Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an ENTJ, bellydancer, sommelier, historical fiction writer,
and artist herder: "the diva of all nerds."
If it's ensemble
improvised anything, I'm down. I am a rational anarchist
and a tree-hugging hippie, but I
shave my pits. I am a consensual non-monogamist
non-conforming, a 1.5 on the Kinsey scale, and other pithy
Recently, I've become particularly interested in appreciating
things outside my comfort zone and empathising with people who are
substantially different than me.
Thou art god
and I am
and all that groks is god.
What I’m doing with my life
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Herding writers and running a bnb. I regularly live abroad for
several months at a time and try to suck less at other languages.
I'm working on doing things I'm afraid of and appreciating things
I'm prejudiced against.
Some part of me has an illusion that I will fit in music with my
former a cappella troupe, getting back on the Faire circuit,
jumping horses, contortion, learning to sail a tall ship, and
popping back to Chicago to dance with my bellydance troupe.
Fair disclosure: I am not looking for a primary relationship. I am
mostly looking for friends but am open to super-casual, infrequent
dating. There are three people I have slept with before whom I
would sleep with again if given the opportunity. I am not in a
primary relationship with any of them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attempting to usurp space-time coordinates already inhabited by
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The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a social gravitational force approaching that of a
singularity. For nerds, anyway.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Social manifestos disguised as scifi. (Joan Vinge, Robert
) Anthropology, ecology, and history nonfic. (Jared
Diamond, Michael Pollan.) Historical fiction (Sharon Kay
Food: I need to hammer out my new csas and specialty wine and
cheese shops in New York!
Former Chicago answer: I get the majority of my food from Farmer Tom's
, and Provenance.
Honorable mention: Jam, Rootstock,
Owen&Engine, Longman&Eagle, Telegraph, The Bristol, the
Barrelhouse Flat, and oyster happy hour at Shaw's.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People to communicate with by any medium (verbal, visual, physical,
or musical.) The kick comes from people, buddy boy.
That's the only thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
, Lajos Egri
's "The Art of
, the order of the
, local organic
farming, human rights
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a giant crush on Zevran.
What, it's too much to ask for a
smartass bisexual elf assassin philanderer?
Okay, I'm going to add another one that I don't usually get into in
real life, but as this is a dating site, it is relevant. I am
chromosonally female and identify as male, and for awhile was a
very-easy-to-describe FTM transperson. However, I have decided I am
drastically more attractive when I present female, so on dates, I
will usually do that. Professionally, I usually present male. It is
relevant to mention on a dating site that if you're into vaginas,
you're in luck, I have one. But if you are not comfortable with me
identifying and presenting male the rest of the time, you will
probably never get to see it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I am interested in bonding as humans with all intelligent, daring,
kind-spirited people who are attempting to stay vulnerable and
humble. This is irrelevant to gender-presentation and may not
involve a sexual component. If you feel there is any reason why we
should tame each other (as the fox said) please do contact
I take very few sexual partners. The ones I do take are usually
You have better odds if:
* You are slim and pretty
with angular features, a full
compliment of hair on top of your head and minimal-to-none on your
body. See: bltoaster
, the Warwick University Rowing Team Calendar
* You are smart, well-socialized, and not shy.
performers usually fit this bill.
*You have a disciplined, purposeful vocabulary of movement.
Physical actors, circus performers, ballerinos.
news: as a well-fleshed bellydancer, I eat about three times as
much as all your ballerina ex girlfriends, so dinner with me is a
lot more fun.
* Bonus points if you sing collegiate a capella.
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