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34 F Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:36pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an introspective extrovert with a distinctive sense of humor. Not unrelated, I'm a born and raised New Yorker. As much as my native city is part of me—when I’m standing on a subway platform I can tell from the timbre of a train’s rumble whether it’s a local or an express—I’ve enjoyed living in a range of places in the last decade, including Italy, Marfa, and LA. For now, I'm thrilled to be back in Brooklyn, near my closest friends and family, and working in a job that I love.

I spend a lot of time thinking about people (what drives things like the ways we share space on a subway car), art (it’s work and a passion), and the nuances of language (have a game with a friend where we think of common nouns and adjectives that could be names--Calorie? Plural? Ephemera?). I love exploring new neighborhoods in the far reaches of the city, typically with a good meal as the final destination. I leave my contact info on the windshield when I bump a car and I'm cute when I park badly. I prefer Brooklyn to Manhattan, farmers markets to supermarkets, and I usually have fresh flowers in my home.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a curator of modern and contemporary art at a museum you've heard of. Work is a real source of pleasure for me—I’m lucky to love what I do!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking intuitively, making analogies, telling stories, remembering the stories others tell me, empathy, putting people at ease, finding great restaurants wherever I go, enjoying New York.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curls. Smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A mix of all-time and recent favorites:

J.J. Cale, John Fahey, Dirty Projectors, Passenger, Florence and the Machine, Hank Williams, Cate LeBon, Noveller, The National, Boards of Canada, My Morning Jacket, Wilco, Lake Street Dive, Lyle Lovett

Wallace Shawn plays, Elizabeth Bishop poems, Henning Mankell (I have a soft spot for Scandinavian mysteries), Wuthering Heights (was named after the author of this one) and most Victorian fiction, Portnoy's Complaint, Camera Lucida, New York Trilogy

Annie Hall, Strangers on a Train, The White Ribbon, Rushmore, Fast, Cheap and Out of Control, Fargo, Winter's Bone, The Secret in Their Eyes, The Wire, Mad Men, Freaks and Geeks, Louis, Key & Peele, Friday Night Lights

A handful of artists I love: Goya, Matisse, Duchamp, Picabia, Allan Kaprow, Donald Judd, Dan Graham, Carolee Schneemann, Eleanor Antin, Martha Rosler, Chris Burden, Paul McCarthy, David Wojnarowicz, Cindy Sherman, Robert Gober, Glenn Ligon, Silvia Kolbowski, My Barbarian, Victoria Fu, Zackary Drucker, Ulrike Mueller...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the phenemonal people in my life (my wonderful family and friends from all phases up to now)

a little time to myself every day (or at least every week)

bubbly water


summer dresses

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Recent Friday activities have included cooking dinner for friends, finding the best Thai food in Elmhurst (it's not Sripraphai), going dancing, going to bed early...The rest of the weekend includes looking at art, exercising outside, and leaving room for a little idle time. For awhile I had a great Sunday routine which began at the farmers market and ended in softball with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I prefer reading newspapers in print.
You should message me if
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You're a grown-up. You have room in your life for a relationship--and the pleasures of that are a priority. The men I tend to click with are smart, empathic, passionate about something, and comfortable in their own skin. Hopefully we share a sense of humor because that makes everything more fun. Ultimately I'm looking for a partnership that's grounded in real friendship and which makes us both our best selves. Together, we're more than the sum of our parts.