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32 San Diego, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:55am
Heteroflexible, Straight, Pansexual
White, Other
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hey, my name is Gabe! I am currently on a work trip to San Diego and Las Vegas that will last about a month, but normally live up north in Oregon. I moved to Portland after a childhood on a rural organic veggie farm in northern California ( Humboldt- if you know the area, we actually grew vegetables) and a young adulthood along the border in San Diego. I did the whole college thing down there, have a degree from it. I don't use this degree all that often. Nowadays I am usually busying myself working on/ throwing shows at the house I bought a couple years ago, playing music, or being a friendly landlord. I am committed to never making more humans, and hence had a vasectomy a couple years ago.

I usually practice non-monogamy. I am very honest about my life with those that are sharing it with me, and often my partners know each other. I can say truthfully that I have never cheated in any relationship I have been in, as I always discuss what the rules may be between myself and my partners and do not make or accept rules I intend to not follow.

I have changed a lot as a person since I started this profile many years back. I feel the name I picked for it, "attempting Life", no longer applies as it did at its origin- then I felt like I was trying to live without actually succeeding, now I feel that I continuously succeed at creating a very fulfilling existence that I will be able to look back at from my death bed ( assuming I die in a bed, rather than from an exploding helicopter or somesuch) and say "damn, that was awesome."

Veramente, non uso il mio italiano sufficente per fare questo in un manerisma inteligente. Ma, si parli meglio d'io, vorrei molto avere l'opportunita practicare con voi. Cucino un po di pasta fresca (non compro la pasta, uso uova y farina, faccio tutto da niente), compro un po di vino (si vorriste), ed facceremo una bella cena! Si vorriste parlare, sarei fare quello con vuoi!
What I’m doing with my life
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I play accordion, fistfight, and do other crazy things with a pirate troupe called Ace of Ruin.

I am slowly remodeling a house I bought with the help of friends living there. It is called Heretic House.

I ride my bike to get to most things not at my home and thoroughly enjoy it. I also pedicab part time, while simultaneously doing ridiculous other things like playing harmonica/ doing horn& bell performances/ talking to people I don't know about very personal subjects as they try to slap my ass or pinch me or get me to go home with them. I just bought a Ford Econoline Van, and am sure that will bring travelling hijinx soon.

I try to find some time for drawing, but there is only so much time in each day. I also would like to go out dancing more, especially of the ballroom/ salsa/ tango/ waltz variety.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I play the accordion and dance well, sometimes simultaneously. I give good massages due to having taken a bit of classes for such ( 6 months schooling). I'm good at talking to crazy people. I also can fix most common problems with bicycles.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have nice eyes, and also sport a bit more body hair than many men. Also, I often look like a pirate. At first, this was unintentional; now it is often cultivated.

Several people have told me I am ridiculous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like good things. I don't have favorites.
The six things I could never do without
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Here's some things I LIKE to have: good, fresh food, an artistic means of self expression and people that wanna see or participate in that, a comfortable place to sleep, a reason to get out of bed, someone(s) that is a good reason to not get out of bed, an accordion that sounds nice, a pad of paper and something to draw on it with, a nice bike, something I don't understand and someone that understands it and likes explaining things, a metal locking suitcase full of cash and alternate identities, the ability to help people that are worth helping and make them like who I am

che' quasi niente que non posso esistere sensa, ma che molte cose che non vorrei esistere per troppo tempo sensa.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain is like a blender on eternal frappe': lots of thoughts constantly mix through and not one sits in the middle for too long.

I often am thinking about ways to make my house better.

Also, I worry about overpopulation and overpollution, and what could be done on a morally conscious level to bring that down some. Currently for me, that means never EVER creating a kid. Not that I'm against raising one eventually, just not mine. I am in the process of getting a solar array installed on my house. I'm partly freegan, so that helps reduce my environmental footprint as well. I also ride my bike and public transit to get places as much as makes sense.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Regardless of what day of the week it is, I enjoy social interaction in open, somewhat unpredictable settings. Often this involves music, always adventure, never a deadset plan. This goes for any day I don't have too much that needs to happen, don't have to wake before eleven the following, and have a cohort and direction to head.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Let's retitle this "Things that I'm willing to tell everyone that might make them not like me, and if they don't, good riddance."

1. I sometimes do the freegan thing. This means I get some of my groceries out of dumpsters, and then make delicious meals based on what I can find. Still buy some stuff ( I've only found alcohol in the dumpster six or twenty times so far). I do this both because I am in touch with the fact that I don't make much money and would rather spend it on fun things that I cannot find in dumpsters, as well as lower carbon footprint. Plus, I don't have to feel guilty about eating fillet mignon if it was going to go to waste.

2. I will never be able to make a baby with you. I had a vasectomy in 2013. In my opinion, there are simply too many other mouths on the planet already; making more people seems selfish and mean; in my opinion the likelihood of an economic, environmental, and social collapse during the lifespan of anyone created now is high. If you really feel the need to be a parent, please consider adoption!! I am, in the longterm scheme of things.

4. I like the concept of and often practice non-monogamy. I will not limit myself from the possibility of relationships with others unless I think there is a highly probable chance that I would want to spend a loooooong, infinitish time dating you.

5. I am a type 1 diabetic. This affects my ability to participate in some activities, such as hallucinogenic recreational drugs or hiking for months without coming in to society.
You should message me if
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one ( or more) of the following applies:
You're a woman, think we might hit it off, and are not afraid of dating someone that may be dating other someones.
You want to play some music- I'm usually down to jam.
You want to be paid in booze to help me construct my house.
You want to give me lots and lots of money for no apparent reason or some reason I might be all right with.