazaki's work (I subtitled もののけ姫 [known as Princess Monoke] before it was released in the USA; and consider Gaiman's treatment banal), Otomo Katsuhiro's works & most of Studio 4°C's releases (I have not seen all of them, but have loved most of what I have seen and even met one of their producers). I love music though for live performers anything with Dirk Ivens is great along with the now defunct Babyland, I enjoy brutal minimalist Belgian E.B.M. such as The Klinik and older Suicide Commando but a *wide* range of other things musically as well, I used to perform as a trumpet player and even have some very obscure limited noise recording released somewhere. I go to live shows pretty regularly, have DJed sporadically for a couple of decades, and am looking to upgrade some of my gear to even more state of the art, even as my music collection is mostly far away from me currently due to circumstances not worth wasting more words on currently.

I prefer vegan food, but have eaten a variety of things over the course of my existence; I just find I digest simpler things more easily. I also teajay as a volunteer host at Tea Oasis in San Francisco on Saturday evenings; if you like 工夫茶, there is no finer place to enjoy such things in the bay area since the closing of Om Shan tea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
great laptops, faster unfiltered internet access, more income than I know how to spend, beautiful gracious women and imagination.

Oh wait, I do without a lot of that often.

At least the laptop is decent at the moment.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not existing (not joking, suicidal thoughts are a multiple times a day recurring theme in my life since I was at least four. I contend with it, but rarely share it and I don't threaten such things as I am somewhere past the theory of the quantum immortality paradox and mostly seek more joy in existence because it is unfortunately, quite infinite; I'm not too crazy, but I am definitely not normal).

My step daughter. Really, both my kids, but I've known her longer and may miss her more.

Other stressful things I don't feel like writing about at the moment, they take up too many mental cycles as it is.

Deeply nerdy tech esoterica; like nested virtual machines with multi-layered encryption. . . and other things I have built for fun, not profit. Why the open binaries movement is so much better than the open source movement, and how few people have been or ever will be a part of it because seriously, most people are barely literate, let alone code literate, let alone reverse engineers.

Making out, sex and all sorts of fun things to do in physical incarnation that I seem to do all too rarely, but hey, I am on a dating site for a reason. Please, help me think less, and enjoy fluid bonding type activities more.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Do I make a point to have atypical Friday nights and routine ones on other nights *just* because of this question?

No. Of course not.

However, I am sure it may factor in on occasion.
You should message me if
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Or you want to help me create a better job than some of the ones I have already had, and I have worked with some pretty amazing collaborators on occasion. ^_-

No, really, income is useful. Making bad tech work well, or at least better, for Fortune 1 companies is soul draining and I've already done that; I am sure someone is into funding some next generation art or abstract time manipulation tools? Believe me, I am more than worth it, though it may take you decades to realize that.

Note: you have to be smart enough to realize that time != money but some of each are still useful in certain amounts and frequencies.