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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Okay), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
Thank you for visiting. I hope what follows will at minimum be worth your reading time. More than anything I would like to find my companion for the rest of my life. Someone for the everyday that makes up life; highs and lows and things in between. My life has been mostly blessed up to this point so I am no need for massive change or mid-life reinvention. I know who I am by this point.

MUST LOVE DOGS, especially mutts. Dog is God spelled backwards for a reason :-)

I am eccentric, to wit; I am sure my stuffy Brentwood neighbors think I am bad for the area - I will lie on the driveway in shorts and old CCCP/DDR t-shirts with my dogs on their dog beds listening to Schubert and stare at the sky and wonder what shapes I see in the clouds and watch the industrious ants and hummingbirds. I love peace from nature vs. that which is purchased.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself" - Nietzsche

My idea of a good first date. Walking around LACMA or the Getty Center, seeing a few of the exhibitions (or watching a Nouvelle Vague film at the Bing Theater), drinking a bottle of prosecco and eating interesting snacks, watching people, talking about something abstract like the movie or art we just saw. It is not drinking Margueritas at a sports bar (I love sports but I am not the backwards baseball cap wearing, khaki shorts, frat-boy type)

As for me you can find out more if we meet. Let's leave something to share. Very briefly though I am English (born in London 1966 - the only time we won the World Cup) by birth (still love England but not a fan of what London is now - a giant parody of itself), my mother was from Italy, my father the US, and hold UK and US passports, have lived here and there, went to university in Scotland, am happily divorced (ex-wife is a very good friend - there is so much toxic hate of exes = bad). Raised a Catholic/Christian but now all I care about is being orientated to creation not any church (I have nothing to do with any organized religions). I live in Brentwood. I have rescued dogs and a rescued goldfish.

I believe Thomas Hobbes was right and John Locke was wrong. Man is a wild animal that needs to be protected from himself. I feel better around order and standards. I am lifted and inspired by a performance at the Vienna State Opera House or walking the Huntington. You won't find me at Burning Man or Coachella, it's just not me.

I am more of a socialist politically-econimcally (don't believe the Fox idea of socialism), in the post-war European model sense. I believe in fairness, or that we as a society should aim for that. Places like Finland, Denmark and Sweden make sense. As every year goes by I think we are realizing that "heroic materialism" (Kenneth Clark) is not the answer. As one East German politician said in reflection "mercy and money can live together".

If you have somewhat of a 'petite nature' as the French say OR are a really down to earth tomboy type we may have much in common. If you are more aligned with livin' large, brash loud style LA woman of the Kardashians or their ilk now is a good time to stop reading.

I would love to feel again the way Jacques Brel's 'Ne Me Quitte Pas' expresses about love.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to be the person my dogs think I am, and living by the philosophy of "wanting what I have" vs. "having what I want"
Getting by and trying to live a decent life that does as little harm to others. I try to enjoy each day and be grateful for things like my health, the fresh air I breathe and my dogs. I have no big plans, the Univ. of Hard Knocks, a truly global campus :-), has taught me that is the recipe for sadness.

I accept who I am. Acceptance is a wonderful thing, vs. all this self-improvement, always changing crusade (which by the way has not made this nation a better place at a collective or individual level - all the pills, analysts, debt, obesity, sadness, etc. is at record levels - all it has made is a few companies and people selling high classed snake oil, to vulnerable consumers, rich) so many are on.

I enjoy (Italian and vegetarian - I am vegetarian/vegan for the sake of others = animal rights/environment, not for my self) cooking and drinking (wine, Campari, Becherovka, beer, etc.). I have two old racing bicycles from the 1980s I ride on the weekend. I drive an old (but like new condition) Mercedes diesel wagon and a miniature rocket - the first 'M' - a European 1974 BMW 2002 turbo. I don't have food processors but still use my mother's old Sabatier knives. I prefer the way mechanical things feel to those that are electronic/digital. I still have an iPhone 4, I am without 'digital envy'

A good holiday for me? renting a house on Bellagio or the Loire Valley, or lovely hotel in Vienna or Prague. Never a cruise or golf resort.

