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49 Los Angeles, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Okay), Other (Okay)
My self-summary
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Kind of an older mutt with no home I suppose. Born in UK of an Italian mother and American father, lived in London , all over the US and Scotland while at university. Carry American and UK passports, but feel very little patriotism or sense of "this is my place" for any nation. I have arrived at a point where I am much more interested in the day or week in front of me, I am not oriented to big plans or dreams, just enjoying each day for its own merits because that is all we have. However I intend to be retired in a few years or so, most likely Italy and if not there maybe France or Austria.

I am grateful for my health (I came close to death last year) and my state of affairs. I am happily divorced, I have four dogs and a goldfish (all rescues), I live in a lovely home, I have everything I could want and I travel when and how I choose. At an early age I was fortunate enough to enjoy nice things (my first car was an Aston Martin, we traveled a lot, both of my parents made sure I was exposed to nicer experiences) so now I just seek out what pleases me vs. chasing down status markers. I have no desire to compete or compare myself to others. I am a very content person as opposed to mindless happiness as some form of mantra or opiate (a la Soma).

I am vegetarian for animal rights reasons (not preachy about it but I ask you to respect it), and I am very supportive of animal charities - in particular one in Naples, Italy (I am their main supporter). I am socialist (my colleagues jokingly call me a 'Mercedes Marxist') because I believe the collective well-being is more important than individual gain - To quote the great art historian Kenneth Clark "heroic materialism just isn't enough" to sustain a civilization.

“Only when the last tree has died, the last river has been poisoned, and the last fish has been caught will we realize we cannot eat money.” ~ Cree proverb

All in all I would say I am fairly intense, curious, love to laugh and a compassionate soul, often a loner (am an only child and both parents have passed away), with a taste for a more European way of living.

More than anything I am looking to meet someone who enjoys conversation about abstract things over a decent meal and/or drinks, art museums, classical concerts, hiking/long walks, the odd long weekend. Is well traveled and educated. Someone who has their own life and likes it yet wants to have moments of interesting engagement vs. someone who is looking to be completed by their other half. I am whole and content, and I tend to get on better with those who are as well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living by the philosophy of "wanting what I have" vs. "having what I want". Trying to live a decent life that does as little harm to others. I try to enjoy each day and be grateful for things like my health, the fresh air I breathe and my dogs. Every day I feed the birds and squirrels in my garden - we've done so much to them I feel we owe them something back. Seeing them all busy and happy each day is a rare and yet free treat. Creation trumps the created every time.

I enjoy cooking and drinking. I love high art and culture. I have two old racing bicycles I ride on the weekend. I am often swanning around LACMA or the Getty. I swim in my pool. I drive old cars, one is a classic not allowed in the US but mine sneaked in ('Der Erste Porsche Killer'). I don't have food processors but still use my mother's old Sabatier knives. I prefer the way mechanical things feel to those that are electronic/digital. It is not the technology that matters it is the the experience that matters. I will never have a 'man cave'

A good holiday for me? renting a house in Bellagio on Lake Como or in the Loire Valley, or lovely hotel in Vienna or Prague. Never a cruise or golf resort.

I live small but with, I believe, good taste. As I write this it is morning, the birds are eating the seeds I put out, I am in my garden listening to a Salieri* piano concerto drinking an espresso and very content.

*the 80's film about Mozart is pretty poor, see the one with Oskar Werner instead, 'The Life and Loves of Mozart' (1955)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
You would need to tell me I suppose. But if pressed I would say: sharing humor, helping animals, conversation and discussion, making people feel important, cooking, fixing things, general knowledge.

I believe in EQUALITY but not similarity. The difference in men and women is wonderful and should be embraced however I have effectively zero sexism in me. I treat women with scrupulous fairness, and usually a gentleman (unless I am treated rudely), and I expect the same. It goes a very long way indeed when a lady offers to buy dinner or drinks now and then.

If we meet I will kiss both your cheeks; shaking hands is for adversaries to ensure neither is carrying a carrying a dagger or for cheesy business people. If we meet neither need applies :-)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Eccentricity, my eyes, usually stubble, my odd views, my general knowledge, my vintage/retro clothes.

To borrow from my favorite film's lead character, Bertrand Morane, I am "like a wolf with a worried look on his face"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am a person with a much greater interest in the past than the current when it comes to entertainment. Not surprisingly I LOVE HISTORY - military, economic, art, fashion, all. My degree is Modern European History.

