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31 New York, NY Genderfluid, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

Genderfluid, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:47pm
Demisexual, Heteroflexible, Queer, Sapiosexual
Asian, Middle Eastern
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am an ENTJ, bellydancer, sommeliere, historical fiction writer, and artist herder. If it's ensemble improvised anything, I'm down. I am a rational anarchist and a foodie-centric hippie. I am a consensual non-monogamist, gender non-conforming, and other pithy abbreviations.

Recently, I've become particularly interested in appreciating things outside my comfort zone and empathising with people who are substantially different than me. Puedo sobrevivir en español, o, mas exactamente, Mexiglish de restaurante. Mon français est très pauvre, mais à Maroc quand les autres choix étaient l'arabe et le berbère, je l'ai appris rapidement.

Thou art god and I am god and all that groks is god.
What I’m doing with my life
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Herding writers and running a bnb. I regularly live abroad for several months at a time and try to suck less at other languages. Je suis à Montréal jusqu'en Septembre 5. Je voudrais un joli homme pour me forcer à pratiquer le français. I'm working on doing things I'm afraid of and appreciating things I'm prejudiced against.

Some part of me has an illusion that I will fit in music with my former a cappella troupe, getting back on the Faire circuit, jumping horses, contortion, learning to sail a tall ship, and popping back to Chicago to dance with my bellydance troupe.

Fair disclosure: I am not looking for a primary relationship. I am mostly looking for friends but am open to super-casual, infrequent dating. There are three people I have slept with before whom I would sleep with again if given the opportunity. I am not in a primary relationship with any of them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attempting to usurp space-time coordinates already inhabited by furniture. Being snarky on the internet: How To Write To Women On Okcupid
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a social gravitational force approaching that of a singularity. For nerds, anyway.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Social manifestos disguised as scifi. (Joan Vinge, Robert Heinlein.) Anthropology, ecology, and history nonfic. (Jared Diamond, Michael Pollan.) Historical fiction (Sharon Kay Penman.)

Food: I've got my veggie CSA set up in New York, but still need to hammer out the rest of my sourcing.

Former Chicago answer: I get the majority of my food from Farmer Tom's, Cedar Valley Sustainable, and Provenance. Honorable mention: Jam, Rootstock, Owen&Engine, Longman&Eagle, Telegraph, The Bristol, the Barrelhouse Flat, and oyster happy hour at Shaw's.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People to communicate with by any medium (verbal, visual, physical, or musical.) The kick comes from people, buddy boy.

That's the only thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a giant crush on Zevran. What, it's too much to ask for a smartass bisexual elf assassin philanderer?

Okay, I'm going to add another one that I don't usually get into in real life, but as this is a dating site, it is relevant. I am chromosonally female and identify as mostly male. I have decided to live with the body I was dealt (which makes me feel like a lifestyle drag queen, but that's kind of fun) and just get over my 'trans-agnst.' For the most part, I present male professionally and female socially. I answer to both pronouns interchangeably. But if you ever tell me I do not present adequately to either bianary role, we are done.
You should message me if
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I am interested in bonding as humans with all intelligent, daring, kind-spirited people who are attempting to stay vulnerable and humble. This is irrelevant to gender-presentation and may not involve a sexual component. If you feel there is any reason why we should tame each other (as the fox said) please do contact me.

I take very few sexual partners. The ones I do take are usually male-presenting individuals. You have better odds if:

* You are slim and pretty with angular features, a full compliment of hair on top of your head and minimal-to-none on your body. See: bltoaster, Harrelll, the Warwick University Rowing Team Calendar
* You are smart, well-socialized, and not shy. Professional performers usually fit this bill.
*You have a disciplined, purposeful vocabulary of movement. Physical actors, circus performers, ballerinos. Good news: as a well-fleshed bellydancer, I eat about three times as much as all your ballerina ex girlfriends, so dinner with me is a lot more fun.
* Bonus points if you sing collegiate a capella. I also <3