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35 • Madison, WI • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 24
- Pansexual, Sapiosexual, Bisexual, Queer
- 5′ 4″ (1.63m)
- Body type
- Full figured
- Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Open relationship
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Finnish (Poorly)
I'm a happily married lady (with Jacksuhn), living the dream, you know. I'm pansexual and embracing my own queerness. My husband and I are in an open relationship and exploring the poly lifestyle and alternative relationship structures generally. We've been dating outside our relationship for about 2 years now. I've been lucky to meet some wonderful like-minded poly folks and I'm flowing with the possibilities and challenges of this new way of being. I've been sticking my toes in the pool of the kink community in Madison and having a really good time meeting new people and trying fun new things.
I describe myself as a lazy overachiever. I have an on again/off again relationship with fitness/working out. Former runner, sometimes yogi and weight lifter, currently in an off again phase but really want to get more into biking. I enjoy the outdoors and doing stuff like hiking, camping, and canoeing. In the summer I go to music festivals and let loose with the crazy hippies. I love coffee, the change of seasons, and going on little adventures. Former high school band geek, choir freak, and theater nerd. Radical socialist, feminist, and hater of oppression and injustice.
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
Introvert(11%) iNtuitive(38%) Feeling(12%) Judging(22%)
Slight preference of Introversion over Extraversion (11%)
Moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%)
Slight preference of Feeling over Thinking (12%)
Slight preference of Judging over Perceiving (22%)
Now that I don't need to spend so much time studying I'm trying to spend more time on other pursuits, like learning to play the ukulele, reading books for fun, and meeting new people.
I enjoy many kinds of movies, but tend to go for lots of indie stuff, sci fi, comedy, horror. I love every Christopher Guest movie, but Waiting for Guffman is perhaps my favorite.
Podcasts! Some favorites are Radiolab, This American Life, Sex Nerd Sandra (go team fun!), Our Hen House, Godless Bitches, Citizen Radio, Savage Love, and Big Fat Vegan Radio.
I like too many TV shows, but don't have much time to watch them. I enjoy 30 Rock, Modern Family, Parks and Rec, Big Bang Theory, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, American Horror Story, Portlandia, I could go on and on, but I won't. I watched all 7 seasons of TNG on Netflix, just as great as I remembered.
Music! I have eclectic musical tastes. I enjoy folk, jam, funk, jazz, classic rock, classical, only thing I really dislike is pop country. My Pandora rotation includes Regina Spektor, moe., Adele, The Wailin' Jennys, The White Stripes, Mates of State, Eddie From Ohio, Dar Williams, Yonder Mountain String Band, Trampled By Turtles, The Infamous Stringdusters, Kelly Clarkson, Florence + The Machine, The Talking Heads, Old Crow Medicine Show, Garfunkel and Oates, Simon & Garfunkel, George Clinton, The Ragbirds, Grateful Dead, Phish, The Beatles, The Who, The Doors, Björk, Blind Melon, Fugees, Erykah Badu, Puccini, Verdi, Schubert...I love me some music!
I like to cook and eat all kinds of foods, especially Indian and Thai. I'm vegan, but I enjoy creating both vegetable-centric and "meat-and-potatoes" type dishes at home, comfort foods can be plant-based too! Things I commonly make at home are vegan mac n cheeze (n beans, broccoli, kale, whatever I feel like tossing in), mashed potatoes and mushroom gravy, chili and cornbread, veggie stirfry, chana masala, squash curry, anything with peanut sauce, soups of all kinds, lots of kale!
You do interesting stuff.
You describe yourself as liberal.
You love animals.
You want to get together for coffee, a bike ride, a hike, a show, some drinks, Thai food, or anything else that sounds fun.
You are interested in or currently participating in alternative relationship structures.
You want to discuss kinky play.
You shouldn't message me if
You're a guy looking for a quick hookup, I'm not interested.
You can't come up with anything better than "Hi, how are you?" as an opening message.
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