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35 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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Last online
Today – 4:09pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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A guy friend wrote this about me:

"If there's one word to define Bethany, that'd be connected. Connected intrinsically with herself, her feelings, emotions and extrinsically with her friends, her family and her community. Her love for travel has taken her to places people only dream of going, and her love of learning has enabled her to embrace yoga, meditation and dance as her passion. She is the girl you'd go swimming in the bay with, bring her to have lunch with your family, and rock out at some epic house party - all in the same day. Connected, communicative, trustworthy and so much fun to be around - that's Bethany."

I'm looking for a smart, down-to-earth, free-spirited and reliable man with whom I share a deeper connection of values and interests. What matters most to me is intellectual connection (conversation that flows), laughter and a shared worldview of compassion, love and empathy. Chemistry plays into it too. We can figure the rest out later : )

Some things I am into:

meditation and spiritual development / dance / books / riding bikes / health and healing modalities / somatic therapy / tantric yoga / education / photography / art / travel / social justice / nature / hiking / camping / anything involving water / restorative yoga / reiki / friendships and community / DIY projects / free spirits / hugs / kissing
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as a psychotherapist/social worker at an alternative high school, and study somatic, mindfulness-based therapy (Hakomi method). I teach beginners yoga, and am passionate about social justice. I was voted Most Prolific Reader in the 4th grade, and it's still one of my favorite activities. I'm a Cuban Salsa dancer, and enjoy Afro-Brazilian and other kinds of dance too.

I enjoy being at home just as much as traveling, tend to go to farmers markets on the weekends and ride my bike around town.

I recently decided to make 1000 paper cranes, so far I've finished about 100. Want to help me?

One time I started a cookie business when I lived in Colombia. My friend and I made the PERFECT, taste-tested chocolate chip cookies and sold them in parks where people hung out drinking and smoking weed. We called it Las Munchies (with a Spanish pronunciation), introducing a new word to the Spanglish lexicon.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the big picture
Trying new things
Finding beauty and humor in difficult situations
Being silly
Cuban Salsa dancing
The first things people usually notice about me
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Eyes, smile, dimple, my friendly and curious personality
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Otis Redding, Stevie Wonder, Janelle Monae, Timba, Calle 13, some Kirtan, Arcade Fire, Silvio Rodriguez, D'Angelo

Movies: Anything by Pedro Almodovar, When Harry met Sally, Harold and Maude, The NeverEnding Story, Funny Face, Inside Out was amazing. Also, I just saw CitizenFour, the Edward Snowden documentary, and it was really great.

NPR, This American Life, other random podcasts.

I don't own a TV, but there is Netflix. The Wire and 30 Rock were really great. Greys Anatomy is my guilty pleasure- please don't judge : )

Books/Authors: Junot Diaz, Toni Morrison, Jumpha Lahira, engaging non-fiction, Dave Eggers, anything by Atul Gawande

I need to bring some New Yorker back into my life.

Sunday brunch with the NYTimes.

Gardening is fun and calming; I would like to move back to a place that has one again.

I generally avoid crowded bars and clubs, unless it is for dancing. A lounge or cafe is more my style. Or somewhere outside.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
"The cure for anything is salt water- sweat, tears or the sea."
-Isak Dineson
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether or not it's worth it to stay out late salsa dancing. It usually is : )
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe on an epic date with you, that involves a sunset hike (hopefully)...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are kind, smart, funny, reflective and reliable. We have something in common, or you think we share a similar perspective on how to live life. You are open to the possibility of having children.

If it takes me a minute to warm up on the first date, ask some good questions. It really helps. Actually, ask good questions all the time. Women like that : )