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awibs

31 New York, NY Genderfluid, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

Genderfluid, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:40pm
Orientation
Demisexual, Heteroflexible, Queer, Sapiosexual
Ethnicity
Asian, Middle Eastern
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Hospitality
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an ENTJ, bellydancer, sommelier, historical fiction writer, and artist herder: "the diva of all nerds." If it's ensemble improvised anything, I'm down. I am a rational anarchist and a tree-hugging hippie, but I shave my pits. I am a consensual non-monogamist, gender non-conforming, a 1.5 on the Kinsey scale, and other pithy abbreviations.

Recently, I've become particularly interested in appreciating things outside my comfort zone and empathising with people who are substantially different than me.

Thou art god and I am god and all that groks is god.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Herding writers and running a bnb. I regularly live abroad for several months at a time and try to suck less at other languages. I'm working on doing things I'm afraid of and appreciating things I'm prejudiced against.

Some part of me has an illusion that I will fit in music with my former a cappella troupe, getting back on the Faire circuit, jumping horses, aerial arts, learning to sail a tall ship, and popping back to Chicago to dance with my bellydance troupe.

Fair disclosure: I am not looking for a primary relationship at the moment. I am emotionally preoccupied. I am mostly looking for friends. I would potentially be open to super-casual, infrequent dating of an ethical non-monogamist who also has emotional entanglements elsewhere.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attempting to usurp space-time coordinates already inhabited by furniture. Being snarky on the internet: How To Write To Women On Okcupid
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a social gravitational force approaching that of a singularity. For nerds, anyway.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Social manifestos disguised as scifi. (Joan Vinge, Robert Heinlein.) Anthropology, ecology, and history nonfic. (Jared Diamond, Michael Pollan.) Historical fiction (Sharon Kay Penman.)

Food: I need to hammer out my new csas and specialty wine and cheese shops in New York!

Former Chicago answer: I get the majority of my food from Farmer Tom's, Cedar Valley Sustainable, and Provenance. Honorable mention: Jam, Rootstock, Owen&Engine, Longman&Eagle, Telegraph, The Bristol, the Barrelhouse Flat, and oyster happy hour at Shaw's.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
People to communicate with by any medium (verbal, visual, physical, or musical.) The kick comes from people, buddy boy.

That's the only thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a giant crush on Zevran. What, it's too much to ask for a smartass bisexual elf assassin philanderer?

Okay, I'm going to add another one that I don't usually get into in real life, but as this is a dating site, it is relevant. I am chromosonally female and identify as male, and for awhile was a very-easy-to-describe FTM transperson. However, I have decided I am drastically more attractive when I present female, so on dates, I will usually do that. Professionally, I usually present male. It is relevant to mention on a dating site that if you're into vaginas, you're in luck, I have one. But if you are not comfortable with me identifying and presenting male the rest of the time, you will probably never get to see it.
You should message me if
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I am interested in bonding as humans with all intelligent, daring, kind-spirited people who are attempting to stay vulnerable and humble. This is irrelevant to gender-presentation and may not involve a sexual component. If you feel there is any reason why we should tame each other (as the fox said) please do contact me.

I take very few sexual partners. The ones I do take are usually male-presenting individuals. You have better odds if:

* You are slim and pretty with angular features, a full compliment of hair on top of your head and minimal-to-none on your body. See: bltoaster, Harrelll, the Warwick University Rowing Team Calendar
* You are smart, well-socialized, and not shy. Professional performers usually fit this bill.
*You have a disciplined, purposeful vocabulary of movement. Physical actors, circus performers, ballerinos. Good news: as a well-fleshed bellydancer, I eat about three times as much as all your ballerina ex girlfriends, so dinner with me is a lot more fun.
* Bonus points if you sing collegiate a capella. I also <3
drummers.