*am out of country for next 12 days so should you write my non-reply is not rudeness, I will reply upon my return
Thank you for looking. To add a little dimension (the word 'dating' is so juvenile and packed with lots of tedious implied protocols) I am not rigid as to why I am here. I am looking for anything of quality; a really good friend, an exciting shorter term relationship or if something were super maybe a forever person. Don't we all have to be open and somewhat fluid? That's magic of someone and something new.
As you read this (and it is long) I may seem a cold soul, but before you judge... my idea of a romantic moment - sitting at a cafe in St. Mark's Square in Venice in the early morning sun in October, drinking Prosecco, listening to a trio playing Accarezzame by Pino Salvi, looking into the eyes of my partner and needing nothing more than her to make me complete.
I think I am an interesting, kind and fair person but I am also a wee bit strange (lots of contradictions and non-sequiturs). Hopefully strange in a good way, but I guess that one is up to you dear reader.
My idea of a decent first date:
- LACMA to drink and nibble at Ray's then browse this month's daubs
- Plop ourselves on Montana Ave cafe and watch people
- See an old film at the Aero Cinema and chat about it afterwards
OK now the name, rank and serial number stuff...
I am an only child, half English and half American (dual citizen), my mother was Italian from Italy (think Lake Como, not Jersey). This means I have three cultures affecting me so in some ways I come across as having no home or country allegiance per se. I was born in London and grew up in New York state and north London, went to St. Andrews University in Scotland (my degree is modern history - which is still a passion) and have worked in London, and on both coasts of the US. This makes me perhaps more open minded in some ways. I live in Brentwood. I enjoy cycling on the weekends and hiking at Will Rogers but I am no fitness fanatic. I am passionate about animal rights and the environment, and this defines a lot of who I am; I have two rescued mutts (Lizzie and Natalia - and a rescued goldfish - Fred; I lost two dog friends last year, just gutted over that), I also sit for my ex-wife's two rescued Chihuahuas. I volunteer at dog adoptions, I am on the national marketing council for the Humane Society of the United States (e.g. I helped in getting Prop 2 passed) and I give thousands to animal and environmental charities in the US and internationally. This is why I am a vegetarian, but I am not preachy about it, all I ask is that people respect it. Leonardo da Vinci was a vegetarian for the same reason, that is all the support I need, that of the most brilliant human who ever lived.
I believe Thomas Hobbes was right and John Locke was wrong. Man is a wild animal that needs to be protected from himself. Anton Makarenko had the right idea in stating "we must remake man"... and speaking of socialist thinking...
I am a socialist (but not a bleeding heart liberal). I believe in equality, or that we as a society should aim for that. Places like Finland, Denmark and Sweden make sense. As every year goes by I think we are realizing that "heroic materialism" (Kenneth Clark) is not the answer. As one East German politician said in reflection "mercy and money can live together"
I am happily divorced (2008) and my ex wife and I are the very best of friends, that is all we ever were, one of the benefits of loving but not being "in love", never any highs means less likely to have lows.