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48 M Los Angeles, CA

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Okay), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
Vincenzo Nibali wins the Tour de France. Bravo!

Thank you for visiting. I am not as serious as this profile may seem, but writing about one's self is quite difficult, even tedious.

Gino Bartali is not my name, but is someone I admire as an athlete and as a person of compassion

Quick Summary in case you have only a few seconds:
Animal and Nature Lover, Vegetarian, UK/US citizen, live on westside; love conversation, cooking, travel and high culture. Live in Brentwood, work in West Hollywood.

Now the long form -
I am a somewhat eccentric individual; I share this up front as I don't want to waste anyone's time if they are looking for a typical man. I am sure my stuffy Brentwood neighbors think I am bad for the area - I will sit on my driveway with my dogs on their dog beds listening to Schubert and stare at the sky and wonder what shapes I see in the clouds and watch the industrious ants and hummingbirds.

This quote from Nietzsche is a pretty good window into who I am and how I live
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself"

Very briefly I am English by birth, my mother was from Italy, my father from the US, and hold UK and US passports, have lived here and there, went to university in Scotland, work in advertising (but it's not important to me) and am happily divorced (my ex wife is a very close friend... life is too short for hatred of that type). Raised a Catholic/Christian but now all I care about is being orientated to creation not any church (I think organized religion is vile). I am more of a socialist (this means the idea of most people living decently and fairly vs. a few super rich vs. most living indentured to debt living month to month) but that is not the biased US idea of it, think West Germany or Sweden. I have four rescued dogs and a rescued goldfish. I LOVE DOGS, especially those who are so in need of help - like pit bulls, chihuahuas, greyhounds and mutts of all types

I believe Thomas Hobbes was right and John Locke was wrong. Man is a wild animal that needs to be protected from himself. I feel better around order and standards. I prefer the civilized to the unrefined. You will find me at the Vienna State Opera House or walking the Huntington or having a coffee and pastry discussing abstract issues, not Burning Man.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to be the person my dogs think I am, and living by the philosophy of "wanting what I have" vs. "having what I want"
Trying to live a decent life that does as little harm to others. I try to enjoy each day and be grateful for things like my health, the fresh air I breathe and my dogs. I have no big plans, the Univ. of Hard Knocks, a truly global campus :-), has taught me that is the recipe for sadness.

I accept who I am. Acceptance is a wonderful liberating thing, vs. all this self-improvement, always changing crusade so many in LA are on. I am not trying to be younger than I am or look to what is trendy. I am more of an old soul. I am fit, I believe I am well dressed and well spoken, cultured, a kind person, etc. BUT I will never waste my time on self-help, hair dye, a mid life crisis car, going to clubs full of 20 somethings and so on. I am happy with who and what I am.
*when you have come close to death, as I have this year, you realize even more that you must live in the now, as that is all you have

I enjoy cooking and drinking (wine, Cinzano, Campari, Becherovka, beer, etc.). I love high art and culture. I have two old racing bicycles from the 1980s I ride on the weekend. I drive an old Mercedes diesel wagon (utility with reserve unlike like a modern SUV) and an early 1970's BMW 2002 turbo (the little boxy BMW we all grew up seeing - except this one being the European turbo is 'Der Porsche Killer'). I don't have food processors but still use my mother's old Sabatier knives. I prefer the way mechanical things feel to those that are electronic/digital.

A good holiday for me? renting a house on Bellagio or the Loire Valley, or lovely hotel in Vienna or Prague. Never a cruise or golf resort. If the great culture of Atlantis did exist, the first they'd do if they came back is sack that abomination in the caribbean.

I live small but with, I believe, good taste.
I’m really good at
Being true to myself and kind when it really matters. My colleagues at work will tell you I have integrity and care about people. What matters? e.g. at LACMA a few months back for the Calder exhibit as I was getting hammered on the aforementioned prosecco at Ray's and saw there was a pigeon with its feet caught in string, so I captured it and held it while this nice lady cut the string, making his legs were free. When I returned to my table people clapped and thanked me. Even pigeons, that so many people hate, are god's creatures. I cannot stand to see suffering - I put worms back in the earth when it rains. I have also have given much to charity and volunteered.

Making people laugh, helping animals, conversation and discussion, making people feel important, cooking, fixing things, general knowledge... and romantic interactions (not joking, I love women and romance - men who are into themselves cannot love a woman properly). Women are more beautiful, interesting, complex and compelling than men. On a wrapper of a Baci chocolate it said "women are to be loved, not understood", I think I agree.

I believe in EQUALITY but not similarity. The differences in men and women is wonderful and should be embraced however I have zero sexism in me, I treat women with scrupulous fairness, and I expect the same; emotionally, financially, etc.. I never liked bimbo types, Sabrina was always the sexiest Angel :-)

Everyone should be themselves (Oscar Wilde said something about that and he was right) and that includes me. For example I wear a Patek but also a Timex, flip-flops but also Bruno Magli, old soviet t-shirts but also Prada. I have no look.

I always care about people's feelings BUT I don't give damn for what people think about me. I don't need nor solicit people's approval. I am what they used to call "inner directed"
The first things people usually notice about me
Eccentricity, my eyes, usually stubble, my odd views, my general knowledge... even insanity.

