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astrid71

43 Portland, OR Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 15
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an editor, a writer, and a sometime triathlete. I'm a typical northwest person in that I love to be outside hiking, camping, swimming, biking, etc., complain about the rain all year and then walk around the first sunny day of spring as though I just won the lottery, wear jeans to work, and slather baristas with a good portion of my take-home pay.

I'm into meaning; ennui just means something's really wrong. Take your nihilist ass to yoga or a really good music show. Along with intense joy I believe it's also necessary to experience the down side of life once in a while. It's an important way to become a better person. That said, perfect people are boring, and I take that small comfort in knowing I'll always be flawed, on rare occasions downright despicable.

I'm a single mom, and my kid is all set with a great dad who loves her, so that is not a part of the package, for better or worse.

It has been almost three years now since I split with the ex. We're on solidly amicable terms and we're fantastic co-parents.

I don't have a perfect vision of what I want to find here. I don't need another person to complete me; I'm not sure I need to live with someone and "grow old together"--maybe and maybe not.

But where it all starts is a friend--someone who is willing to share an honest connection, mutual respect and genuine affection. Add a little chemistry and it seems to me like it would all shake out from there.

One thing I'm not interested in is a casual relationship, and this has nothing to do with whatever level of commitment or physicality. It has to do with closing myself off and keeping an emotional distance from someone that I meet and continue to spend time with. I can't stay detached, and I also no longer see any reason to. I have limited time in my life, and it should be spent with people who mean something to me and vice versa.
What I’m doing with my life
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Starting over--again! Working at a job I love, having just returned to the town I love. Planning fun things to do with my kid. Finding a quiet corner of the big-box gym where I can do a no-equipment crossfit workout. Wishing for a little more sleep.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being genuine and nonjudgmental. Folding maps. Cooking perfect rice. Finding a way to incorporate trail mix into almost any recipe. Finding gold in thrift stores. Editing. Jumping rope. Putting together Ikea furniture. Shooting guns. Living off $20 for longer than seems humanly possible. Blowing through $100 faster than seems humanly possible. Writing. Discovering new things. Behaving myself when I don't want to.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I cuss a lot. I wear my heart on my sleeve, even though I always seem to forget it's there. I laugh at your jokes. You can tell me anything; I am a vault. Which is why I get to hear so much good gossip, but you'll never know what it is. I produced a gorgeous human being in my daughter. I have a large robot tattoo on one leg and a couple others you wouldn't see unless I pointed them out. I'm very loyal and a little sensitive. And I do a great Robert deNiro impression.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gary Lutz, Kevin Brockmeier, Henry James, Alice Munro, Louise Erdrich, George Saunders, Chris Adrian, Toni Morrison, George Eliot, Edith Wharton, William Blake, William Matthews, John Ashbery, Frank O'Hara, James Schuyler, James Wright, Lucia Perillo, Lucille Clifton, James Tate, Mark Strand, Denis Johnson, Lucy Corin, New Yorker, Harper's, Bookforum, InTouch.

Foul Play, Fletch, Little Big Man, Time Bandits, Kill Bill, House of Flying Daggers, True Grit, the American, anything Miyazaki, Tell No One, Borat, Harry Potter, Miami Vice . . . The Fighter, The Illusionist, Roman Holiday.

Air, Boom Bip, Four Tet, Anticon, Caribou, Panda Bear, The Knife, !!!, Her Space Holiday, Boards of Canada, To Rococo Rot, Daft Punk, LCD Soundsystem, Stereolab, Electrelane, Goldfrapp, Juana Molina, Prefuse 73, Lil Wayne, Wu Tang, Anticon, Deltron 3030, Ratatat, Antena, Portishead, Beth Gibbons in general, This Mortal Coil, April March, Cibo Matto, Miho Hatori. Joanna Newsom, Elvis Perkins, Jolie Holland, Bill Callahan, Wolf Parade, TV on the radio, Bombadil, Dengue Fever, Dirty Projectors, Flaming Lips a la Yoshimi, Grizzly Bear, Kings of Convenience, Midlake, The National, Neutral Milk Hotel, old Pavement, Future Islands, still have a special place in my heart for Radiohead. As for vintage music, I love Herb Alpert, Sergio Mendes & Brasil 66, all old muscle-car rock (much of which I can Karaoke the shit out of). Grew up on classic rock. Love Steely Dan, Fleetwood Mac, Heart. Beatles over Elvis. Necessary Black Flag/Misfits phase. I've never gotten over the Scorpions. I also listen to classical music but know nothing about it. Prefer the more easily digestible stuff, there.

I would be a foodie but I will never have the refined palate to be one. My favorite fancy meal is a lamb roast with a beet & goat cheese carpaccio, but I'd be just as satisfied by a grilled cheese sandwich. I do love to read a good cooking mag and continue teaching myself the craft. I'm just getting to the point where I'm learning which kind of recipes I can do well and which I'll just leave in the magazine. I'm not the best at making stuff up on the fly, but any time is a good time for pancakes.

Vegas.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good reading light.
My iPod.
Other people.
A sense of humor.
Side B of Abbey Road
A pen.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How mysterious the universe is, why my daughter is so (*^&ing awesome, how cool invisible hovercrafts would be, buying a house, story ideas, politics, the meaning of life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home watching vintage Spidey with my daughter.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My thumbs are double jointed. And, I have been drinking 2 Emergen Cs a day, even though the emergency is over.
You should message me if
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For gods sake, let's go have some fun together. Let's listen to music so loud we can't hear each other the next day or dance so hard we can't feel our feet.