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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18-50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 5:31am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
My self-summary
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I am often fascinated by information. It doesn't even have to be particularly revolutionary information, though I would argue that stuff like research into the placebo effect within virtual environments could have revolutionary implications (yes, this is the type of thing I read up on for fun).

In many ways, I'm a stereotypical geek. I'm on the higher end of time spent playing video games. Some of my first real friendships and other relationships as a teenager and as an adult were made or strengthened over Dungeons and Dragons; my wife and I played in a group while we were dating, so D&D can even be attributed to one of my current relationship. I'm sure there are also ways I'm not stereotypical.

As for what I'm looking for here. People to talk to and potentially grab drinks with is a great start. I love arcade bars, even though I'm way off my pinball game. I'm mostly looking to make new friends and connections; I'm open to more relationships if things go that far, but there is no pressure to take things further if the chemistry just isn't there.

My ideal romantic partners are people who I can talk to about pretty much anything - ranging from television and movies to the fact that there is a species of marsupial that is known to have sex until it dies. They don't mind disagreeing with me when they have different ideas. They're sex positive, playful and open.

If you're looking to date or be intimate with someone, please keep in mind that I am currently in an open relationship. My wife and I date separately, so you don't have to meet her if you don't want to, but it is completely honest and she will know about you. I may also have other partners with varying degrees of involvement and seriousness at any given time. If you're not comfortable with that style of relationship, we can still be friends, but it wouldn't go further than that.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a technology analyst with a market research firm, so I spend a lot of time designing surveys and writing about consumer research on social networking, mobile phones, video games and a variety of other technology-related things. I spend some time calling marketers and advertisers on their shit.

I also contribute to a business technology news site, and do some freelance writing and editing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attention to detail, but only when looking at large spreadsheets of technology-related consumer survey data. Otherwise, I have trouble finding things in my fridge.

Absorbing random and often useless knowledge.

Finding YouTube videos to respond to nearly any situation

I can grow a beard pretty quickly

I finished in the top 0.5 percent of Hearthstone players last season. That was pretty bad ass.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm absurdly thin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Dragonlance, Harry Potter, The Misfortunes of Virtue, Water for Elephants, Forgotten Realms, Mogworld, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting and an assortment of non fiction.

Movies: Saw, Evil Dead, Inception, Metropolis, X-Men, The Avengers, Hellrasier.

TV shows: The Blacklist, Criminal Minds, Breaking Bad, Lie to Me, Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, How to Get Away with Murder.

Music: Hugh Laurie, Sophie Milman, Lindsey Stirling, Peter Hollens, Within Temptation, Anais Mitchell. Various jazz. I occasionally still listen to Rammstein. Mostly when I need motivation and angry German music is the only way.

Video Games: Minecraft, Dungeons of Dredmor, Hearthstone, Ark: Survival Evolved, The Sims, Dragon Age (all 3)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet
Video games
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I realized that my manager and I tend to get really excited when we're super into a project or idea, and then we kind of feed off each other's energy. This means that sometimes our one-on-one catch up meetings get flaily and super excitable, which is amazing.

Some other things that sometimes that run through my head:
-Gender identity
-Unconscious biases
-How adorable/weird cats are
-The fact that we will likely have computers with comparable computing power to the human brain by 2025
-Genetically modified humans exist (also, several of them are high-school age)
-The various descriptors/activities we use as components of our identities
-DARPA made a robot that can learn by watching YouTube videos.
-How much my own biases and perceptions affect my research and the way I interpret data.
-I am sometimes disappointed that Eminem never called one of his albums "Mind over Mathers."
-Does an algorithm know who I should date better than I do (so far, the answer has been yes)?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a typical Friday, I'm probably spending time with one of my partners. If not that, then some variety of music/theater/etc. One of my favorite Fridays involved dinner and a jazz + burlesque show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes listen to No Scrubs

I enjoy rap songs about enterprise cloud computing platforms

I was once writing about cellular services and I typed "contract flan" instead of "contract plan." I then spent a good half hour imagining the zany adventures of a mercenary pastry that won't take shit from anyone.
You should message me if
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You treat others with respect and can contribute meaningfully to conversations.


You just want someone to hang out with or talk to. I'd love to meet in person, especially if it's over coffee/tea. But I don't mind more people to talk to online if you prefer.

You're interested in dating, but don't go into meeting new people with too many expectations.

You're interested in sexual play, but don't automatically expect it if we start talking.

You want to play video games with me.

You like horror movies and might be interested in going to see some.

You're interested in going out for crepes and/or martinis. This is the best way to get me into a suit, outside of speaking engagements, but I'll assume most of you probably aren't looking to have me talk at your trade shows. I'll totally talk at your trade show if that's what you're looking for, though.