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30 M Columbus, OH

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:40pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Atheism, and very serious about it
Working on university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
**Important Note**
Please be aware that I am looking to start things with a conversation. That means that messages are from both of us, not just one person. If we start to chat but I don't receive a reply, I'll simply move on because I don't want to attempt to communicate with someone who doesn't actively reciprocate my interest.

Short version: I'm an atheistic, ecofeministic, social anarchistic, pro-science, cis-hetero white male.

I am a guy getting myself back on track with a life that, for a few years, has been off the rails. But I still have a solid idea of what I want to be doing (i.e. professor of environmental sociology/social and environmental activist/advocate for social and environmental justice), so I've got that going for me.

And, while life's not been particularly nice (it's been more of a grueling endurance marathon than I'd have liked to deal with), I still find that what matters to me has consistently remained - helping people, asking questions, seeking truth, and being empathetic (especially when it is exceedingly hard to do) towards those around me.

I should add that I do have a primary partner that I do care about, but I am looking for friends and other partners who'd be interested in physically intimate friendships. Openness and honesty matters to me and that is reflected in the choices I make.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently, I have one job as a bookseller (which is pretty cool because, you should know and completely agree, books are awesome) and landed another working at a sushi restaurant (which is an unexpected development for me and I'm sort of looking for something a bit more to my liking, to be perfectly honest). My short-term goal (which I hope to accomplish by the end of the summer of 2015) is to get my finances cleaned up and under control so that I can return to college and finish my Bachelor's Degree in Sociology and then head off to pursue graduate studies in Environmental Sociology (possibly in Norway or Germany because university there is absurdly inexpensive). Being involved in environmental and social issues has been a part of my life for several years and it's definitely a significant part of my future plans. I ultimately want to blend research, educating others, and consciousness raising activism into a single conglomerate form that I can have as a job.

I should make it clear, though, that my plans will lead me out of Ohio sooner rather than later. While Columbus has been a great place for my friends who call it home, it is more of a stepping stone on my journey to wherever I am going to end up next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
A wide variety of things that, if you're interested in learning about, can be a great way to start a conversation. SHAMELESS SELF-MARKETING STRATEGY

I'm good at solving complex problems and explaining complex ideas. They might be my two most advantageous abilities (although it can be a challenge for me to personally capitalize on them).

Baking. And cooking in general. If you get to friend me on Facebook, I'll absolutely be able to show you how much experience I have in the kitchen (and why it has been the bane of many of my friends' interactions with me there).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Is that I have a beard and long hair. And, since I am happy to have those things, I would like to take this opportunity to clarify that any remarks (because I've gotten them before) about "me getting more responses if I shaved my beard or cut my hair" defeats the purpose of wanting someone who enjoys me having a beard and long hair. Thus, I wrote this here so that you'll be able to know where I stand. In fact, my profile picture was taken because I'd actually wondered about the current length of all that hair (although I don't appear as pleasantly dis-positioned as I would like to have been).

As an aside, if you read this and think "Nice!", I want to say "Thanks" and "Drop me a message sometime" in return. It might be odd to preemptively send out a thanks to someone, but that's just how I am when it comes to my beard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - The entire Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series, Manufacturing Consent by Edward S. Herman and Noam Chomsky, Arthur C. Clarke's 2001: A Space Odyssey (and its sequels), Contact by Carl Sagan, Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, 1984, Animal Farm, Stranger In A Strange Land, Dune (along with its sequel novels)

Movies - 2001: A Space Odyssey, Shaun of the Dead, the Monty Python films, the original Star Wars trilogy, the Marvel Cinematic Universe films, "Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy" (a cold war spy thriller adapted from a novel but a damn good film featuring Gary Oldman, Benedict Cumberbatch, John Hurt, and many more amazing actors), Star Trek (Wrath of Khan through the reboot - I thought 'Into Darkness' was a good film but it was definitely not a good Star Trek film), the Marvel Cinematic Universe (by this I mean Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. and the other programs which are being made and released in connection with the MCU)

Music - The Diablo Swing Orchestra, Breaking Benjamin, Interpol, Disturbed, Pink Floyd, The Bravery, Killswitch Engage, Bela Fleck and the Flecktones

Food - This one's tricky, as I'm a vegetarian and a passionate maker of food. So, food lacking meat, eggs, and as minimal in any dairy products as possible could fit here, but I've not yet explored enough recipes to say definitively. Although, I should add, I have a fondness for baking cheesecakes. And, oh yes, I've made so many different kinds (and have so many more to experience).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Honesty
2) Curiosity
3) Thoughtful conversation
4) A kitchen
5) Principles
6) Books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things worth having a conversation about (along with a nice cup of tea).

A list of these include:
- How to elevate the level of individual consciousness with respect to social class and empower people to exercise their individual autonomy?
- What factors are most strongly correlated with transforming sustainability from a concept that an individual and community knows into a core element of their decision making processes?
- Can technology be made so that the consumer is informed of all the elements which went into its creation and have that information become highly necessary from any degree of consumption?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depends on whether I work Saturday morning or not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Will only be told in private messages because I don't have an interest in giving away things that are to be exchanged with people who have earned that privilege.
You should message me if
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If you look at this and KNOW that there is no other bedding set worth having on your bed.

If you watch this and would say, "That sounds fantastic!" Aforementioned video

You have a good reason to do so.

You're ultimately not looking for marriage or children - neither of these are things that I want for myself and I feel that it is far better to be open and honest with any potential partners about this fact.

You want a partner who enjoys the classical forms of relationship activities, as demonstrated by this artistic philosopher. Exhibit A

You want to find someone who loves to bake things that you can eat without guilt (I love to share what I make).

You're interested in someone who is not interested in monogamy. Because I'm not looking to do that again, as I truly like the idea of being with someone but also want the freedom for myself (as well as for any partner I'll have) to find those things in other relationships that either of us might not get from the other person.

If you're even just looking for something that is open and very short-term, feel encouraged to send a message my way.

You're looking for a cuddle partner. I will freely admit that my life has a sincere absence of those that I'd be happy to fill.

You'd enjoy having someone to check out films with on a regular basis, as I'd love to have someone join me in exploring that particular interest of mine.
You love pumpkin and want a fellow pumpkin enthusiast to share that love with.