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32 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Me? Amused, eager, curious, and liking what I've seen so far in this life. Lots of room for improvement, and I'm thrilled to be a part of it all (This is about as concise as I'll ever be. Brevity is not in the soul of my wit).

I'll tell you more, if you like. I'd like to hear about you; I know about me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it. A lot.

Getting a bit more granular:

I just started a marriage, family and couples counseling master's program (thanks for reading that whole sentence through). My impressions and what led me to this place won't fit well here, so if you're interested let's chat on it.

I was introduced to climbing last year, and I'm enamored. Smith and Leavenworth are calling; outdoors and trad are preferred (though leading isn't yet within my grasp).

I bought a guitar on my birthday this year. Currently learning these songs: Wild Old Dog, Luckiest Man, Wide River to Cross, I See A Darkness, and Drunken Poet's Dream (Ballad of Pancho and Lefty, Dublin Blues, and Annabelle by Gillian, amongst others, are in the bag). Learning being a supple term, in this case meaning learning three or four chords, but I think I'm on to something that'll last and serve me well for a long time.

I've found myself recently more aware and appreciative than ever before of my body and its functions and capacity for movement. I'm fortunate enough to have an able body, and I find exercise and the vitality that comes from it to be a way of honoring that good fortune.

Thinking about judgement. Not the Biblical or legal kind - not my bag.

Taking mindfulness moment by moment.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Speaking up.
Not being outraged... or, more specifically, practicing parsimony with my outrage.
Making people laugh without using someone else as the butt of the joke (though I'll playfully ravage my friends if the situation warrants).
Making migas. And mulligatawny soup. And I'm pretty good at spending a full day smoking a brisket.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Pick one:

A. "What is that guy from that reality show doing in this Petsmart?"

B. "Ouch, that looks really painful!"

C. "Look, another average looking male just entered the room / general area"

Actually, I guess none of these are true, except for C.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Exhaustive lists are exhausting, so:

Lolita, Joanna Newsom, Fried Chicken.

I also enjoy rambling hikes and nearly every variety of beer on the planet. And a few other things I'm happy to tell you about in due time, assuming you're interested.

Addendum: here are some books and authors I've read in the recent past that did it for me:
Lonesome Dove
The Sisters Brothers
Wonder Boys
All the Game of Thrones books
The River Why
Kay Ryan poems
Thich Nhat Hanh
Art of Fielding
Desert Solitaire (natch)
Shop Class as Soul Craft
The Dude and the Zen Master
Let My People Go Surfing
Left Hand of Darkness
The Wisdom of Insecurity
A Questionable Shape
Where'd You Go, Bernadette
Blood Meridian
Sex At Dawn
The Swerve
Tenth of December
Crossing to Safety

Currently reading: East of Eden, Inherent Vice, school books, and Tracy K. Smith's Life on Mars. I have a lot of bookmarks.

Next up:
Infinite Jest continues to beckon. Border Trilogy is up next, perhaps?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six plus one to grow on:

My family.
My friends.
My mind.
This moment.
Humor. I'm of the mind that humor is one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal. Humor and power tools. Humor is like a deep breath, and it doesn't have to be used as a shield. Sometimes shit is just hilarious. Those are good times.
Life outdoors and the manifold splendors it provides.

I didn't dig deep in to the cryptic, the sensationalized, or the absurd on that one. Didn't feel I needed to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Facetious answer:
Time travel.

Sincere answer:
Whatever I'm doing at that particular moment... and time travel.

Time travel aside, I'm actively trying to be more mindful of whatever I'm doing at any given moment, no matter how mundane it might seem at the time.

Also, how I can take the privileges and gifts I've been afforded and use them to live an engaged and passionate life.

And, of course, sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wait, is it Friday already?

If it's Friday, are you interested in getting together and doing something we both enjoy?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Admit is a loaded word. Ask me anything. I could always use more opportunities to test my "What's the worse that could happen?" philosophy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You've read this far.

Oh, and it might help if you have an appreciation of and affinity for the absurd. And if you think empathy might be the foundation of a good life (or at least a real good place to start).