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31 M Chicago, IL

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  • Ages 22–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Online now!
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I moved to Chicago from Norfolk, VA. I was stationed out there while I was in the navy, which I just left. I'm from Illinois, but not the city. Addendum: I've been here a few months now, and every time I do something that feels "big city" to me for the first time I feel like Mary Tyler Moore - I linked the Joan Jett version because she's a badass.

I have a degree in philosophy. I loved studying this, and chances are if you talk to me for more than five minutes I'll start pestering you on topics ranging from personal identity to free will or any specific philosophic questions that might apply to a field of study of your own.

But I'm also pretty geeky. So philosophical questions will - at the drop of a hat - take a decidedly geeky turn - When The Doctor regenerates does that constitute a different person? If you have super powers, is it immoral NOT to use them for good? You know, things like that.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a manager at an IT company.

Outside of that, I love to cook, read, write, and explore. I'm a homebody and an introvert, but still social enough that I enjoy throwing parties at my place. Small cocktail parties. I pick up new hobbies with reckless abandon. Lately, as it's nice outside, I've been biking, kayaking - playing outdoors.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking simple but good meals.
Roasting coffee beans.
Hacking things together.
Knowing where I'm going - literally and metaphorically.
The first things people usually notice about me
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people don't just shout out the first thing they notice about you. That's not the way the world works.

I hate this question.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Time Traveler's Wife, Pride and Prejudice, Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell, Short Stories by H.P. Lovecraft, Anything by Jorges Luis Borges, House of Leaves, The Name of the Wind, A Song of Ice and Fire series, stories about Sherlock Holmes (mostly by Doyle, but I have been known to read trashy/literary "sequels" to the Holmes canon).

The Lost City of Z, Harry Houdini: America's First Superhero, The Autobiographies of Harpo Marx, Bertrand Russell, and Giacomo Casanova.

Graphic Novels/Comics:
Locke & Key, Fables, Bone. - Vertigo/indie stuff in general.

TV Shows:
Spaced, Doctor Who, Community, Arrested Development, Buffy, The Twilight Zone, The Venture Bros, Veronica Mars, Better Off Ted, The Simpsons

Elvis Costello, Pixies, Talking Heads, Sufjan Stevens, The Protomen, Klaus Nomi

Miller's Crossing, The Big Lebowski, and pretty much every other Coen Bros. film, The King of Kong: A Fistful of Quarters, Millennium Actress, Brick

Food: Sushi, Irish (shepperd's pie mostly), Chinese, Japanese, Italian, I put jalapenos on just about everything. Lately I've been pan frying a lot of peppers, onions, and various meats. That's what I eat like 90% of the time I'm home.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

Something interesting to read.

Dogs - though I don't have one right now :(

A fully stocked kitchen. I *need* to cook good meals.

A fully stocked wine rack. I *need* to drink good wine while cooking. And eating.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
counterfactuals/possible world semantics
alternative currencies (ex: bitcoins, whuffie)
meta-ethical definitions
new recipes to try
books to read
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably cooking a nice dinner for myself and some friends. There's usually a generous supply of wine involved as well. And board/card games.

Otherwise alone. Voluntarily. I like quiet nights by myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I met a girlfriend of two years on this site. Another of six months. And a roommate I lived with 2 years - we only stopped living together because I moved halfway across the country. I hate online dating - it feels like applying for a new job - writing a cover letter and resume - and just doesn't feel romantic at all - but I will say I've had some good success from it.
You should message me if
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you're self-aware, intelligent, emotionally mature, open-minded, a reader, a casual drinker, like guys who cook, geeky, and like dogs.