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28 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:46am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats

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My self-summary
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I'm mostly optimistic, highly career-focused and interested in meaningful short-term and long-term connections. I'm a media junkie (to be fair, a lot of my job is being a media junkie). I may sometimes geek out about cloud storage at you, but I can talk about other things - social issues, politics, disillusionment and whatever crazy news is happening are some of my favorites. I tend to think capitalism is an alright system in theory, but it could use some more adult supervision than what we generally provide.

As for what I'm looking for here. People to talk to and potentially grab drinks with is a great start. I love arcade bars, even though I'm way off my pinball game. I am open to more serious relationships if we click and that's what you want.

My ideal romantic partners are people who challenge me. They're willing to discuss everything, and don't mind vocally disagreeing when they have other ideas. They're sexually playful and open. It also helps to be assertive.

However, if you're looking to date or be intimate with someone, please keep in mind that I am currently in an open relationship. My wife and I date separately, so you don't have to meet her if you don't want to, but it is completely honest and she will know about you. If you're not comfortable with that style of relationship, then we should stay friends.

In general, as long as you're honest about what you're looking for and your expectations when we interact, I'll probably get along with you.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a technology analyst with a market research firm, so I spend a lot of time designing and writing about consumer research on social networking, mobile phones, video games and a variety of other technology-related things.

I also contribute to a business technology news site, and do some freelance writing and editing.
I’m really good at
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Attention to detail, but only when looking at large spreadsheets of technology-related consumer survey data. Otherwise, I have trouble finding things in my fridge.

Absorbing random and often useless knowledge.

Finding YouTube videos to respond to nearly any situation

I can grow a beard pretty quickly
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm absurdly thin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Dragonlance, Harry Potter, The Misfortunes of Virtue, Water for Elephants, Forgotten Realms, Mogworld, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting and an assortment of non fiction.

Movies: Saw, Evil Dead, Inception, Metropolis, X-Men, The Avengers, Hellrasier.

TV shows: The Blacklist, Criminal Minds, Breaking Bad, Lie to Me, Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, How to Get Away with Murder.

Music: Hugh Laurie, Sophie Milman, Lindsey Stirling, Peter Hollens, Within Temptation, Anais Mitchell. Various jazz. I occasionally still listen to Rammstein. Mostly when I need motivation and angry German music is the only way.

Video Games: League of Legends, Path of Exile, Kingdom Rush, Minecraft, Dungeons of Dredmor, World of Warcraft. I'm also working through Dragon Age III, but it's a slow process due to real life and other games.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet
Video games
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Some typical things that run through my head:
-Gender identity
-Unconscious biases
-How adorable/weird cats are
-The fact that we will likely have computers with comparable computing power to the human brain by 2025
-Genetically modified humans exist (also, several of them are high-school age)
-The various descriptors/activities we use as components of our identities
-Anglerfish procreation is rather odd
-DARPA recently made a robot that can learn by watching YouTube videos.
-How much my own biases and perceptions affect my research and the way I interpret data.
-Recently, I was disappointed that Eminem never called one of his albums "Mind over Mathers."
-How much should I trust an algorithm in telling me who to date?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It depends on the Friday.

On some days, I'll be out there or going to a play/movie/show of some kind. Other days, I might just be messing around on the internet and playing video games.

Some Fridays I'm also doing some mercenary writing or editing work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes listen to No Scrubs

I enjoy rap songs about enterprise cloud computing platforms

I was recently writing about cellular services and I typed "contract flan" instead of "contract plan." I then spent a good half hour imagining the zany adventures of a mercenary pastry that won't take shit from anyone.
You should message me if
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You treat others with respect and can contribute meaningfully to conversations.


You just want someone to hang out with or talk to. I'd love to meet in person, especially if it's over coffee/tea. But I don't mind more people to talk to online if you prefer.

You're interested in dating, but don't go into meeting new people with too many expectations. Just let the chemistry do its work if it's there.

You're interested in sexual play, but don't automatically expect it if we start talking.

You want to play video games with me.

You like horror movies and might be interested in going to see some.

You're interested in going out for crepes and/or martinis. This is the best way to get me into a suit.