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ashedale

41 Charleston Afb, SC Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:45pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I would describe myself as a reflective, health conscious, optimistic, loyal, open-minded, sensitive, sweet and affectionate individual looking for a like-minded person. I love to laugh and make people laugh! Although I must admit I am an introvert that sort of pretends to be an extrovert. In my job setting I sometimes have to be "social". Apparently I am a good actor or at least according to my friends. Haha! I love to travel and vacation about 5 weeks out of the year. My big interest in the last few years has been whitewater rafting. I have my own boat and gear, so I go quite often and take others along frequently. When I am living in Asheville, NC that is......
What I’m doing with my life
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I own a home in Asheville, NC. Currently I am living in Charleston, SC until Aug 30. I am/have considered moving to Charleston for good, but until then I will be down here at least one weekend a month after Aug 30th.

Spending more time on the inner with much less emphasis on the outer.......

Starting to realize that this present moment is all that we ever have. The past and future are simply illusions brought about by our ego.

Focusing on a flexitarian lifestyle consuming mostly organic, raw foods.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-making people laugh/smile (well at least I think so, ha)
-being financially aware.
-having discipline in health, fitness, and nutrition (and on rare occasions, not so much).
-what i really want to be really good at is being present/in the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my buzzed head, my smile or humor I am told........
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
-Books by Eckhart Tolle, Jon Krakauer, Dan Millman, and Joel Fuhrman.
-Movies like Shawshank Redemption, The Matrix, Vanilla Sky, The Departed, Breakfast Club, Saving Private Ryan, A Few Good Men, Fight Club, Inception, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, and the list goes on
-Food is mostly organic and lots of vegetables. I am not a vegetarian so to speak, but only eat about 10-20% of my diet with respect to animal protein. I do eat out and I do cheat. I prefer restaurants that are organic, but I have found only one in Charleston. Asheville, NC has tons! I miss the restaurants in Asheville!
-Music almost anything but Jazz and not crazy about Bluegrass or Country, but to be more specific Deadmau5, Skrillex, Tiesto, Linkin Park, Katy Perry (see below), Incubus, Coldplay, Calvin Harris, David Guetta, Smashing Pumpkins, U2 to name some of my tastes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-fitness of some type
-friends/family
-love
-faith
-humor
-alone time :-) (It helps me to recharge my energy....Introvert, remember?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A list of some things that I ponder:
-being present
-how to be the path and not to just walk it
-where I fit in
-believing I am worth it
-thinking everyone is a big deal and all good souls excluding NONE!
-if this moment is real or a dream or if those moments surrounding right now are a dream
-why anyone would be less than 5 stars?
-why people's outward appearance is so important?
-how to positively impact everything
-how we have everything right now
-how anything is possible
-why I get so nervous around women, lmao
-how much more fun life would be if we all just loved
-Never mistakes, only lessons
-the false self or ego and being aware of the difference between that and your true soul
-whitewater rafting
-where I will travel to next
-energetic frequencies
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not sure I ever have a typical friday...... out with friends, downtown, traveling somewhere outside of this area, reading, being on the water/river, or just being. :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Comes later...........
You should message me if
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You believe that you should........ :-)
You think that you and I are a match and your aren't scared to send me a message.
Your focus is something more than meeting a guy to take care of you financially. I am not looking to be used in that way. In fact I prefer someone that is "financially responsible" meaning you possess a mindset that makes it possible to look beyond the wants of today in order to provide for the needs of tomorrow.
You buy into the thought that relationships are most healthy when balanced. If one of the individuals is putting in a significant amount more time/effort than the other, then that relationship probably isn't healthy. I need a balance.
You understand that I want to be FRIENDS first. I am not into one night stands. Being friends to me also means that both parties are willing to initiate communication and one is not chasing the other. Understand that I am in here in the hopes that something blossoms for the long-term, but for that to happen I have to be friends first.