My house is completely eclectic. I have Warhol, Wegmann, copper prints of a famous ancestor (Napoleon's best general in my humble opinion), motor racing paintings, etc. on the walls. Old oriental rugs, rough hewn Mexican furniture as well 19th century Italian and French pieces. It is lived in, not a show piece. However you could be fooled into thinking it is a woman's house - I detest the 'man-cave' thing. No huge TVs, mega-sound systems or remote control everything to be found under my roof.

I live small but with, I believe, good taste.
I’m really good at
Being true to myself and kind when it really matters. My colleagues at work will tell you I have integrity and care about people. What matters? e.g. at LACMA a few weekends back for the Calder exhibit as I was getting hammered at Ray's and saw there was a pigeon with its feet caught in string, so I captured it and held it while this nice lady cut the string, making his legs were free. When I returned to my table people clapped and thanked me. Even pigeons, that so many people hate, are god's creatures. I cannot stand to see suffering - I put worms back in the earth when it rains. I have also have given much to charity and volunteered.

Making people laugh, helping animals, conversation and discussion (that means sharing and talking to each other - I cannot stand snarky debate; read trying to win - sharing is better), making people feel important, cooking, fixing things, general knowledge... and romantic interactions (not joking, I love women and romance - men who are into themselves cannot love a woman properly). Women are more beautiful, interesting, complex and compelling than men. On a wrapper of a Baci chocolate it said "women are to be loved, not understood", I think I agree. The female is intoxicating to me.

I am lower energy compared to many (or at least how they portray themselves). Everything I do I do very intensely so that means I need to recharge so many nights I am blissfully enjoying doing sweet FA (ask British friend for a translation).

I believe in EQUALITY but not similarity. The differences in men and women is wonderful and should be embraced however I have zero sexism in me, I treat women with scrupulous fairness, and I expect the same; emotionally, financially, etc.. I never liked bimbo types, Sabrina was always the sexiest Angel :-)

I detest me-ism, Time magazine a few years back said the man of the Year was 'You'... yuck. Be humbled, as we are nothing in the grand scheme of things. Be inside St. Peters in Rome or the Blue mosque in Istanbul or just look at the night sky and contemplate it... if anyone thinks they are that special they are either a moron or a diseased selfish beyond hope.

Everyone should be themselves (Oscar Wilde said something about that and he was right) and that includes me.
The first things people usually notice about me
Eccentricity, my eyes, usually stubble, my odd views, my general knowledge.. even insanity.

No one style - no one look. I can be anything (just look at my photos). I hate being in a box.

Put a dog in my arms and I melt. Put a beautiful woman (this does not mean looks alone - it means charisma, style, spirit) in my arms and I am mesmerized.

To borrow from my favorite film's lead character, Bertrand Morane, I am "like a wolf with a worried look on his face"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I LOVE HISTORY - military, economic, art, fashion, all.

I read a lot, mainly history but am happy to read fiction. I just finished reading Charles Berlitz "The Bermuda Triangle" (inspired by the Malaysian airliner disappearance) that still has our cabin number from one our trips on the QE2 in the 1970s and "The Tragedy of the Italia: With The Rescuers to The Red Tent" by Davide Giudici (I love the obscure). I am happy reading about Pericles of Athens or the history of France or the Doctor books by Richard Gordon (they're good try them). On my bookshelves you will see everything; from a bible to Larson to Trotsky to a book about "Keeping Up Appearances". I read BOOKS, real printed books, it is a true pleasure for me. To understand me better - YES to John Updike and Thomas Hardy NO to Ayn Rand (she and her ideology is repulsive to me) or Jack Kerouac.

I listen to music - classical all the time, older Italian and French pop, singer-songwriter genius like Cat Stevens/Yusuf (who I find truly spiritual - Christ like), early British New Wave like Joe Jackson or Undertones, old country like Charley Pride or Merle Haggard, and a variety of other things. Not heavy metal or modern country or violent rap.

I rely The Week or the for my news, or sometimes the BBC. Both CNN and FOX (these networks are complete dross) are each in their own way full of shit and hijacked to advertisers' revenue. But I try to avoid the news, it is mostly depressing and BIASED.

