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31 M Portland, OR

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Me? Amused, eager, curious, and liking what I've seen so far in this life. Lots of room for improvement, and I'm thrilled to be a part of it all (This is about as concise as I'll ever be. Brevity is not in the soul of my wit).

I'll tell you more, if you like. I'd like to hear about you; I know about me.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying it. A lot.

Getting a bit more granular:

I just started a marriage, family and couples counseling master's program (thanks for reading that whole sentence through). My impressions and what led me to this place won't fit well here, so if you're interested let's chat on it.

I was introduced to climbing last year, and I'm enamored. Smith and Leavenworth are calling; outdoors and trad are preferred (though leading isn't yet within my grasp).

I bought a guitar on my birthday this year. Currently learning these songs: Wild Old Dog, Luckiest Man, Wide River to Cross, I See A Darkness, and Drunken Poet's Dream (Ballad of Pancho and Lefty, Dublin Blues, and Annabelle by Gillian, amongst others, are in the bag). Learning being a supple term, in this case meaning learning three or four chords. I'm also realizing how wonderful it is to sing with feeling - I think it's the beginning of a beautiful love affair.

Thinking about judgement. Not the Biblical or legal kind - not my bag.

Taking mindfulness moment by moment.
I’m really good at
Speaking up.
Not being outraged... or, more specifically, practicing parsimony with my outrage.
Making people laugh without using someone else as the butt of the joke (though I'll playfully ravage my friends if the situation warrants).
Making migas. And mulligatawny soup. And I'm pretty good at spending a full day smoking a brisket.
The first things people usually notice about me
Pick one:

A. "What is that guy from that reality show doing in this Petsmart?"

B. "Ouch, that looks really painful!"

C. "Look, another average looking male just entered the room / general area"

Actually, I guess none of these are true, except for C.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Exhaustive lists are exhausting, so:

Lolita, Joanna Newsom, Fried Chicken.

I also enjoy rambling hikes and nearly every variety of beer on the planet. And a few other things I'm happy to tell you about in due time, assuming you're interested.

Addendum: here are some books and authors I've read in the recent past that did it for me:
Lonesome Dove
The Sisters Brothers
Wonder Boys
All the Game of Thrones books
The River Why
Kay Ryan poems
Thich Nhat Hanh
Art of Fielding
Desert Solitaire (natch)
Shop Class as Soul Craft
The Dude and the Zen Master
Let My People Go Surfing
Left Hand of Darkness
The Wisdom of Insecurity
A Questionable Shape
Where'd You Go, Bernadette
Blood Meridian

Currently reading: The Gift of Therapy, Sex at Dawn, Tenth of December, The Swerve, Camp 4, Crossing to Safety (Stegner!), and Tracy K. Smith's Life on Mars. I have a lot of bookmarks.

Next up:
Infinite Jest continues to beckon. Border Trilogy is up next, perhaps?
The six things I could never do without
Six plus one to grow on:

My family.
My friends.
My mind.
This moment.
Humor. I'm of the mind that humor is one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal. Humor and power tools. Humor is like a deep breath, and it doesn't have to be used as a shield. Sometimes shit is just hilarious. Those are good times.
Life outdoors and the manifold splendors it provides.

I didn't dig deep in to the cryptic, the sensationalized, or the absurd on that one. Didn't feel I needed to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Facetious answer:
Time travel.

Sincere answer:
Whatever I'm doing at that particular moment... and time travel.

Time travel aside, I'm actively trying to be more mindful of whatever I'm doing at any given moment, no matter how mundane it might seem at the time.

Also, how I can take the privileges and gifts I've been afforded and use them to live an engaged and passionate life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Wait, is it Friday already?

If it's Friday, are you interested in getting together and doing something we both enjoy?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Admit is a loaded word. Ask me anything. I could always use more opportunities to test my "What's the worse that could happen?" philosophy.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You've read this far.

Oh, and it might help if you have an appreciation of and affinity for the absurd. And if you think empathy might be the foundation of a good life (or at least a real good place to start).