No one style - no one look. I can be anything (just look at my photos). I hate being in a box.

To borrow from my favorite film's lead character, Bertrand Morane, I am "like a wolf with a worried look on his face"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I LOVE HISTORY - military, economic, art, fashion, all.

I read a lot, mainly history but am happy to read fiction. Right now I am reading Paul Craig Roberts' "The Failure of Laissez Faire Capitalism". Recent books: Winnie the Pooh A A Milne, "Eisenhower The White House Years", O'Reilly's "Killing Kennedy", On my bookshelves you will see everything; from a bible to Larson to Trotsky to a book about "Keeping Up Appearances". I read BOOKS, real printed books, it is a true pleasure for me. To understand me better - YES to John Updike and Thomas Hardy NO to Ayn Rand (she and her ideology are repulsive to me) or Jack Kerouac.

I love music - classical all the time (in especial Beethoven, Mozart, Haydn and Schubert), older Italian and French pop (I adore Gainsbourg and Hardy), singer-songwriter genius like Cat Stevens/Yusuf (who I find truly spiritual - Christ like), early British New Wave like Joe Jackson or Undertones, old reggae like Desmond Dekker, and even Charley Pride, Merle Haggard, BB King, Engelbert and a variety of other things including The Mighty Sparrow. Not heavy metal or modern country or violent rap.

I rely on The Week or the for my news, or sometimes the BBC. But I try to avoid the mainstream 'news', it is mostly depressing and sensationalism.

60s and 70s French film (Nouvelle Vague), favorite films are "The Man Who Loved Women", "Z" (1969), "Blow Up", "The Third Man", "A Bridge Too Far", Doris Day-Rock Hudson films, "The Swimmer", Hitchcock ("Frenzy" is the best), and Bond through "Live and Let Die" (I think the new stuff is rubbish). My most recent film is Grand Hotel Budapest (odd but truly fresh).
I love chatting about film.

I love old TV too; Benny Hill, Twilight Zone, Are You Being Served?, Mary Tyler Moore (she is just lovely), old Dr. Who (Pertwee), Sanford and Son, Hawaii Five-0, Odd Couple, Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, Dad's Army, Foyle's War, Inspector Lewis, and Big Bang Theory (if am I in the mood for new stuff), etc. I am sorry but I can't watch Downton Abbey, my socialism makes me hate the context.

I love the EPL and support Spurs and Manchester City, and national said is Italy. If I can watch cricket my team are the West Indies. Also love watching cycling, college football and the odd motor race.
The six things I could never do without
Animals and nature
Western civilization and travel in Europe to experience it
Helping and giving to animal/environment charities
Food and drink
The little things I love - like Cinzano, fresh bread and olives, on my patio listening to Dvorak watching my dogs play
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- our planet - and how lovely nature is - grateful for creation
- animal welfare (please don't buy a dog or cat - ADOPT)
- the past - memories are wonderful treasure (I had a super childhood that I miss often)
- missing my parents and past pets
- just random stuff, my mind wanders a lot
On a typical Friday night I am
Nothing remarkable, maybe a quick ride to Ocean Ave, some wine, a good meal, maybe a good film or a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Lighter side = When I need to feel relaxed or mildly entertained there is nothing better than watching Golden Girls... Sophia and Dorothy's rudeness is priceless

Serious side = If I am buying dinner, lunch, whatever I am happy to be the host but I cannot pay for meat or fish. Just the other night I took pause and my friend across the table asked "would you prefer if I don't order meat" and this time I said "yes" vs. "it's ok". I am not telling someone how to be but if I am paying for something that I believe is wrong it is too much of a hypocrisy for me to accept. I wouldn't expect an orthodox Jew/Muslim to pay for me to have pork or teetotaler to pay for me to drink booze. All I ask is the same respect. Consume whatever you wish as it is not my business, it is however my business if I am in effect supporting something I oppose deeply. Thank you.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you like something in my profile. I always respond - it is rude not to in my opinion. Thanks for the visit.

Ideally you love dogs, are vegetarian and living alone... but short of that

- someone who loves animals and nature
- who you say you are, e.g. please don't lie about your age
- an enjoyer of drinking - it is a wonderful thing to share in my mind... if you are 'sober' I am not for you
- someone with vistas and a sensibility that is more intellectual and if given a choice would choose cottage in Provence to big suite at Sandals
- LIVE CLOSE - like as east as West Hollywood all the way to the Santa Monica and in between, as south as Culver City and as north as Malibu, I am not a lover of driving in traffic (culturally I am more westside too)
- I am probably not a good fit if you have young children

- politically correct (what a farce) or someone who thinks Kardashian style excess living is something to admire
- a non-stoptimist 100% happy sort (some days are diamonds and some are stone)
- a lady looking for a man to take care of them financially
- someone who wears fur or got the cat or dog from a breeder (read; puppy mill or kitten mill)

NB if you are more intelligent, more traveled, or more affluent than I am - that's great... I have no need to feel superior, in fact I 'd love to learn from you.

Thank you for reading and I wish you well