badgrrlgonegood
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My self-summary
The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments. ॐ

from the book The Invitation
What I’m doing with my life
I try to follow a zen mentality of no expectations = no disappointment and believe that most dating situations have potential for greatness or failure. I'm honest and you should appreciate that-it's more valuable than most realize.
I’m really good at
I know my worth and have a lot of strengths. I'm super fucking funny, but you won't know until we've had a conversation
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Boring!
The six things I could never do without
Chocolate and peanut butter
Coffee
Massages
Exercise
Passport
gotta have a goal
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Altruism and honesty seem rare now. Let's go with that
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm pretty much over the hangover thing and the last time I 420'd was 1998. I like Netflix documentaries. Sometimes I try new restaurants and get fancy cocktails...just not to get shitcan wasted; I have tap dancing class on Saturday mornings. Priorities.
You should message me if
You don't start a conversation with:

"Hey"
"Hey babe"
"What's up"
"You're hot"
"Yummy"

I can't build on that sort of introduction. Thank you for understanding.
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