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39 Toronto, Ontario, CA Woman


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  • Ages 27-47
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My details

Last online
Nov 26
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism and it’s important
Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Fluently), French (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm kind of a bombshell and kind of a klutz, in that I aim for "disarming", and often overshoot to "bimbo". I just don't really have the patience for being on either end of coy behaviour.

The kind of woman I want to be is equal parts Dolly Parton and CJ Cregg. I feel like I'm getting there. Over the past few years I've started to feel like an adult, and it is such a huge relief I cannot even tell you. I'm really into thinking and talking about personal agency. I realize this makes me sound insufferable.

(There is no followup sentence that explains why I'm not actually insufferable.)

I like watching documentaries, eating cake, playing Apples to Apples, hugging dogs, and talking about politics and culture. I don't like zombies, cold, intoxicants, and being told jokes. I love sincerity and skepticism in equal measure.

I'm a REALLY effusive person. This is important to know about me. Don't get freaked out!!

I met my amazing partner, Syntactic on this very website in 2008! He is blindingly clever, relentlessly patient, and we're trying to turn our life into a screwball comedy. I love him with all of my heart. You should take a 99% match very seriously, folks.

Also, I have been smooching CPD1981 for almost three years! He's such a talented hilarious babe. I'm so glad I typed "hip hop" into the keyword search, and that he took a chance on a gal with a boyfriend!

ALSO ALSO, I am so lucky to be in a family with Natalie_Zed, who is Syntactic's other partner. She is hilarious and loving and brilliant in this super low-key way. She is also one of the bravest people I have ever met, and if you mess with her I will fight you.
What I’m doing with my life
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Curating it. This includes making friends for whom I would want to make waffles, decorating my apartment with as much stuff from the "free" section of Craigslist that my fear of bedbugs will allow, knitting without a pattern, cleaning up cat barf, and trying to figure out what book I want to be reading.

Syntactic and I run a company called Townhall Communications.

Other things I have done with my life include:
1. Child actor (one of my movies ended up on MST3K!)
2.. Interpreting to/from ASL for a great Deaf student.
3. Moderating a busy political message board.
4. Owning/running a feminist communications company.
5. Writing speeches for Jack Layton (oh I miss him)

I'm (obviously) really into people who talk about their work. What do you do? What would be your dream job, if you don't have it now? That's not a rhetorical question! It doesn't have to be paid work, I just like to know what folks are up to.
I’m really good at
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* Community building
* Improvising meals
* Clearly explaining complicated ideas
* Giving pep talks
* Cable knitting

(In the sake of full disclosure, I am lousy at:
* Small talk
* Keeping a kitchen clean
* Cool detachment
* Letting go of grudges
* Intarsia knitting)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I can't stop talking about my murphy bed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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John Irving, Allison Bechdel, Barbara Kingsolver, Lawrence Hill, Lester Bangs, Anne Thériault, Aaron Sorkin, Chris Dart, Sheila Heti, Heather Corinna, and the Hernandez brothers.

Most pre-Hayes code movies.

Neutral Milk Hotel, Kristin Hersh, Stephen Merrit, Ad·ver·sary, The Blow, El-P, Lykki Li, Fever Ray, Rilo Kiley, Laurie Anderson, Santigold, Of Montreal, Nina Simone, Mary Cobham, Ian William Craig, the Smiths, Bruce Springsteen, Killer Mike, Laurie Anderson, and Buffy Sainte Marie. I have a music blog with rljd here: He is also one of my favourite musicians, and people.

(Nobody asked, but my favourite MPs are: Romeo Saganash, Charlie Angus, Megan Leslie, Olivia Chow, Andrew Cash, Ruth Ellen Brosseau, Carolyn Bennett, Laurin Liu, Rathika Sitsabaiesan, Chuck Cadman (RIP), Bob Rae, Paul Dewar, Libby Davies, and Jack Harris.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. clippers
2. hilarity
3. a plan
4. cotton
5. affection
6. media
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get people to re-learn the concept of solidarity, in order to fix our stupid culture and stop people from believing all sorts of wack shit that is totally not true.

How much Helen Reddy's song Angie Baby belongs on Bruce Springsteen's Nebraska album.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes my overuse of exclamation marks exhausts even me.
You should message me if
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You have read my profile. You are enthusiastic. You have an idea about how to make the world better. You have listed at least ONE female artist in your books/music/movie favourites. You are super pro-abortion. I can't figure out why conservatives keep messaging me.