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51 • F • North Tonawanda, NY
- Last Online
- Jan 4
- 4′ 10″ (1.47m)
- Body Type
- Full figured
- Mostly anything
- Christianity, but not too serious about it
- Leo, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Politics / Government
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
I'd love to learn to ballroom dance but I'm convinced I have two left feet.... would like to learn how to drive a standard shift too.
Communicating - I'm a three time college graduate who feels a responsibility to walk, talk, speak and act like one. Enjoy articulate people, even those of differing viewpoints who can engage in intelligent discussions without resorting to cheap shots, name calling, invoking party rhetoric or spouting religious dogma all while checking one's arrogance at the damn door. So no, I'm NOT a fan of Rush L, the NRA or the uber religious fanatical right. And I'm so damned tired of those who use the word liberal as a cuss word - have you ever looked up the definition: OPEN MINDED?? Reminds me of a favorite quote: Minds are like umbrellas.... useful only when open.
Dreaming - have a vivid technicolor imagination although my life dreams are not that grandiose. Reality.... it's a bitch but you deal with it the best you can. After all, LIFE is what happens when you make plans. Working towards achieving some of my dreams but realistic enough to know that not all of them are going to happen.
Learning - try to learn something new every day. The day I stop learning will be the day I breathe my last.
My smile..... it's shy but there. My sassy personality is always upfront though.
Have very long thick hair...... only two people know my natural color - me and my stylist and we're NOT telling. :)
Yup I wear glasses.
Books/Periodicals - Voracious reader. I read everything from Martha Stewart Living, Tea Time, Victoria, to Time magazine, The Buffalo News (ok often weeks later but I read it), The Tonawanda News, occasionally the New York Times/Wall Street Journal to Shape, Muscle and Fitness (once in a blue moon) and many others. My favorite authors are E L James (the Fifty Shades books.... I enjoyed these the first time around but now find the characters not well done although still interesting), Sylvia Day (the Crossfire Series.... sigh... Gideon Cross rocks), Sylvain Reynard (the Gabriel's series.... such a deep romantic lead character.... could any non fictional man really be like that?), JRR Tolkein, Christopher Paolini (the Inheritance Cycle), Frank Herbert (Dune), Robert Ludlum, Eric Van Lustbader, Clive Barker (boy howdy NOBODY writes like THAT guy), the Brontes (Jane Eyre is my all time fav), anything by Jane Austen, Stephanie Meyers (hey, I loved the Twilight books..you are NEVER too old for a good romantic story), CSI novels....... should I keep going?
My current reading list: The New Rules of Lifting for Women: Lift Like a Man, Look Like a Goddess - Lou Schuler
Cholesterol Down - Janet Brill
The Secret Language of Birthdays - Gary Goldschnieder - interesting book loaned to me by a friend
Zen for Dummies - also loaned to me by a friend
Music....... I'm all over the map when it comes to music. Love classical, some country, rock and roll, hard rock, R&B, oldies, old school rap, some rave/trance..... some of my favorite artists: Steve Winwood, Yes, Bruce Hornsby and the Range, the Eagles, Glenn Frey, Don Henley, Simon and Garfunkel, Paul Simon, Diana Krall, Sting, the Police, Paul Van Dyk..... you never know what will appear on my playlist! My favorite digital music channel is Soundscapes.... very soothing.
3) Pets - greatly prefer cats, not really a dog fan
4) Tea and occasionally coffee including one of my biggest vices: Tim Horton's English toffee cappuccino
5) Someone to love - right now that's my family, my pets and my friends..... and I'm learning to love myself more.... but have more than enough left over for a man who wants to share my life and rock my world. So what are you waiting for?
6) Working out - physically it sometimes hurts and leaves me uncomfortable but the mental benefits are completely vital to me - it's my sanity keeper. Have shed 26 pounds as of 1 Nov 2013... yay for me!! La Perla in my not so distant future? LOL
The best course of action to take for moving my dreams forward.
What is the next step in my quest for better health and fitness? Have any ideas you'd like to share?
Love..... respect.... someone to trust... how absolutely terrifyingly vulnerable it makes one feel. But what is worse is the fear that I might never find what I so badly long for...... refuse to settle just to avoid being alone however. Can't hurt someone, or myself, that way. Intimate relationships are a SACRED bond - a circle of TRUST. If both parties aren't 100% onboard, the relationship isn't worth fighting for. Am happy for the most part and do my best to enjoy every single day of my life but still looking for my complement. As Jackson Browne once musically and poetically put it: " Still searching for the missing colors in each other's paint by number dreams... " Unlike too many others on sites like these, I'm NOT interested in a one night stand or an affair - interested in a RELATIONSHIP only. I just can't understand why someone would want something less. I enjoy spoiling my partners and long to have someone who feels the same way; I have a wealth of love to give and want to have someone as the central pillar of my life. My name means " beloved " and that is what I wish to be for you.... your beloved.
- Straight guys only
- Ages 43–51
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating
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