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39 F Farnham, UK

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 36–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:55am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
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My self-summary
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I have spent years being told I am 'feisty'. I hate this word, everyone knows I hate this word. However, I have just looked the word up and synonyms include spirited, energetic and aggressive. Oh hell, maybe I am feisty. Although could we change the word aggressive to assertive please? So much more socially acceptable.

As with any woman, nay human, I am a mass of fabulous contradictions and confusion. I possess an ability to move from quiet, spiritual contemplation to dancing like bambi on acid in the time it takes for someone to shout "hey are they playing 'walking on sunshine' by katrina & the waves?".

I no longer listen to or watch the news. It's all just bad, sad, evil, negative and glorified for the sake of Daily Mail readers who want to hate and be angry. I feel happier for it but it does mean I am rubbish at pub trivia or topical conversation.

I am okay with this.

I am heteroflexible and sex positive. I agree; these are very grown up words.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work in a theatre making things happen - festivals, shows, salsa parties.. ah, the stuff of life.

I am also a Clinical Hypnotherapist, which basically means I help amazing people access their own amazing inner resources in order to transform their lives and do amazing things.

Currently also trying to branch into new adjectives.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Using bullet points


What I'm not so good at

finding bullet points on a keyboard

That is all.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
energy, life, beard

the wig

the corset

lately, the hat (trilby, top hat...)

body paints (there is surely no better way to make friends at a festival than by painting a nice sunshine on someone's face)

most of these probably wouldn't apply if you first saw me in sainsburys

in fact, I doubt you would notice me at all, so consumed would my attention be by the cheese counter

i currently have orange hair. you have a thing for annie lennox, yes?

okay, it's red now. ruby wax is hilarious and sexually appealing, right...?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books by my bed right now include stuff by Mark Gatiss, Sandi Toksvig, a collection of bisexual women's erotica, a shamanic healing book and some Natural Health magazines. Mm, not sure if these necessarily define me. Christ, maybe they do.

My film viewing tends to lend itself to the french arthouse genre.

Like hell it does. Basically, 10 years ago this list would have read like some posh swanky film nerd's list but at present my favourite films tend to have a plotline that moves something along the lines of girl meets nasty boy, girl gets dumped by nasty boy, girl meets another much more socially adjusted boy, something prevents the second meeting of boy and girl (missed train, death of a small child, some crazy mix up in communication...) and having forgotten to exchange any kind of contact details they lose touch (which also serves to make her rather bitter and distrusting of all boys due to her experience with 'nasty' boy to add to all this), years later they meet again at a charity fundraising event where she wins him in a slave auction and all that sillyness of years gone by is forgotten in a final kiss, oh and a wedding (obviously).

Am willing to be converted on the above.

Mid profile update: After having occasionally glanced over my own profile for what... months now... I have only just spotted my incorrect spelling of the word 'silliness'...

"Oh what a terrible shame; she would've been perfect were it not for that classic y/i mix up. Sure we could date, but it would always be on my mind".

I have recently discovered the rather delicious form of dance known as bachata and suddenly life makes sense. Basically the man has to sort of pop his leg between the woman's legs whilst they both do lots of wiggling of hips/bottoms. Those with a knowledge of the dance may feel I have left some of the finer details out. So, this kind of music now sits alongside all my old rock, soul, pop, blues, new country and the soundtrack from shark tale.

Sometimes chilli makes me hallucinate and I am always keen to replicate this experience.

Just been having a Chris Morris night and nearly did a wee...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
La Rueda

...oh, and the kids I guess.

oh oh oh oh and my new toilet seat. No, really, it is AWESOME. You HAVE to see it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I don't. I have the attention span of a gnat. But I am rather partial to a good list.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating Christmas pudding.

This will still be applicable in June.

Update: It is June. It is still applicable.

Update #2: It is still June and I had some Christmas pudding today. It didn't feel right.

Update #3: Right, let's just forget the whole Christmas pudding thing; it's no longer working for me.

Update #4: November and I am feeling the urge... may just pop out for mince pies and break myself back in slowly.


Oh god I haven't had Christmas pudding in *months* and feel I just want to delete EVERYTHING. But, oh the *waste*.. all that history right there, on the page... new visitors may never know...

August 2013: it's a bit nippy out tonight and I am starting the countdown...

Fuck it, the fire is lit. It'll be October in a few days. Man, that's pretty much Christmas, right?

March 2014: Shit, looks like I'm back on a dating site.

July 2014: oh look, back again. Well that went well didn't it?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
'Live & let live' is a motto I live my life by but when confronted by the sight of by very fat people in tracksuits (velour preferably), eating burgers, I kinda feel the urge to shout something iniquitous.. if they could be hanging around outside an Asda then all my social prejudices combine and I generally need to wash.

People who apply the phrase "well if i told you then it wouldn't be private" are missing the point somewhat and I shall never marry them.

I am 39 but I look and act absolutely fuck all like I am 39.

Just sayin' ... y'know, to all you 40 year old men out there who would date a 22 year old (*squeak... akkk*) but GOD FORBID you would ever have to clap eyes on the soiled crumpled flesh of a 39 year old. I will NEVER date you.

Yeah, you know who you are.
You should message me if
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You have an interest in the natural world that extends further than liking the Meerkat from the TV ad

You are ginger or ginger-at-heart (y'know, a bit spiritual/tree huggy/good to your mum/kindsexyclever/openly weeps when king kong gets killed/dancing queen/always wondered if maybe you were just a tiny bit gay...) UPDATE: absolutely nobody I have fancied this year so far has been ginger. Apart from that one guy...

Your body knows how to dance. Not just your feet hunny. Anyone who can Salsa, Kizomba or Bachata can queue jump (oh get me)

You understand that just because I've listed casual sex, it isn't a promise; it's a potential. Just something i need to clear up... y'know, because i often meet someone who has listed 'long term dating' and assume we're launching into a long term exclusive relationship.

Your search criteria age range extends ABOVE your own age and no more than 10 years below. If I haven't replied to a message, check your settings (and your motives)... I don't need to compete with girls young enough to be my daughter. I am far too interesting for you, thank you. And please stop getting so ANGRY about this. Yes, I'm sure you are "young for your age" or "hiding from cougars" but hey, y'know what, us girls can be young and funky too and we don't need to be the "exception" to your search criteria. And jealous? oh purlease...

you are planning to use more than 7 words for your opener and none of them involve the phrase "hi bunnie wanna fuk?". Come on, pretend you are the clever ones... this isn't pof for Christ's sake.

oh and I am terribly sorry but I probably won't message you first. I did it a few times and got NO replies so now I just browse/lurk/stalk. If I've been back a few times to visit I have either a) forgotten who you were already or b) started developing a crush. This happens.