I read a lot, mainly history but am happy to read fiction. On my bookshelves you will see everything; from a bible to Larson to Trotsky to a book about "Blackadder". I read BOOKS, real printed books, it is a true pleasure for me. Right now reading "What Fresh Lunacy Is" a biography of Oliver Reed

I love music - classical all the time and in a perverse way I like Jim Svejda on KUSC (in especial Beethoven, Mozart, Haydn and Schubert), older Italian and French pop (I adore Gainsbourg and Hardy), singer-songwriter genius like Cat Stevens, Leo Kottke, early British New Wave like Joe Jackson or Undertones. Springsteen and Mellencamp, Red Army Choir, old reggae, BB King, Engelbert; Nat King Cole, Gene Pitney and Roy Orbison.

Some favorite places? Vienna, Prague, Helsinki, Munich, Loire Valley, Sicily, Piedmont and Tuscany, Kauai. I travel to Kauai in two weeks to hike and am in Wales and West Country of England to tour by car in September.

I rely on The Week or the for my news, or sometimes the BBC. I try to avoid the mainstream 'news', it is mostly depressing and sensationalism.

60s and 70s French film (Nouvelle Vague), favorite films are "The Man Who Loved Women", "Z" (1969), "Blow Up", "The Third Man", "A Bridge Too Far", "Farenheit 451", Doris Day-Rock Hudson films, "The Swimmer", Hitchcock ("Frenzy" is the best), and Bond through "Live and Let Die" (I think the new stuff is rubbish) and "The Right Stuff". My most recent cinema film is Grand Hotel Budapest (odd but truly fresh), old cinema at LACMA was Klute (Hanoi Jane very sexy) and on Netflix 'The Optimists' with Peter Sellers.
I love chatting about film. In fact I love chatting.

I love old TV too; The Saint, Twilight Zone, Are You Being Served?, Mary Tyler Moore (she is just lovely), old Dr. Who (Pertwee), Sanford and Son, Hawaii Five-0, Odd Couple, Mod Squad, Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, Dad's Army, Foyle's War, Inspector Lewis, and Big Bang Theory (if am I in the mood for new stuff), etc. I am sorry but I can't watch Downton Abbey, my socialism makes me hate the context.

Being a vegetarian and Italian I prefer Italian cuisine, in especial that from the south. But also like Spanish, Lebanese, Turkish, Greek and some Asian. My favorite drinks are Cinzano, Campari, Pimms and Prosecco. I love to cook.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Animals and nature*
2. Western civilization and travel in Europe to experience it
3. Helping and giving to animal/environment charities
4. I adore food and drink (and I have been told to say I am "four-twenty friendly")
5. Laughing
6. The little things I love - like Cinzano, fresh bread and olives, on my patio listening to Dvorak while watching hummingbirds

*You will see I don't like cats - that does not mean "hate" it just means without "like" - that is because I am very pro wild birds and my dogs are very anti cat
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- our planet - and how lovely nature is - grateful for creation
- animal welfare (please don't buy a pet - ADOPT)
- the past - memories are wonderful treasure
- missing my parents and past pets
- just random stuff, my mind wanders a lot
- why is it the ladies who like me (and often who I like) are not nearby? never Brentwood, Santa Monica, Malibu or Palisades almost always Silverlake, Pasadena, Downtown, The Valley, etc. scare bleu :-(
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Nothing remarkable, maybe a quick ride to Ocean Ave, some wine, a good meal, maybe a good film or a book. And if I am feeling sad there is nothing like snuggling with my dogs, drinking wine and watching Golden Girls - I love Sophia's rudeness.

or maybe with you at LACMA drinking prosecco, eating olives and bread
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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On the surface I appear an extrovert but I am really an introvert. I have so practiced being outgoing for work that the mask has become reality, in fact the mask may be the best window into my reality
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like something in my profile. And you are within about a 20 minute drive or less from where I live. I am very much a west side person. I find driving on LA's big, noisy roads dull, stressful and unpleasant. If you live up PCH that is one thing, if it is over the 405 and then the 101 I just can't do that.

Reasons to not contact me... I am not right wing, patriotic or religious. I have never wanted children and never will - nothing to do with some temporal thing like who I am with it is about over population and not being interested in losing my freedom for something i don't want. You are a big meat eater. You dont love animals. You are very business orientated or materialstic.

I always respond - it is rude not to in my opinion. Thanks for the visit.

*For whatever reason I tend to get on much better with non-American women (or those who have lived in Europe and have a more European sensibility) and they with me; not always, but often this has been the case. From Brasil, Korea, Japan, France, England, Italy, Lebanon, all different places I have had long lasting relationships with so its not a specific culture I like but something in the water maybe ;-)

Thank you for reading :-)