I go simple or expensive. I often lay in the sun listening to college football while hanging with my dogs listening to the birds sing. Yet I can also be at the State Opera House in Vienna watching Italian Girl in Algiers having had torte and champagne at the Sacher cafe. My three most recent concerts were Depeche Mode at Staples, LACO Bach and Haydn at Royce Hall, and Milan Symphony Schubert and Shostakovich at the Auditorium in Milan. The middle bores me.

60s and 70s French film (Nouvelle Vague), favorite films are "The Man Who Loved Women", "Blow Up", "The Third Man", "A Bridge Too Far", Doris Day-Rock Hudson films, "The Swimmer", Hitchcock ("Frenzy" is the best), and Bond through "Live and Let Die" (I think the new stuff is rubbish). My most recent film is Grand Hotel Budapest (odd but truly fresh).
I love chatting about film.

I love old TV too; Benny Hill, Twilight Zone, Are You Being Served?, Mary Tyler Moore (she is just lovely), old Dr. Who (Pertwee), Sanford and Son, Hawaii Five-0, Odd Couple, Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, Dad's Army, Foyle's War, Inspector Lewis, and Big Bang Theory (if am I in the mood for new stuff), etc. I am sorry but I can't watch Downton Abbey, my socialism makes me hate the context.

I love most European and Levant based cuisine (no meat of course). Love Native Foods, La Scala salads, Bar Toscana, A Votre Sante, Taverna Tony, LACMA. Just cannot eat really hot spicy food (I almost died from food poisoning I got in Madeira off African coast - it left me with weakened guts).

I enjoy watching sport. I support Tottenham (they are crap this year) and Manchester City in the BPL, Napoli in the Serie A, Italia in international football. Domestically I like the Yankees and college football. In cricket (it is not a dull sport if you understand it) I love the West Indies, sadly they are not good now but when I was young they were magic. I love watching international cycling and skiing too, all that spectacular scenery.
The six things I could never do without
Animals and nature
Travel in Europe (in December it was Milan, Como and Genoa)
- and earlier in year hiking in Garmisch in German Alps
Helping and giving to animal/environment charities (I give many thousands each year to animal groups here and abroad)
Food and drink
The little things I love - old TV, classical music, books
*collectively = at peace
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- our planet - and how lovely nature is - grateful for creation
- animal welfare (please don't buy a dog or cat - ADOPT)
- the past - memories are wonderful treasure (I had a super childhood that I miss often)
- missing my parents and past pets
- how foolish I have been with past relationships, not appreciating what I had until it was lost or ruined... I think (I hope) I have learned from history so as not to repeat it. I was truly in love twice (really heartbreaking), maybe again?
- what to eat next ... I love food
On a typical Friday night I am
Thrilled not to be working for 2 days;

Having dinner with you :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Micro - I give my dogs scraps from my plate as I am eating and they sleep on my bed; they are my family
Macro - Consumption is the biggest cause of our environmental ills (water shortage, climate change, famine, some wars even, etc.). When I read Malthus' theories as a 14 year old it hit me that Soylent Green was not just a fiction - and now we are living the nightmare. Needless to say I never wanted children.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you like something in my profile. I always respond - it is rude not to in my opinion. Thanks for the visit.

- who you say you are, e.g. please don't lie about your age
- live closer vs. farther
- in favor of Oliver Reed and think all the others dreadful in the clip below... you will laugh if nothing else

- politically correct (what a farce)
- Tea Party, libertarian or a Fox News watcher
- "sober" - I need someone who enjoys a drink now and then (more now than then ;-> ); my body is not a yogic temple more a bar in Bellagio overlooking Lake Como
- someone who wears fur or got the cat or dog from a breeder (read; puppy mill or kitten mill)

NB if you are more intelligent, more traveled, or more affluent than I am; that's great... I have no need to feel superior, in fact I 'd love to learn from you. I'd be happy to be a house husband (half truth spoken in jest) - the corporate world is pretty foul.

Bonne Chance, Viel Gluck, Buona Fortuna, or in Napuitan' "Buona Salud", etc.