Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please do not contact me if you are looking for a third in your
relationship. I came to OKCupid from Match because it allowed me to
be honest about who I am. I was compelled to change my status to
straight after so many people contacted me for threesomes or
polyamorous relationships. While I don't have a problem with your
choices, I am looking for a relationship with a woman OR with a
man, not both. Move along if you are looking for something
I would like to meet someone special who is on their own path to
self-discovery and is living honestly and fully. Relationships
require attention, mindfulness, and above all else,
At this point in my life I am focused on being mindful of the
present and opening my heart to experiences and opportunities. I
enjoy eating out and cooking in, watching college basketball, long
walks, travel, talking over a glass of wine, good independent
films, museums, and more.
All of this might sound hokey and idealistic, but I'm just hoping
to find someone who isn't looking for a cheap thrill. I'm not
perfect, far from it. But I do try to treat people well, with
"For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps
the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate
task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work
is merely preparation." ~Rainer Maria Rilke, trans. By Stephen
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening and helping people to see alternative perspectives. I
have been told I have the ability to be calming in stressful
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'd say most people comment on my eyes or my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books? I don't tend to read many books a second time. One
book I've read over and over is "I'm not Stiller" by Max Frisch.
Are we ever able to walk away and say, "I'm not that person
anymore. I don't know him/her"? Who hasn't stopped to wonder if
they might be able to reinvent themselves? I typically read
contemporary fiction (I am a fiction snob) or books on
Movies? I have several favorites: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless
Mind; World According to Garp; Willy Wonka and the Chocolate
Factory (the original); and most of all...Harold and Maude. As you
can likely tell, I enjoy darker films.
My musical taste tends more towards
Americana/Bluegress/Alt-Country. Favorites include Patty Griffin,
Neko Case, Gillian Welch, and Jessica Lea Mayfield. Also adore the
Decemberists, Zola Jesus, Mark Lanegan, Laura Marling, Hem, Gergory
Alan Isakov, Feist, Angus and Julia Stone...
Food? I love to cook. I'm a one trick pony when it comes to baking-
the shortbread cookie. For a long period of time I did the
pesce-tarian thing. I'd like to get back to that for health
reasons. As often as possible I use only fresh food. There is too
much processed food in the world and I believe humans are suffering
because of this. I am willing to try any food once, but I know what
I don't like. Eggplant disgusts me!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Nurturing lovingkindness in myself and others.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Just ask and I'll tell you.
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