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43 • M • Seattle, WA
- Last Online
- Apr 15
- 6′ 1″ (1.85m)
- Body Type
- Mostly other
- Graduated from university
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Mostly monogamous
- Has a kid, and might want more
- Likes cats
- English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Okay)
Visiting Japan, again, and soaking in hot springs. Trying to found religion in culture and in place. Watching anime with supernatural themes.
Occasionally parenting my 10yo son.
Books: I buy books and then don't read them. My strategy for dealing with this is to buy reference-type books that I can sort of dip into and still feel justified in owning. For instance, I quite like The Elements of Typographic Style by Robert Bringhurst.
For fiction, I recently finished listening to this excellent LibriVox recording of Pride and Prejudice and am currently listening to Persuasion. Favourites include SF authors Bruce Sterling, Neal Stephenson, and especially Iain M. Banks. Past or favourite reads: Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell. Watership Down, Riddley Walker, Bataille's Story of the Eye, The Pillow Book. See also: http://ashley-y.livejournal.com/391201.html
Webcomics: Girl Genius, and especially, Gunnerkrigg Court.
Movies: Blood Tea and Red String, Wings of Desire, I heart Huckabees, The Wicker Man, Le Fabuleux Destin d'Amélie Poulain, Picnic at Hanging Rock, The Company of Wolves, Excalibur, anything by Peter Greenaway, some things by David Lynch.
Television: I stopped watching it, so I gave mine away. Still, I do watch British period fiction series from Netflix. Also, I quite like Aeon Flux, That Mitchell and Webb Look, Life on Mars, and especially lush steamy HBO/Showtime historical/fantasy serieses such as Rome, The Tudors, The Borgias and Game of Thrones.
Anime gets its own section: Darker than Black, Mushi-Shi, Last Exile, Haibane Renmei, Princess Tutu, Natsume Yuujinchou, any kind of "anime for grown-ups" really. Also the works of Satoshi Kon and Studio Ghibli. Netflix and Scarecrow feed my addiction.
Music: I've been going to most of the seasons of Seattle Opera since I saw their Ring in 2009. The Decemberists; Blur and pretty much any kind of BritPop; Thievery Corporation and most other Eighteenth Street Lounge; sometimes Michael Nyman; sometimes Dead Can Dance (I'm not a goth really). I don't identify much with my musical tastes, the movies might be a better guide.
Art: Symbolism, Dada, Surrealism, Superflat. Paul Laffoley. Anything that makes one's brain wobble.
Food: sushi and sometimes Indian. Local strawberries in our short season. I eat a lot of fish.
Drugs: Cider (it's an English thing I suppose), white and red wine. I don't usually drink coffee. I used to smoke (or eat) weed occasionally, and though I haven't formally given up, it's been many years since I've bothered. Absolutely no tobacco ever. FFS.
Games: board games occasionally. Computer games when I'm bored, Minecraft, Portal and Portal 2.
Politics: "Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.", which Václav Havel may or may not have said. Yeah, I'm pretty Euroliberal.
Religion: I'm a sort of heathen atheist. A sort of sceptical animist. Actually I was very influenced by this one book I read: http://summerisle.dreamwidth.org/353.html
I value the absurd truth more than anything. I think everything worth valuing is a manifestation of truth.
I can tell Helvetica from Arial, most of the time.
My mind is a mill, with a grinding stone and a sieve, consuming the corn of your excess ideas. I mean to say, I'll probably find something interesting about whatever it is you're passionate about.
I'm much more interested in trying to understand the world than trying to change it. Is that a bad thing?
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 28–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
I can do "friends with sex", but I'm really looking for something monogamous and long-term.
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